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| 48 | 63 year old scrote with 38 year old woman expecting a 7th child together 🤢🤢. Good luck sis!She pretended to be Spanish; not a Latina. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Can you DM me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:51 PM |
| 3 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Late twenties. He told me he really liked me and cared for me and was afraid of fucking it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?He told me he was open to me putting a finger on his ass during sex if it was something I really wanted to try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:50 AM |
| 0 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Yeah. Actually, he asked me to consider being on a relationship with him before we had even kissed. I had to tell him, that yes, we could start a relationship before he even kissed me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:44 AM |
| -10 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?Because I'm feeling insecure. Because even if his behaviour has been impeccable it still bothers me. It may be a 'me' issue, but I need to know if it's something I can get over or I'll need to break up eventually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?A little over 4 months. Before that, we got to know each other as friends for a year and a half. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?He was speaking about his ex, not me. He hasn't ever pushed or made a suggestion about having anal sex with me. On the contrary, everytime I bring it up he reminds me it's not on the table. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:17 AM |
| -2 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I asked him. It's something I think I'd like to know from every partner. I also asked my ex but thankfully he was like 'ewww, no'. I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:08 AM |
| -5 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I asked him. It's something I think I'd like to know from every partner. I also asked my ex but thankfully he was like 'ewww, no'. I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:07 AM |
| -14 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:07 AM |
| -16 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:06 AM |
| -2 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:05 AM |
| -4 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:05 AM |
| -7 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:04 AM |
| -5 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:04 AM |
| 25 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I think he was referring to the G spot. According to him, it's not as easy to stimulate it vaginally if you don't have a short dick. I've never let him know how much I hate porn. I brought it up once after seeing a TV series that talked about it, and he told me that he had never understood the appeal of it and had never watched it frequently. He knew I'm a feminist but a lot of feminists are pro-porn, even in Europe. So I don't know if he lied to me or not, I tried my best to discover the truth.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 08:49 AM |
| 77 | Can a man that has done anal be a HVM?I asked him. It's something I think I'd like to know from every partner. I also asked my ex but thankfully he was like 'ewww, no'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 08:36 AM |
| 12 | Anal sex- to try or not to try?I don't think he's a HVM if he wants to do anal sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:52 AM |
| 5 | Actions don't lie, how does he react in these situations?This is gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 01:01 PM |
| 1 | This is absolutely domestic abuse and he should be in fucking jail. I'm outragedAre you describing me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:05 AM |
| 72 | I’m sick of pick me articles claiming their husbands infidelity made their relationship ‘stronger’Beyoncé. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 04:38 PM |
| 10 | Unique LDR, accidentally caught feelings for the wrong guy, how can I forgive myself and move on fast??Virginity is a social construct. You didn’t actually lose anything. You gained an experience. | /r/askFDS | 28/04/21 05:34 AM |
| 18 | Four stages of denial, aka "you should have CoMmUniCaTeD"This should be in the handbook. Where is it from? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:28 AM |
| 37 | Time to focus on me after breakupI feel you. My father always said not to have a BF until I was at least 30. I used to think that he was mad, but now I regret not listening to him and being in a super serious relationship when I was only 19 that lasted 7 years. How old are you now and how old were you when you started dating? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 08:26 AM |
| 54 | If a man is not going down on you for AS LONG AS IT TAKES then he ain’t worth shitIs he getting an orgasm without oral sex? Are you getting an orgasm without oral sex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 07:23 AM |
| 5 | "Women don't orgasm during sex because female sexuality is more complicated." If this is true then it follows that women have a hard time orgasming during masturbation as well. How true is that🤔?I don't have a history of bad sex. I have a history of my body rebelling against me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 02:12 PM |
