She's leaving

-Solitude-- · 2021-05-16T02:34:05+00:00

People notoriously have difficulties getting out of toxic or abusive relationships. Chances are if you feel you want her to stay even when you recognize the negative effects she has on your wellbeing, you feel that way because she found a way to make you feel that way. A way to manipulate you into feeling that way. And it stands to reason that if you'd have trouble getting up and leaving on your own, you'd have just as much trouble coming to terms with her leaving. To say the very least, it never feels good to be the one who's getting left behind.

Give it a few days, though. Maybe a few weeks. Your subconscious mind will want her back, but your conscious mind will quickly realize how much better your life is without her in it. Once you get a taste of how it feels to be free to do as you please, the last thing you'll want to do will be to spend so much as another second being around her. You might want to pick up a hobby or two if you don't already have one, though, or you might not know what to do with your newly found freedom.

Best wishes.

debanked · 2021-05-16T03:04:21+00:00

Brain chemistry. You're basically trauma bonded. Rational part of brain tells you to gtfo. Brain chemistry says I'm addicted to the shit

Gtfo. Zip up everything electronic and save it. Get rid of everything physical. Read shit about getting over someone, pm me if you want to talk to someone

It takes time, usually half the relationship length, sometimes never fully, sometimes quickly. But your feelings are normal, nothing is wrong with you

unified_masking_tape · 2021-05-16T02:54:48+00:00

"...her kid" is all we needed to read. Glad you're moving on.

Why does this bother me?
- Because women are good at pulling at your heart strings and good intentions.
It shouldn't but it does.
- You were manipulated. In my experience single moms are especially manipulative. Their diminished sexual desirability means they can't lean on their sexuality as much as they used to, so they have to find new strategies. Single mom's will usually throw that really over-the-top overt-but-fake interest at you. "Hey sexy, I'd love you meet you sometime." Like... OK, only stripers talk like that. A normal woman who was genuinely interested in me wouldn't open like that. Though it does work really well for strippers, but only on men who don't know what genuine female attention actually feels like, which is kind of the point. So, yeah, you were manipulated.
Is this normal grief?
- Not for men with lots of other sexual/romantic options.
What is wrong with me?
- Not enough sexual/romantic options.
Why can't I be happy for myself?
- Not enough sexual/romantic options.

Use your newly found free time to hit the gym and lift heavy weights. Do lots of grocery shopping and feed yourself lots of good healthy home-cooked food. When you have even more free time after all that watch some Netflix, enjoy the peace, and work on a hobby.

Enough years of peace, gym, good food, and focusing on your career and you'll have more sexual/romantic options. And honestly the it's not that bad in the mean time.

I know this is MGTOW and I'm probably not supposed to be taking this angle. I can make it more MGTOW though: Once you start doing all the things that build you into a high quality man that women want, you genuinely stop giving a fuck about women because it's so nice just doing all that in perpetuity in isolation. Working out feels good, eating well feels good, working on your hobbies feels good. Sex and female companionship it's really all that much better than those other things, and it comes with so much pain and baggage.

SlainFunicle · 2021-05-16T03:35:30+00:00

I am surprise you think the kid outs here, lol I bet she tells him to tell you and act like she don't know she is going nowhere, I think you should get cameras to document everything while she is there

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2021-05-16T04:03:24+00:00

Dude.

Listen to some good music and go flying over some mountains.

Seriously. Do it.

She has kids???

The reason you feel bad is because it's seen as a blow to you ego, but Damn should uoh be celebrating right now,

Soggytp · 2021-05-16T05:43:48+00:00

I had a short fling with this one girl that I knew was going to be temporary and I knew wasn't going to go anywhere meaningful. She would occasionally do something to make me jealous because I had seen her do it with other guys before me, and when she did it, it did kind of actually make me jealous. I knew objectively I had no feelings for her and I remember thinking it was interesting that I was experiencing these pangs of jealousy. Sometimes it's just in your nature and you just need a little time away from the situation to process it correctly

GAPINGASSH0LES · 2021-05-16T07:16:57+00:00

Cut contact with her completely. Period.

Delete all of your social media or atleast disable it.

Start working out every other day. Work work work and save save save. Focus on yourself

jhooperp · 2021-05-16T09:52:12+00:00

Whatever it is just leave. I know you’ll make many excuses to yourself why you shouldn’t but just do it. In the long run you’ll be happy with yourself for doing it.

nplusultra · 2021-05-16T11:23:27+00:00

It's hard to admit to yourself.

If you are always attracted to the crazy ones your own character does have some scars that wanted that girl in the first place. The attraction for the crazy ones has to come from somewhere.

I thought about that a long time about that my relationships in the past but the right way is to 'heal' those scars for yourself so that you are less attracted to those in the future.

So try to live for yourself, improve yourself. Avoid relationships at least for a while and GYOW. :-)

nigelh · 2021-05-16T11:27:58+00:00

It bothers you because you've been taught to let it bother you.
Take control of yourself now or you're easy pickings for the next plantation-bait bitch that walks into your life.

Swedishplumber21 · 2021-05-16T10:55:28+00:00

Find a younger hotter chick with a bigger rack and no kid

evergreen35 · 2021-05-16T14:17:26+00:00

Yes its normal. Just posted this elsewhere: https://youtu.be/a23TL0sjEws

Title	She's leaving
Author	FreshErich
Upvotes	21
Comments	14
Date	May 16, 2021 2:13 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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