Hello Queens, I recently discovered that my boyfriend watches porn (surprise surprise). I asked him out of curiosity and, even though I thought the answer might be yes, I was still a bit shocked when he said that he did.

He said on average that he only watched it about once a week when we are too busy (or just don't want) to have sex. He then asked how I felt about it. I told him I was honestly embarrassed to learn that when we're too busy for sex he'll masturbate to porn, and that I felt bad that he orgasms by looking at other women.

Because of my reaction he said he will no longer watch porn. I told him I am not sure that I want him to stop (I was honestly just still processing) but he said that he wants to be respectful of my feelings and would never want to do something that makes me feel bad. I was relieved when he said this but for some reason I keep feeling guilty that he's stopping because of me. Pre-FDS I didn't see anything wrong with porn ( I never watched it anyway) but since learning about how exploitive and criminal the industry is I feel disgusted by it, while, at the same time, I feel guilty because of the libfem ideals that I am still trying to unlearn. Any advice? Thank you!