Found this part from "Models Attract Women Through Honesty" by Mark Manson (pp. 31) to be quite enlightening. So I thought I'd share it with you as a reminder/ new info for some.

"Overcoming neediness is not about learning what to say or new things to do. Overcoming your neediness comes through a change in your mindset, your self-perception, and your self-respect. It's as simple as just changing your mind about women.

Take a moment to consider...

  • ...That before meeting a woman, instead of worrying whether or not she will like you, you could wonder if you will like her.
  • ...That instead of feeling the need to impress her, you could wonder if she impresses you.
  • ...That instead of sitting there silently wondering what to say next to make her like you, you could sit there silently wondering what she will say to make you like her.
  • ...That instead of waiting around for her to call, you could find something else to do while she waits for your call.
  • ...That instead of worrying if you’re tall enough or good-looking enough or skinny enough, you could decide whether they’re too superficial to recognize your great qualities.
  • ...That instead of trying to come up with the perfect date, you could decide that a woman who really likes you for you doesn’t need a perfect date.
  • ...That instead of looking for a conversation she’ll enjoy, you could talk about something you enjoy and see if she takes interest.
  • ...That instead of looking for her approval, you could decide whether or not to give yours.
  • ...That instead of getting upset about why she doesn’t want to be with you, you could decide that it means you probably wouldn’t want to be with her.

This may all sound a bit selfish. But, in fact, it’s called having strong boundaries and high self-esteem. It’s called being non-needy and an attractive man.

Only making time for people who make time for you. Only being interested in dating people who are interested in dating you. Worrying about what will make you happy instead of what will make someone else happy. Looking for a person who meets your needs instead of trying to always meet theirs. Changing yourself to become who you want to be, not what you think women want you to be.

Because, ironically, that is what women want you to be: a man who wants to be who he wants to be. "