| 13 | "Women don't orgasm during sex because female sexuality is more complicated." If this is true then it follows that women have a hard time orgasming during masturbation as well. How true is that🤔?In my personal experience, my sexuality as a woman has been very complicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 10:07 AM |
| 21 | The nest post reminded me of this gem where a woman finds her husband's cumrags and thousands of piss bottlesThis is the most disgusting thing I've ever read. What did people tell him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 09:50 AM |
| 9 | "Women don't orgasm during sex because female sexuality is more complicated." If this is true then it follows that women have a hard time orgasming during masturbation as well. How true is that🤔?I do think that female sexuality is more complicated but THAT IS NOT A EXCUSE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 09:48 AM |
| 44 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?OMFG, that it's not only rape, it is also LITERAL TORTURE. To deprive someone of sleep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 09:21 PM |
| 9 | I love being tall. There I said it.I'm 5' 10.5" and I'm still trying to make my peace with it. I love men that are 6' 5" or taller (my ex was 6' 5"), but in my country that means 99th percentile. On the other hand, I'm also in the 99th percentile. I wish I could find shorter men attractive, but I don't. One positive thing is that I feel less afraid when I'm alone at night that if I were 5' 2". It may very well be a false sense of security, but still. Also, I can gain 10 pounds and not change the size of my clothes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 09:17 PM |
| 22 | I can’t and won’t accept that 32% of women who run experience breast ligament pain and possible permanent injury.My everyday bras are all Ewa Michalak. Shame she doesn't make a sports bra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:33 PM |
| 1 | I can’t and won’t accept that 32% of women who run experience breast ligament pain and possible permanent injury.Reddit.com/r/abrathatfits I like the Panache, Empreinte or Shock Absorber sports bra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 08:33 PM |
| 9 | What to put in a post-nup before becoming SAHMI know this is not the advice you asked for, but don't become a SAHM. It's too much of a risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:07 AM |
| 10 | Using movies to screen?I didn't know there was a movie. I looooooooved the book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:01 AM |
| 27 | Came across this fantastic picture of Frederik, the Crown Prince of Denmark, running behind his future wife Mary, who was a “commoner” at the time.He is super unfaithful to her. It's such a shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 06:31 AM |
| 4 | No real man will ask about how much you make right off the bat.How do you apply this if you usually dress really expensive? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 07:55 AM |
| 34 | And hobbies you’ve picked up as you’ve leveled up?Fencing, archery, horseback riding. I want to try parachuting and how to fly planes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Glad my tiktok shows me stuff like this. The comment section was also filled with supportive girls who all agreed!Do you have any recommendations of which one to use? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 09:11 AM |
| 11 | Glad my tiktok shows me stuff like this. The comment section was also filled with supportive girls who all agreed!Thank you so much! That's so kind of you! Where do you meet them? Are you rich yourself? How attractive are you that you can get billionaires interested in you? Do you study/work or is dating billionaires a full time job? Roughly, what age are you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 11:35 PM |
| 38 | I unknowingly gave my bf chlamydia and now my relationship is on the rocks .Honestly, I would be beyond pissed if my BF gave me chlamydia. I would feel he doesn't take his health or my health seriously. Why didn't you get tested too when he did? | /r/askFDS | 10/03/21 11:11 PM |
| 287 | Glad my tiktok shows me stuff like this. The comment section was also filled with supportive girls who all agreed!Do not date poor men, but also, millionaires will love bomb you, try to control you with money, and financially control you/abuse you so you can't leave when they mentally or physically abuse you. Don't believe that because he is rich he is a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 11:05 PM |
| 8 | Glad my tiktok shows me stuff like this. The comment section was also filled with supportive girls who all agreed!You should open a YouTube channel, or give private lessons. I know I would pay for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 11:03 PM |
| 6 | Applying FDS "sex strategy" when I physically cannot/ have never had an orgasm?Oh, yeah, I'm very frustrated with toys not working for me. The magic wand doesn't work either. I've been seen two sexologist and been to pelvic floor rehabilitation, in case it had something to do with it, to no avail. Getting to orgasm was pretty awful for me, cause I got bored and felt I was wasting too much time, and also felt guilty about how tired and bored he must felt. I enjoyed the orgasm itself a lot but getting there was awful. Obviously I didn't get to orgasm a lot, because of time c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:58 PM |
