So this girl was my first girlfriend. Met at school, and went out with her and I ended up breaking up with her halfway through uni. Anyways since breaking up I have had quite a few one night stands, few plates and 1 relationship lasting around 12 months. Most were objectively fitter, but I ended most due to irrationality or being high maintenance. I found TRP somewhere along the line, taught me a few lessons but really just enabled me to better articulate what I already innately knew.

So I am now seeing my ex again, but more because she is pretty chill to hang out with, isn't crazy, someone to do cool things with and sex is an added bonus. She also is doctor doesn't subscribe to all that SJW, feminist idea pathogens that are so pervasive these days. Despite some pushes from friends we haven't actually discussed what we are but I have noticed she has now paused (but not deleted) her dating apps.

Now I'm at the stage where I am actually considering going back out with her but it is a big decision as morally I'm not the type of guy who can monkey bar and I don't want to break her heart again.

However there are a few things that I need to get straight before I commit to anything.

  1. She is on bigger end of normal (size 12). I generally have a preference for more athletic physiques and whilst she is super beautiful facially her physique is borderline for me. I'm gonna be honest with her about this. (Unless any of you guys massively advise against)

  2. I've noticed that with a male mutual friend with high SMV she more frequently engages in light physical contact (arm touches) and has mentioned to me several times that he is really funny. He isn't boring but he definitely isn't the funniest out of our mutual friends and she rarely makes these comments about others. Now everytime I see this it just reminds me of Kino and the process I ( still consciously) go through when I am trying to escalate with plates. I don't feel threatened as my RMV is higher and with SMV being in the same ballpark depending on a chicks preferences (I'm taller, but he is better built).

Not sure if relevant but c.12 months ago mutual guy friends commented to me that she was flirty with him but thought it was to try and get my attention as she kept looking over. I did notice flirting but really didn't bother and played it cool.

Hesitant to bring the second point up as I don't feel threatened, it comes off as a bit beta, still have not discussed ground rules and it may just be a covert ploy to get me to commit. However at the same time I never engage in light touches etc unless I am trying escalate so in that respect I do find it slightly disrespectful.

What do you guys think?