Hello guys,

I have been in a LTR for the past 5 years (I'm 26), it went really great for the first 4 years. After that my LTR started to get comfortable body-wise and gained some weight. For the past couple of months I tried to motivate and disciple her to do more sports (like I do) and to eat healthier. It feels like convincing a child that ice cream is bad.

However, things do not improve. She still sees herself as a victim and clearly disrespected me last week. Since then, we have no contact at all (she wrote some very long messages how she feels and how she's sorry for her behavior). I did not respond. For the last couple weeks, it feels like wasting time whenever I am with her. It feels like the relationship is dead, I am constantly thinking of other girls while fucking her.

I also know that this was my fault, since I got a bit "soft" due to stress of graduating and taking my first job the last 2 years. Other than that, I am in a great shape body-wise, financially and socially. Surely I won't have any issues meeting new girls.

This weekend has been great, I had a lot of fun meeting friends. I feel like being single again and it makes me very happy.

I never had a relationship this long and have no experience how to end this gracefully.

Do you guys have any idea?