Need some words of encouragement

[deleted] · 2018-01-24T03:38:54+00:00

Don’t feel bad. You know what you want. It’s like when people truly want to lose weight. When they want it bad enough they say “no” to foods that make us overweight. You got this. Saying good bye to him is just one step closer to you having what you want.

Aragorns-Wifey · 2018-01-24T03:23:36+00:00

Be the wife you want to be.

girlwithabike · 2018-01-24T13:19:08+00:00

I'm unclear why you ended things with a great guy who you had a connection with? And on the right track to what? You ask for encouragement but you dont actually say what you are looking for or trying to accomplish. It leaves me wondering what your interpretation of RPW/RP theory actually is.

ThatSarawakianChick · 2018-01-24T05:35:31+00:00

Your past is behind you and there are miles ahead. Forget hooking up and focus on your career.

StepfordInTexas · 2018-01-25T03:11:32+00:00

Allow yourself to feel all of your feelings. Sex for women is a bonding experience and you’ve broken that bond by terminating the relationship. Endings are always a little sad.

[deleted] · 2018-01-25T04:33:21+00:00

You are on your first step to the right track and this random internet stranger is proud of you!! It takes a lot of insight and self discipline to leave an unhealthy situation when you have a deep emotional connection to it. You’ve shown that you have those qualities and I think you will thrive in the self improvement world. Welcome to the red pill, it’s bitter but it’s worth it. You’ll see there’s so much better stuff out there than what society has taught us to accept. :)

ThatSarawakianChick · 2018-01-25T07:11:01+00:00

Breaking up with someone that isn't good for you is indeed the first step on a long, long road to finally being able to love and respect yourself again.

So congrats on achieveing that! Many women AND men just stay in awful relationships for decades and it eats away at their souls. You didn't do that, so you deserve some applause for figuring out what wasn't working.

But remember, it's only the first step. And it's a big step.

However, the next steps are even harder, and they involve changing your attitudes and your habits - looking at life and relationships in a different way. If you're on this subreddit, then in theory you want a LONG LASTING serious relationship with a man who you respect, a man who has substance. And the only way to get that is to transform YOURSELF into someone who is worthy, someone helpful, kind, feminine, and an overall asset to someone's life, not just a 'fun' girl or someone who trades sex for attention. That strategy, as you have learned, does not work for building serious relationships. You have to understand it, believe it, and believe in yourself that you are capable of change.

I wish you all the best, and good luck in vetting future mates. It will be difficult. I highly recommend looking into older men, at least 5 years your senior.

sonyara · 2018-02-02T08:26:05+00:00

I went through the same things recently. Cut it off. Feel stupid and gross for wasting myself. I don't really know what to do now, except work on my goals.

Title	Need some words of encouragement
Author	ThatSarawakianChick
Upvotes	16
Comments	20
Date	January 24, 2018 3:12 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7sk7ls/need_some_words_of_encouragement/
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