Stick to RPW, feel amazing, then descend back to normal habits

browniebarbie · 2021-02-24T14:11:54+00:00

Hi dear,

I think it's important to remember that before being women, we are human. We are human, and it is not only normal but healthy for us to have emotions and reactions.

the principles of RPW help teach us how to manage these emotions, and make more feminine reactions, but ultimately woman are inately reactive, emotional and intuitive humans. We cannot redpill-ourselves into non reactive robots.

You express having slip ups once in a while... My advice to you is another tip on femininity; Ride with the waves, we our oceans. Allow yourself to feel the way you feel, if your emotion was strong enough to cause you to slip up it's because it holds validity. If it doesn't, you know you were just having a bad day, be accepting of that. It will allow you to be less "rigid"

trust that most of the time, you ARE comforting, non-criticizing, etc. I'm sure it is the case! To answer your question more specifically, i have a "Sticker chart" Type calendar on my phone, where i have stickers that represent good days, bad days, peaceful, nervous, etc... Personally i realized i would more anxious and making more 'mistakes' right after having my period.

All of this is shared from my personal experiences of having a partner bully me into being non reactive until i learnt that was not what a real woman was.

Prairiehousewife · 2021-02-24T14:29:20+00:00

I agree with browniebarbie. You can’t fully demand perfection from your behaviour because, above all else, you’re human.

We’re all flawed and will make mistakes daily.

Just make notes, even physical notes in a dairy, stating that you didn’t like how you handled something and will do better next time.

I’m lucky. My husband is VERY easy to submit to. I trust that he’ll always do his best. Even if I’m not happy about a decision, I know he always has my health, safety, and our long term happiness/goals in mind.

Sometimes I’ll make a joke if I catch myself in those sorts of behaviours. Like I’ll give unsolicited advice or be complaining about something arbitrary. I’ll stop myself and go “yuck, what was that about? Look at me yammering on. Sorry love, I’m done now” He sometimes will tell me the advice wasn’t asked for but was good, or if I need to vent I can; but I know better than to fill his head with my worries and troubles.

Writing them down on paper really helps. Reading about what was consuming you the day before can often be an eye opener.

Another thing you can do is if you have any suggestions for the way things are going, worries, or trouble, write them down instead of speaking them. Pick one day a week and go back on your suggestions and concerns. If anything still feels like it’s worth mentioning, you can. Usually just about everything becomes trivial when the day has past.

It’s a good exercise in learning not to speak carelessly. (I don’t know if you’re Christian, but the bible warns of a careless tongue. We will answer for every careless word we speak)

Sorry, that was quite long winded. Apparently I’m a big fan of writing things down....

anothergoodbook · 2021-02-24T16:54:50+00:00

I get where you are coming from. I personally will get all excited and into being the perfect Laura Doyle wife. And then I start to forgot. I’ve been trying to read a few minutes every morning to remind myself of what I’d like to do and be. No I can’t be perfect. But I’d like a lasting change and not just slip back into old habits. I’d like my husband to be able to rely on me being respectful not have a wishy washy wife who flips depending on how I feel daily. So my morning routine now consists of surrendering my day in prayer (you could meditate or just talk to the universe if thats better for you) and read a couple minutes of a marriage book. I have added Bible reading in there also, but again that may not be your thing. I have found it keeps me centered on who I would like to grow into.

spotted_kat · 2021-02-26T01:49:39+00:00

I like to think of it like a skill. Skills take time to shape and develop. Reading a good cook book doesn’t make you a good chef. You have to practice, give yourself feedback, tweak!

Title	Stick to RPW, feel amazing, then descend back to normal habits
Author	rpwanonymous
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	February 24, 2021 8:46 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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