I have been seeing a girl since August 2020, I am young and was stupid in the early days. I still didnt believe in red pill concepts and got screwed and she sort of broke up with me in November 2020.

There I started picking myself up and after failing with other women being too much of a nice guy and being hurt I completely shifted my perspective to red pill concepts.

Since then, I started building my rotation. I am dating one woman, I have sort of a FWB arrangement with other and then wanting to add one more to my rotation now that I knew more about game I messaged this woman I am telling the prior paragraph that broke up with me for being too needy and beta.

I tried re-framing it since the start, by acting like I didnt care much, talking about other women and letting her initiate all contact. When hanging out with her acting this way and fucking her really well. Basically trying to re-frame myself and making her chase me.

I was in a way successful, she was doing all the initiating, she kept messaging me trying to hang out and acted completely different towards me.

Then I think I screwed up, but not sure in what.

Last friday I messaged her while her being at a friends house and she completely ignored me. She got in my head and I double texted monday, she told me she was so sorry that she missed my message and she potentially had covid, that she felt horribly about it bla bla. I thought whatever, I didnt care much and stopped thinking about it. Then, yesterday I checked her instagram profile and noticed she had removed me from her close friends list and I took it as a sign of low interest following the ghosting. She was very avoidant in the past, and my minimal show of interest would make her pull back so I figured I screwed something up and decided to break it up.

I sent her a short message right there saying this "Hey, just wanted to tell you that I want to stop seeing you, I feel its stuck. It's not what I am looking for. I dont like games so I prefer breaking up what we had"

She sent a long message saying that she deeply cared for me, that she is so sorry about everything, that I could hit her up again, that she knows she screwed up bla bla.

I completely ignored the message and an hour later she messaged me a 3 minute voice note saying that she thought that I was mad because she posted in her close friends list that she kissed a guy, that she hoped I could forgive her that she liked me a lot.

This is what I was looking for, she showing interest and shocking her to be able to change my frame. I need help now crafting how to follow it up. It's the opportunity I want to be able to let her know that 1) I am not in love with her and she isnt the one "controlling" me 2)that I can walk away any moment.

I sort of crushed her ego and anticipated that she might break up with me based off all those previous actions and now I have her where I want her.

How would you proceed from here? I really don't know what to do, because I like her. I am just having trouble managing her because she is complicated. Ideally now she comes clean to what she feels about me and I establish my outcome independent frame while raising her attraction to me.

I was thinking of first telling her that she is not the only one I am seeing and that "she kissed a guy" bothers me little. I really don't know what she wants with me now, ideally I really want a sort of open relationship instead of just having sex but not sure how to say it.

Is it better to talk through text or would you tell her that I don't want to talk through text and would like to talk this in person.

I am not sure how to proceed.

Thanks for reading and appreciate your replies,

M