I need dire help from you ladies. I have an ex who I’m talking to that I’ve had a recent fight with that is making me question everything. Please help me I’m so confused as to what to do. I was with this guy for 4 years on and off. I’m 25 (f) and he’s 38 (m). First red flag? Recently I questioned him about his past where he travelled for work trips and went to brothels. It really bugged me as I can’t believe he supported such an industry when he acts all pro- women and stuff. He got really defensive and in retaliation brought up a very personal situation I had told him in confidence about some nude pics I did when I was younger during a bipolar manic episode— pictures which I’m paying off to this day to get off the internet. He’s justification was that he feels left out not having nudes of me because I did it in the past, he even brought up an ex who I got with when I left him one summer before we got back together. Essentially when we fight he will always bring up my ex who he’s madly insecure about or my past behaviours during periods of times where he knows I was literally medically unwell. He says he loves me but sometimes I feel like I’m just getting used for sex and company. I’m also pretty traumatized as at the beginning of our relationship he used to coerce me into anal in uncomfortable places until I finally stood up for myself years after the fact :( and I’ve noticed that my attraction to him has faded as his hygiene habits are bad and his belly has gotten bigger. He doesn’t have any friends or a good relationship with his parents (whom I also still haven’t met). I am currently going to therapy and actively working on myself but I feel like this relationship is something that’s constantly bothering me. Is there anyway this is even salvageable or should I move on and work on myself for a few years? He takes care of me by helping out with groceries, my cc bill, uni work, and driving me around places which I’m grateful for but I’m not sure it’s worth the disrespect I feel.