I know that a lot of RP advice is for how to behave once you are in a relationship, but how do I behave / respond to a guy that is not yet my boyfriend ?

ElfFey · 2018-03-03T12:15:00+00:00

Girl are you for real? Run away from this. He's a player making you wonder about his intentions towards you. You're a virgin wondering if you should be more RP towards him. He has you eating out of the palm of his hand, wondering what to do with yourself and how to get him to like you when he's not even trying to be your boyfriend. This is a game and he is winning.

lovelyartemis · 2018-03-03T15:49:09+00:00

Read every post in here about how women become plates, and do the opposite. It’s very easy for women to try and give sex and the girlfriend benefits now to lock down commitment later but it usually backfires. Do not sleep with him unless you are exclusive.

Jikira · 2018-03-03T16:23:06+00:00

Because I don't know the guy or you, but if I did I would tell you to run away.

he has never had a girlfriend and is definitely the player type.

I don't know how old you are, and am I right for assuming that your primary goal is to have one really good stable relationship that will end in marriage. If yes, then you are swimming in murky water IMO. If you are looking for marriage why would you pursue a guy who isn't? but anyways I can go on and on about how this is a bad idea, so here's a bit of advice.

how do I behave in courtship, nonchalant and hard to get?

signs... I am guessing you trying to play the hard to get game, so you feel like a challenge and since you are a challenge he will drop everything, just to pursue you. In other words, you are trying to behave in a way that will make him believe you are a unicorn and will then want to wife you up. Over on the male sub, they preach there are no unicorns(meaning: you will never find the one/perfect). I, on the other hand, see that statement as a reminder that I am not a unicorn, that my boyfriend will always be able to replace me.

When I was pursuing guys I kept that in mind when I was interested in a guy I made it clear that I was interested, but I also made it clear that if I am interested in you it is as a potential husband(i did this by simply being more of a girlfriend everytime they offer commitment)...nothing else. If you are going to pursue a guy who you describe as a player. You gotta be strong especially if you are this attracted to him. Look at his actions and not his words, he might say anything to get in your pants.

tldr: Don't play games! Show you are interested, but keep sex under lock and key. Don't listen to his words watch his action. If he pursues you show him your feminine charm. If he doesn't try to find a guy who aligns with your vision of the future rather than changes someone else's. Good Luck

[deleted] · 2018-03-03T16:26:30+00:00

I think you should push and pull. Dont show too heavy interest as he will think he has you so he no longer has to work and adds u to his pile of woman chasing after him. But also you can flirt (not be easy) just playfully. Dont show too little interest as he will just give up - as u stated u ignored him for quite some time and he is trying again. How do u know he is a player and what his intentions are by contacting you again?

I say if he asks, go out on a date. It wont hurt. See how the vibe is between you two and go from there :)

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Title	I know that a lot of RP advice is for how to behave once you are in a relationship, but how do I behave / respond to a guy that is not yet my boyfriend ?
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Upvotes	7
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Date	March 3, 2018 5:38 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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