He wants to make homemade porn

reggie-hammond · 2018-03-31T03:48:20+00:00

If you're first apprehension is about your physical appearance, you're simply not looking at this in the appropriate fashion. Your predominant consideration should be your privacy and dignity. Neither of which you will be able to protect if this footage ever gets into the wrong hands. Spoiler alert: just assume this footage will get into the wrong hands.

On a tangent, if your husband even debates this topic, he's either somewhat dense and/or not very thoughtful about your own best interests.

Lastly, don't kid yourself. Someone is always willing to watch someone else have sex.

TheRedKeepx · 2018-03-31T02:41:38+00:00

Hell no..the internet is forever. What do you think it would do to your smv in your search for future partners or if you'd like to find a quality man and settle down? This would be a huge red flag. Please no.

Aragorns-Wifey · 2018-03-31T03:40:23+00:00

Holy cow no

KittenLoves_ · 2018-03-31T02:59:04+00:00

If the idea of making porn interests you outside the risks, then eliminate the risks - hide your face (film without it in frame, use masks, blur, etc) and any identifying features like tattoos or birthmarks.

If the idea of making porn doesn't interest you, then tell him that, along with everything you've just written here. You could also offer to make videos that will stay just between the two of you, if you're willing to compromise and trust that he wouldn't use these to post online.

Edit: there are much safer ways than others, as well. I wouldn't post anything on reddit, especially not popular subs like gonewild, because you are likely to get a lot of views. An amateur video on pornhub or other porn site, however, is only likely to get a few thousand views. Which may seem like a big number, but contrast, say, 6k views on a porn site (a pretty high upper limit for something truly amateur and not with extremely beautiful people) vs possibly hundreds of thousands if a post gets popular on reddit. I would also look into things like wearing wigs, to further obscure your identity. That being said - if this actually does interest you, I wouldn't let insecurity stop you from pursuing it. Every body type is represented in amateur porn, and there's a "market" for it, too. Just remember, if your husband finds you attractive, it's unlikely he's the only man (or woman) in the world to feel the same.

pearlsandstilettos · 2018-03-31T08:16:34+00:00

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2018-03-31T04:06:57+00:00

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2018-03-31T03:00:21+00:00

Express your concerns about this impact your career if it were to get out. However, to avoid bursting his bubble completely I’d say counter his request by asking if he has any other kinks he would like to explore or share your own.

midnightspecial99 · 2018-03-31T04:37:20+00:00

A mask or camera angles that hide your face should be mandatory for career reasons.

2018-04-02T12:22:55+00:00

You may already have decided what to do but after seeing all the hate towards your man, I wanted to add my experience.

My husband has pictures of me, both digital and hard copies. He's the only man who does. Waaaaaay back in the early days of our relationship we made a couple videos (for personal use not for sharing). We were around your husbands age at the time. Many years later and those pictures/videos have never left his hands.

Your husband is not weird or wrong or immature for wanting to make these videos with you. His age is not a guarantee that he's going to take them and show the world. His maleness is not a guarantee that he's going to take them and show the world. And making homemade porn is not the first step to cuckoldry (like, ffs, really people) or a sign of disrespect.

OP I think you know all this but there is quite a bit of moralizing going on in this thread.

If anything, I'd consider that this request may be tied in with his recent job loss. Perhaps this is how he's coping.

pearlsandstilettos · 2018-03-31T11:42:03+00:00

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2018-03-31T17:11:37+00:00

I once had webcam sex with an ex bf. We never showed our faces, and it was fun and thrilling. I think it's better than posting it online, because although someone might record it, it's a bit less likely to stick in the internet forever.

Then about your body, I wouldn't really worry about that, people watch all kinds of porn and also it doesn't really matter what random internwt strangers think. If your husband likes you and your body is enough.

2018-03-31T13:12:19+00:00

If he values you and 'his', why woukd he want to share you with the world? What's next? Sex with a stranger while he watches? Sharing your intimacy devalues you both and the beginning of the end. Do not do it.

peppermint-kiss · 2018-03-31T06:55:46+00:00

Don't be rational about it. Be emotional.

What do you want to do? Do you want to make homemade porn? Would you enjoy it and feel happy that you're doing it? Would you feel good about having done it afterward? (Would it give you anxiety to worry about it hurting your job?)

If you search your heart and the answer is really "yes", that you want to, then go for it. There are things you can do to obscure your identity - blurring or covering your face, for instance - if that's important to you. But if the answer is really "no" or "I'm not sure", then tell your husband that and either don't do it, or wait until you're sure one way or the other.

party_dragon · 2018-03-31T13:07:46+00:00

Shoot porn, watch it, and then decide what you want to do with it? (Delete it, publish it, keep it as private fap material, ...)

pearlsandstilettos · 2018-03-31T05:12:06+00:00

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KittenLoves_ · 2018-03-31T03:40:14+00:00

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Title	He wants to make homemade porn
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Date	March 31, 2018 2:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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