Plate is grieving over death of friend

creating_my_life · 2016-10-05T00:19:58+00:00

I never knew the friend.

This may come off as harsh, but you don't give a fuck. Lots of people die all the time, and you don't know a lot of them. Yes, your plate lost a friend, you didn't. Acknowledge it, offer your condolences, then move on.

Be her escape. Be her rock. Don't do a damn thing different than the day before the friend died.

This isn't your weight to carry.

NICOLAWRITES · 2016-10-05T01:34:18+00:00

Go on to the next plate, you don't know the dead friend and you aren't in LTR.

TheRedStoic · 2016-10-05T03:16:24+00:00

Not your burden.

Yeah give her a week off, maybe two or even a month.

After that, evaluate, is she behaving? Yes? Good. No? Next. This isn't your problem. The only promised rule of life is loss. Focus on you.

dr_warlock · 2016-10-05T05:57:22+00:00

Stay away from her for now. Unlike women who leave because you look weak, you're leaving because emotions like this in women get in the way of sexual arousal and sexy time. She's gonna try to dump this all on you even though it's not your responsibility. Aint nobody got time for that. When she's done sniffling, she'll be back. Or not. Doesnt matter. Move on.

Yashugan00 · 2016-10-05T06:07:03+00:00

How close was this friend really? Or is that an attention seeking circle-jerk, like an emotional bender. Look at celebrity deaths, suddenly everyone was their best friend, who had such an impact on their lives...

FrameWalker · 2016-10-05T00:28:01+00:00

If you were in an LTR it's pretty clear. Your job is to be a rock. Rocks don't cheer you up. They go on rolling, silently, stoically unmoved by emotional outbursts. Your LTR has had a shit day she can hug you your emotions stay steady. If shes mourning, she'll talk her head off for a bit you will listen for a bit, and then you'll carry on as usual. She'll thank you for getting her out of her funk later.

If it's a plate you skip the listening part. Maybe a few minutes tops and a generic statement and then you leave her with her own family and friends. You carry on as usual.

Cheering them up, going out of your way will kill attraction.

Title	Plate is grieving over death of friend
Author	Armydude19
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	October 5, 2016 12:09 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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