| 4 | Applying FDS "sex strategy" when I physically cannot/ have never had an orgasm?I can orgasm but it takes a lot of time, more with a partner than alone. My ex used to give me oral sex for 2-3 hours until I had an orgasm. He was truly a trooper. I tried a LOT of vibrators and toys (Womanizer, Satisfier, Lelo Sona) and none worked. Only his tongue or my fingers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:57 PM |
| 12 | I wonder if he texted her back yetThank you. Do you have a link for that 4%? I would love to have facts to back it up when someone asks why I don't do ONS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 09:46 AM |
| 32 | My current bf surprised me by taking a 6 month long course in photography and editing on top of working 90 hour weeks!Honestly, I think that doing this while working 90 hours a week is far more than the minimum. Congrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 12:04 AM |
| 46 | These middle aged men are dating teenagers, disgusting 🤢. They admit they do it because they're easier to manipulateHonestly, at least he doesn't date them. I dated a 30 year old man as a 19 year old teen for almost 7 years and I wish he would have fucked me and left me alone. The way that relationship hindered me and stunted my mental and profesional growth is no joke. They are both absolutely disgusting and pedophiles, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 12:01 AM |
| 30 | Got a text from an unsaved number just to realize it was a guy I met once on a dating app but I ghosted him bc I knew he just wanted sex. He messaged me today and I’m just proud of my growth and not tolerating bs anymore ! I finally blocked his ass today ☺️Who the fuck tries to have a hookup at 10 PM? I wouldn't even agree to go see my BF/have him come over that late at night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 07:47 AM |
| 12 | I’m on woke tiktok again and the comments section are full of women who all admit their man left/cheated when they got cancer or any illness.My mom has had MS for twenty something years and my dad hasn't left yet. He is no HVM, but I imagine he is not the worst either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 07:09 AM |
| 43 | Twirling for the patriarchy. More in commentsWild girls even bite their dicks!! Don't give me ideas that could potentially land me in jail. She must be trolling with this one or she has read too much Cosmo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 11:10 AM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inHow can you get into the FDS chat? I can't find the option anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Am I LVW?Are you me? I also used to go months without seeing anybody when I was with my ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:46 AM |
| 56 | Marriage is overrated as a woman, but society desperately tries to convince us otherwiseHypergamy is the only way marriage makes sense to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:39 AM |
| 31 | I just ordered The Rules!Honestly I believe The Rules is pretty PickMe. It's getting a man, any man, to marry you. I've read all the books and The Rules for Marriage it's so sexist and depressing. Basically be hard to get but easy to be with, do everything he wants and never complain, so he won't divorce you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:35 AM |
| 16 | Hobbies and such.I don't see skincare as a hobby, more like a self care routine and something you enjoy. You can learn about it and research new products periodically, but unless you are trying to make your own skincare at home I wouldn't call it a hobbie. That's just me personally, as a skincare freak who spends $$$, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 09:32 AM |
| 121 | Another truth bomb from this guy!After a certain age, your mom shouldn't be there to clean after you either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:12 PM |
| 28 | Men are perfectly capable of identifying body shaming when it happens to men. They just don't care when it happens to women, because they see us as their property. When women critique male bodies, we are upsetting the power dynamic in which men are whole human beings and women are consumable objectsI will copy your answer if I'm ever asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 11:10 PM |
| 14 | How do women in developing nations adhere to FDS given that women’s rights are basically non-existent and laws jail women for walking outside without a headscarf or for dancing in public?I honestly think that FDS may not be applicable to people living in those countries. Sorry. If you are in Saudi Arabia, IDK what to tell women apart from 'try to get out'. Which may not be a possibility for most of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:14 PM |
| 88 | I found out my boyfriend paid for pornhub premiumSorry. This is my personal nightmare. It's very hard to vet for porn viewing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 05:19 PM |
| 15 | Being/acting insecure will only ever get you a manipulative low/no effort NVM: know your worth and show it, never settleOMG, the break up with my ex was exactly as described here. He even told me I could finally find someone who was at my earning level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 03:21 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inIsn't there a FDS Reddit chat? How can I access it? Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 01:06 PM |
| 6 | Please talk some sense into me *age gap*Honestly, in this particular case, it would be more concerning if he were to approach her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:52 AM |
