26, just quit my new IT job after two months due to mental health issues. Would appreciate some guidance.

SliceBeast6339 · 2021-06-14T21:52:30+00:00

Well truth be told, you’re 26, aside from any underlying health issues you’ll probably live until 80-90. I used to have very bad depression and I came to the conclusion that I have two options. I either kill myself there and then, which I couldn’t do (not only because of the impact on others but because I knew it’s just a waste of the life I’ve got) or I go properly make it in life. And ‘making’ it can be anything. It’s whatever you can look back on when you’re 90 and go yeah, you know what I’m proud of that I lived the fuck out of my life. I threw away the medication. All of it. Because fuck it all it was doing was keeping me in limbo. Never happy or sad just.. there. I knew it was gonna be hard but one day I decided yeah I need to sort this shit out and stop being a bitch. And that’s what I did. So go take that 12k in savings and put a deposit down on a house, don’t even need to live in it learn about remortgaging if you don’t already and make money off it, or go travelling if money isn’t your concern, make your money work for you. Just remember no one gives a shit, you could pretty much do the most outlandish crazy shit and no one cares by tomorrow. So go find what it is you love, live a little, lift like mad cos that will help your Depression, and meditate. Or just ignore all this. I’m just taking a shit and been thinking about leaving my job so I’m writing to myself more than anything. Good luck

Electrical_Tackle_53 · 2021-06-14T22:27:32+00:00

Therapy.

mwcmu452 · 2021-06-14T23:30:10+00:00

Get your mental health in check. I struggled with depression from age 17 and still do in my 30s. I didn’t know that it was depression, I thought it was normal. Depression will make you act beta that it is not funny. Really I have acted in ways that it is so beta that it is not even funny. It makes you mentally weak, needy and dependent. I had a good career, was in great shape, etc and nothing made me happy. Get professional help if you can. If it happened more than once in your lifetime, it is might be chronic. Get it under control, or it will drive you crazy.

strawsoaker775 · 2021-06-14T21:58:04+00:00

There is no such thing as quarter life crisis. You worked for 2 months and gave up because you did not like it?

It is normal not to like it, but get real. That is how world is. You can find how to be the best in the market for what you do and that can be your agency whatever boring job you do.

And get off the pills man. Those are for women.

makeadolfgreatagain · 2021-06-15T05:39:52+00:00

Look man, the majority of people don't know what they want to do in life. Most of us find a career we think will pay the bills, or maybe we think we'll enjoy it, or both.

Someone mentioned that you only had your job for 2 months before you quit. If that's true, you need to man the fuck up and stop being a baby. Two months isn't shit, ESPECIALLY if this is your first IT job. Few people love their first job or the first few months of a new job, it's part of life. Hell, I was miserable the first 6 months of my current job, but now I have great coworkers and enjoy the work. If I had given up 2 months in I would've been a retard.

I've dealt with the same mental issues my whole life, but they aren't an excuse to not work. No matter how bad shit gets, you need to realize that you have to put money in the bank and food on the table. And until you are doing that, you are handicapping yourself. That means you need to move out and be on your own. At 26 you shouldn't be living with mommy, I know it's a great way to save money but you're a grown ass man. Get a roommate and move out if you need to save money. Get 2 jobs or do whatever, just move out my guy. No woman wants to fuck a dude who still lives at home. Part of your depression and anxiety is because you're still living at home and know you need have your own place. Having mom around to fix your mess isn't gonna help shit.

What you need to do is find a job(s) and make money, and move out on your own ASAP. You need to get hobbies, get outside and lay off the video games completely. Focus on cooking healthy and eating 3 square meals a day.

Most of all, you need to stop being a pussy and realize you are the only one who call pull yourself out of this hole. Listen to motivational videos on YouTube while working out or jogging or while driving around.

Turbokorpo · 2021-06-15T13:42:46+00:00

Change your lifestyle. You are on a lowpoint right now, this is normal. Life is about struggeling. Whenever life hits you hard, remember one thing: Every obstacle is an opportunity to grow. I was in a similar situation once, here is what I did.

Nofap hardmode, I cant and wont explain it to you, just read the benefits and go on full 90 day monk mode.
Therapy ofc, but dont let the medication controll you. 3.cold showers: get out of your comfort zone, some water isnt going to kill you.
Meditation: helps you relax every morning and it will help you handle stress. 5.combat sports: the male body was formed by evolution to be a weapon. Act on hit, master your body, master pain and you will mastee life. 6.positive affirmations every morning: words carry power, your subconsciousnes is a powerful tool, it will make or break you. Words become thoughts, thoughts become actions and actions become habits, which will dictate what you do in life.
Fasting: go for 24/24 eat healthy on one day, dont eat anything on the other, only drink water. It will make you realize that you dont need to stuff yourself like a pig every day.
Get a job: doesnt matter what it is, start part time, staying active is very important and this way you will feel better about yourself, since you wont be a burden to your fam Best of luck my man, you will do it.

sd2iv · 2021-06-17T04:16:13+00:00

Read So Good they can’t ignore you. You need to create your own meaning in your work. Here’s a synopsis.

Mr_Badass · 2021-06-14T20:54:58+00:00

Quarter life crisis. Google it.

Title	26, just quit my new IT job after two months due to mental health issues. Would appreciate some guidance.
Author	cudder17
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Date	June 14, 2021 8:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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