I'm a weak, weak man.

failingtheturingtest · 2016-11-22T02:55:46+00:00

Read the sidebar.
It takes time. Focus on one or two things at once.
This is the painful thing, it doesn't get better or easier. YOU have to get STRONGER.
You are upset, but you are allowing yourself to be upset. Think what it will take to be happy with yourself.
Would having great abs make you feel better? GREAT, then read up about proper nutrition, do some proper lifting and get on that.
What about moving forward in your career? PERFECT, then what does it take for someone to move up a rung in your field? Do that. If you can't move forward where you are, look at where you need to be instead.
Read the Sidebar.
Forget about her. Remove every reminder of her from your life. She wasn't the one for you. She isn't the one for anyone. She is a reminder of how you let yourself get so dependent that you ended up in this state. You don't want to feel this way again? THEN DON'T LET YOURSELF GET IN THAT STATE AGAIN.
READ THE SIDEBAR!
You've started a very long, very challenging path. You aren't going to feel great next week, or the week after. But you can feel like you are progressing, like you are moving toward something that is YOURS.
READ THE FUCKING SIDEBAR!!
Get a mission. You're now exercising regularly (and properly), you've got your diet in check, and you're doing the right things at work. So look for some long term goals. Something that you know will give you the warm fuzzies, and anyone who ever doubted you would prefer to have their man-berries stepped on than have to be reminded how YOU of all people achieved that shit ON YOUR OWN!

Also, read the sidebar.

Molestory · 2016-11-22T03:37:23+00:00

Almost everyone here has experienced your story or something similar to it. That's why they are here. It's why you are here.

Not everyone stays. Some give up. I hope you stay. You deserve better. The capacity to be hurt is the depth of our humanity. The more she hurt you the better you are as a human being.

Stay here learn and practise what you learn and fuck that bitch.

coffee_34 · 2016-11-22T04:53:24+00:00

Dude, the answer isn't to magically stop being a whiney bitch. You have to build up to it.

The first step is to start respecting yourself.

The second step is to make a plan and follow through with your new life.

She's probably fucking some dudes that are better than you, just being honest.

You know it too.

So what do you do about it? What does the MAN living inside of you want to say to that?

"FUCK THAT," he says. "I'm going to be a better man, enjoy my life, and go talk to lots of beautiful girls!"

By the way, I doubt she's a 10. You have an unhealthy view of her because you're in a bad spot.

Get that pussy off the pedestal and move on.

redpill_disciple · 2016-11-22T05:21:43+00:00

I want you to make a list of the things you want to do. This could be establishing a gym routine, going back to school, making new friends etc...

These are your end goals. Each end goal will have a series of steps that will help you reach your goal.

Using the above examples it could look like this:

Gym 1) Find a gym with a reasonable price and distance from work or your apartment. 2) Look up beginner to intermediate workout programs 3) Read up on proper nutrition and supplements on examine.com 4) Get 8 hours of sleep a night 5) Track your food using the myfitnesspal app

School 1) Look up a local community college near you 2) Research state and federal grants for low income students 3) Register as a student at the community college 4) Meet with the school guidance councilor 5) Apply for those grants 6) Attend classes

Friends 1) Lookup a local kickball league 2) Go to meetup.com for groups that participate in a hobby you like 3) Join a club at the community college.

The point is to break up those giant goals into simple little steps.

Sepean · 2016-11-22T10:37:46+00:00

Just do stuff.

Begin going to the gym 3 times per week, doing 5x5 Stronglifts. And read a couple of pages of RP sidebar material every day. Book of Pook, No More Mr. Nice Guy, When I Say No I Feel Guilty, Day Bang, stuff like that.

Just do that. Do a few things that improve your life every day.

In a week or two, you'll read up on diet and begin counting calories.

A few weeks after that, you're going to begin on something else that also improves your life.

It's just little stuff, small steps. But keep on doing them, always take small steps towards getting better, find new ways to improve and begin on that too, and one day you'll be awesome.

Don't try to fix your motivation or feel awesome inside first. Just begin doing, small steps. You'll get better at taking steps, you'll see results that will motivate you, and most importantly you'll build discipline and habit, and that's where the real mojo is at.

Nobody became awesome be reading some magical words or something suddenly clicking in their heads. They just began doing stuff that made them better, slowly training their bodies and especially their brains until they became awesome. This is no different than learning any other skill, you don't start out great, it takes practice.

So stop worrying about how lousy you feel or how you're a whiny bitch. Begin lifting and reading. Next week, find something more to begin getting better at. Next week, another thing. Keep on taking small steps, and one day the whiny bitch will just be gone.

[deleted] · 2016-11-22T03:43:18+00:00

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Title	I'm a weak, weak man.
Author	TipsyLeo
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	November 22, 2016 2:43 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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