| 35 | I want to date multiple men but they are all trashI feel you. Men are trash and I don't have the energy or time to date more than one at the same time. | /r/askFDS | 23/02/21 08:54 AM |
| 1 | How to not feel guilty that my boyfriend won't watch porn anymore because of me?How do you do that? And if he watches on his phone? | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Needing help on not going back to ex and impending divorceYou need to get your life in order. Do you have a job? If not you need to get one ASAP. Do you have a relationship with your parents/family? Lean on them for help if you can. You are homeless. You can't be worrying about getting revenge against your ex right now, or meeting new people. | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 09:36 AM |
| 13 | My homies said about porn … a fact-check with papersThank you so much for this post. I honestly believe that most men have watched porn at some point of their lifes, and maybe still watch it semi-regularly. But that doesn't equal porn addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:18 AM |
| 20 | How to not feel guilty that my boyfriend won't watch porn anymore because of me?I don't believe he will truly stop and you have no way of being sure either. | /r/askFDS | 22/02/21 08:58 AM |
| 30 | Vincent Cassel and his girlfriend. 31 years of age difference. This is disgusting.I really need a European FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 10:41 PM |
| 1 | How do you date when you are in the 1%?I wish, I'm not a millionaire, I'm simply upper middle class in a country where middle class has been utterly erased. I will be on the look out for those events once Covid disappears. | /r/askFDS | 19/02/21 08:53 AM |
| 27 | TIL...Me too. I didn't know that about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 09:32 PM |
| 19 | Since following FDS I have low/no libido! I rarely find a man attractive these days. Anyone else turned off from most guys?Same. For starters, I'm 5'11'' and I' m only attracted to men taller than me. That limits it to like 5% of men I meet, at most. They must be 6'3" at least. | /r/askFDS | 18/02/21 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisThat's my problem aswell. I outearn all Spanish men in my age range by far. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:07 PM |
| 9 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisI love your attitude. I want you as a friend. My experiences and girlfriends experiences are that we end up paying most of the time so I admire you soooo much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 10:02 PM |
| 4 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisThank you so much for answering! Do they still pay for you when you are in a relationship? Also, I hate that everyone here except religious nutjobs live together before marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:48 PM |
| 9 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisSpain was the third country in the world to legalize gay marriage. Not exactly religious. Also, the 30 plus days off for religious holidays is not true, as others have told you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:37 PM |
| 10 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisOMG, queen, how do you do it? All Spanish men hit me with that 50/50 shit. They pay for the first dates, but then they expect me to go 50/50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 09:34 PM |
| 45 | Pick-mes, please stop embarrassing yourselves. I hope she's learned her lesson after thisSpanish men are the cheapest. How did you get to have your dates paid for? I can get the first couple ones paid for, but then... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 6 | Wanting a more formal form of committment before heading into an (optional) LDR?If you marry now, you will most likely get divorced in a year at most. He will fall in love with somebody else (new place, new people) or decide that he isn't coming back after all. You are lawyer. You can't change countries without an enormous hit to your career. If he loved you, he wouldn't be asking you to endure a LDR. Even if he loves you, he himself probably won't be strong enough to endure it. You need to break up with him now. | /r/askFDS | 16/02/21 10:59 PM |
| 59 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.Single player games tend to be more story based. Once you complete the story, the game tends to be over. Some games have a great replayability and can be replayed. Others don't. I find single player games more intelligent and less competitive than MMORPGs. Also, they are not constrained by peer presure, they don't have to play a certain amount of hours at a certain time. Also, I only play single player games. Can't take MMORPGs seriously or anyone that games on the Internet because they are toxi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:45 PM |
| 33 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.I am gamer. I date other men that game, but only single player games. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on my(20F) boyfriends(20M) behaviour? Am I in too deep with a LVM?Please, can I have you as a best friend? | /r/askFDS | 14/02/21 02:39 PM |
