How did you climb out of rock bottom im 30s?

trpobserver · 2016-12-12T05:01:08+00:00

Heres my suggestion:

Write down the three things you want to change the most.

Write down how you will change them

Read this little book to help guide you through the process, a process which your brain will undoubtedly try to make difficult for you.

miserabilia · 2016-12-12T06:30:03+00:00

Well, my story is quite different from yours. During my early 30's I was a heavy drinker and drug user, sleeping with lots of women and basically feeling like shit all the time. Before that, I was an introvert nerd with social anxiety. Reading the PUA/manosphere authors and others like Robert Greene helped me overcome it, but mostly it was the "fake it til you make it" mindset. I'm sure there are better authors nowadays.

Eventually I dropped the introvert mindset, started being chatty and picking girls. That didn't make me happy. I had plenty of sex, multiple threesomes, and I experimented every drug there is. I dove deep into the psychedelia culture, and after a while started doing coke. Once I tried killing myself by snorting a huge amount of coke. Didn't work. My weight fluctuated wildly (100lbs up and down). I was a complete mess.

At some point I hit rock bottom, after having a weird relationship with a witch. That killed my spirit, but primed me for change. Started ditching vampires and parasites from my life, stopped doing drugs and stayed sober from alcohol for a year. Worked out a bit, not much.

After a couple of years, I was slightly stable, and I was lucky to find a nice girl with similar issues. We helped each other, moved in together, decided we would start a family.

Then the most significant change happened: I found out that atheists are stupid and have no idea what they're talking about. This was the most surprising event of my entire life, as I thought I would never have a religion. I had read up on Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Daniel Dennet, Hitches, Steven Pinker, and others. My mindset was completely free of religious thought, and I thought there was virtue in it.

Then something happened. I'm not sure what it was, but it had something to do with being humble and admitting I was ignorant.

After a short while, I joined a church, started taking lessons on catholicism, and now my family goes to Mass every Sunday. I was amazed that all my years as a Richard Dawkins reader were absolutely shallow, intellectually speaking. People on reddit simply have no idea of what Christianity is.

So, yeah, YMMV, but I'm pretty sure that humility can help everyone. Free your heart from ego and narcissism and try new things. See what works.

Best of luck.

lifeisnotverygood · 2016-12-12T08:01:44+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5hvg7a/if_you_experienced_depression_i_have_a_question/

adventure_fine · 2016-12-12T23:39:57+00:00

If you don't feel that you are improving at the gym, then you need to change up the routine. You need to meet people plain and simple. Your quality of life will improve.

Officer_Dick_Johnson · 2016-12-12T08:03:46+00:00

Look, man… Solutions are simple. Point is are you actually trying?

no hobbies

Gym is a hobby. You want something else? Do something else.

I lift 4 times a week [...]. There are no results.

You are fucking around and not taking this serious. Plain and simple.

Day by day I am losing all interest in everything.

You just marinate in your self-pity. Start doing something with full intensity (lets say gym, hm?) and you'll start lacking time to masturbate in self-pity.

I want company of a woman

Women won't make you feel any better. You have to achieve level of contentment with your life on your own.

Do go out and talk with chicks of course.

No date

Try inline dating, try approaching, try talking with chick. If you aren't trying to gt a date bitches won't magically appear.

[deleted] · 2016-12-12T09:32:57+00:00

You'll have to make some friends, or try to at least. You're missing on social contact which is indispensable for proper mental health functioning. Start by there.

I want company of a woman but it seems incredibly right now.

The moment you meet a woman, you're going to pour all your emotional needs on her. She'll become your friends, your acquaintances, your family, your hobbies, your interests, everything. You're going to scare away any prospect just because of this alone.

Turbosuperfastlaser1 · 2016-12-12T11:36:31+00:00

Stop drugs including alcohol. Do constructive things you like. While doing those are, make friends with people who are "doing the right thing" and stop being a people pleaser. Keep goals ahead and do not compromise those goals. Remember, short term sacrifice is the key in long term reward.

BusterVadge · 2016-12-12T15:10:29+00:00

I lift 4 times a week but I just don't feel like I should be doing it. There are no results.

You are half assing it. Unless you're low-T, which you aren't... You will see and feel results. I'm 42, and I get GREAT results from only 2-3 workouts per week. Try starting strength or stronglifts. I bet you "lift" instead of LIFT.

Day by day I am losing all interest in everything. I want company of a woman but it seems incredibly right now.

Classic depression symptoms. You ought to talk to your doctor about it, maybe you need some meds to get you out of your funk. Lot's of people do and there's no shame in it.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-12-12T23:42:20+00:00

You lift 4 times a week but I'll bet you don't have a specific plan or any goals when you go there. You designed your own "program", a standard bro split of chest, arms, ankles and rear delts, left leg and traps, abs and calfs.

mickey__ · 2017-01-29T22:24:32+00:00

Fuck, i have that T level at 21 y

Title	How did you climb out of rock bottom im 30s?
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