| 4 | How do you date when you are in the 1%?Honestly, having a BF would be practical for travelling to some places. I also miss being in love and being worshipped as a goddess. That feeling is amazing. I'm also an only child with no family except for my parents. Real estate where I live is super, uber expensive. I'd love to have kids and set them up for life. But I'm not willing to have kids with any man poorer than I am. | /r/askFDS | 13/02/21 11:51 AM |
| 3 | How do you date when you are in the 1%?Thank you so much. Will maybe try golfing or sailing. | /r/askFDS | 12/02/21 07:42 PM |
| 5 | How do you date when you are in the 1%?Thank you. My ex earned up a measly salary, but when the relationship was good and he was still in love with me, he still managed to gift me Pierre Herme macarons directly flown in from Paris. And at least I knew he wasn't with me for the money. I offered him to be a stay at home husband and he didn't want it. In my country marriage can keep it's spouses assets completely separate, if I'm ever marrying that's what I'm going to choose to do, so at least they cannot fuck me over financially. I lik… | /r/askFDS | 12/02/21 07:41 PM |
| 10 | How do you date when you are in the 1%?Thank you so much for answering. My country is not as glamorous as the US and I live in a small city. No movie premieres, political events are not like the fundraisers there are in the US. I guess I could get into charity events, but it's not as simple (and most people I've seen there are older). I'm quite the loner and so are my parents (who have been retired for a long time now, they had me at an older age). Everything is shut down with Covid anyway. I can't move to a bigger city because my jo… | /r/askFDS | 12/02/21 07:19 PM |
| 102 | Rape by deceptionRight in the feels. My ex had sex with me during the months he was trying to gather the courage to break up with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 03:53 PM |
| 34 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021'sneaking in as many quickies'... I'm never letting a man have a quickie with me. I'm not a fleshlight. They could get to have quality sex, instead he chooses quantity. Either she is the exception to the rule or I already know she isn't orgasming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 10:27 AM |
| 20 | He’s secretly looking at other girls, against our agreement?Please listen to the advice others have given you. Also, don't marry someone before having sex with them. Ever. Don't wait until you are married to discover he doesn't care about your pleasure. Waiting until marriage only benefits men, because they can have intercourse with a pie and still orgasm. | /r/askFDS | 04/02/21 09:38 AM |
| 3 | A situationship without a situationI'm in a similar situation. Perhaps he just wants to take it really slow? The pandemic can't be helping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 01:37 AM |
| 11 | Opinion on marriage and our surname (last name)Spain. Portugal too, but their system is stranger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:13 PM |
| 158 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?I would love to be a father. I would hate to be a mother. If only I had been born a man... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Finding it hard to deal with the guilt of ending my relationshipYou broke up with him. I agree that he is a LVM/NVM. You need to stop texting him. You aren't helping him or yourself. Also, why are you letting him help you move out? Don't you have family/friends? You left him, so leave him alone. | /r/askFDS | 24/01/21 09:20 AM |
| 3 | Taking control of creating my own happiness - I bought myself a ring and the matching earringsI love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Don't take the bait if a scrote from your past contacts you. They are only contacting you for nefarious and selfish reasons.I mean, he is LVM or NVM, but if you dumped him it's very understandable that he didn't want to talk to you, at least until he felt he was completely over you and you didn't cause him anymore pain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:18 PM |
| 104 | Poor Gent’s Mean Ol’ Wife Won’t Make Love to Him :( Ah, but Wait! His Post History Implies Mr. Sexless May Not be So Sexless After All 😱 Who Would’ve Thought?!?!I was going to comment on the same thing. I'm never ever quitting my job to become a housewife/stay at home wife. If they wanna call themselves providers, they better pay for a maid, a cook, a housekeeper, a butler, three nannies and a hot gardener you can fuck when you discover that they have been cheating with their secretary/nannies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI hope that too. Have you ever made a post about how you vetted your husband? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionThank you so much. Honestly it's one if the things I'm liking most about this guy. No sexual innuendos, totally respectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionThat's actually a good one! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:38 PM |
| 22 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI like this question. I have to think how to bring out this topic of conversation that isn't preluded by how I am a radical feminist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 11:33 AM |
| 20 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionMy ex used to watch porn once every two weeks and he said he stopped once he started dating me, and TBH, I believed him because his behaviour in bed was as far from pornsick as I can imagine. Had no problems getting hard, coming, was always eager to please and selfless (could give me oral for hours) and had no disgusting kinks (no violence, no requests for coming in my mouth/face, anal repulsed him, violence averse and romantic). I believe pornsickness would be the opposite, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 11:22 AM |
| 26 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI like that approach. It's a little bit cold turkey but could work for me. I certainly don't want to find out once I've had sex with someone. I don't want to sleep with a porn addict or someone who has been a consumer of prostitution. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 11:18 AM |
| 14 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionLike what kind of story? Would Armie Hammer's scandal be good enough? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 11:16 AM |
| 24 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI have Asperger's and I'm a terrible liar. Also, if he is a HVM I feel I would be devaluing myself and looking like a PickMe if I ask that question, especially in a sultry voice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:59 AM |
| 46 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI feel the same way. Why would I choose to talk about porn when we haven't talk about anything remotely sexual yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:57 AM |
| 24 | Strategies to vet porn/prostitutionI'm not attached, I simply don't like talking about sex/porn/prostitution, especially when we haven't even kissed. Also I have Asperger's and I'm a terrible liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:56 AM |
| 20 | Guys saying they could beat you in a sport they've never played?I do fencing too and we train mixed sex. I'm sure that at a high level there is a lot of difference between men and women, but at the amateur level we fence in there isn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 11:37 PM |
| 71 | All Red Flags are DealbreakersRed flags and dealbreakers are not the same thing. All red flags should be dealbreakers though. You wanting kids while your SO doesn't it's a dealbreaker, but not a red flag. You wanting to live in the countryside while your SO does in the city it's another. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 12:31 PM |
| 87 | This whole post is a dumpster fire of immeasurable levels but the amount of red flags in the background info alone is mind blowing.How disrespectful is to call somebody else the 'love of his life'? Especially when he must has been less time with her, and didn't father children. He clearly isn't in love with his current GF. But I guess it must be convenient to get regular sex. Also, I hate how people rank their relationships. You can love more than one person across your life without needing to put down others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 136 | Mood for 2021 😂I need to know what kdrama this is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 62 | Reminder that the idea of “withholding sex” isn’t real because sex isn’t something anyone is entitled to get.It's being told you are not good enough for it that it's abusive. Refusing to have sex is not abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 4 | The Cycle of Sexual FrustrationSo you won't have any exclusive relationships anymore? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 01:56 AM |
| 45 | I think I miss being singleYou don't have to be in a relationship even if you find the perfect HVM if you discover you prefer being alone. Don't feel bad for passing up a great guy. Especially if it's not so great. It's a little patronizing to have you tell me to read the handbook. Read my message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:59 PM |
| 51 | Pornsick Limp Dick LVM shift blame to his VIRGIN wifeTheir marriage hasn't even been consummated. It would be funny if it wasn't sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:43 PM |
| 68 | I think I miss being singleMaybe this guy is perfect. But if you prefer being alone, you prefer being alone. I 'm kind of in the same spot right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:37 PM |
| 33 | Proper timeline for an early 20’s monogamous relationship? (~20F, 24M)I don't think you should consider any relationship serious before you are willing to marry. And honestly, you are far too young and ambitious to be in a serious relationship right now. And no fucking way I'd ever marry anyone before being 25 (or TBH, 30). I wouldn't invest in a relationship if I were you. It won't last anyway, most probably. Focus on your academics, profesional career, family, friendships and hobbies. | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 07:21 PM |
| 7 | Can’t even imagine an HVM even in my fantasies.Exactly. I remember complaining to my therapist a few days ago about why should I be the one paying for therapy, when there are my grandfather, father and ex the ones that fucked me up. And it's me the one that it's paying 350 USD a month for therapy and devoting 1 hour each week for therapy when it's their fucking fault, not mine. | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 12:18 PM |
| 53 | Can’t even imagine an HVM even in my fantasies.I honestly don't believe in HVM anymore. I mean, I'm sure there are some, but there is no way of vetting them for sure. You can see LVM/NVM and red flags easy enough, but how do you know if your HVM will suddenly stop being one years in the making? Because it happened to me after a 6.5 year relationship. My mindset right now is to enjoy a HVM while it lasts but to cultivate the mental fortitude to walk away at the first sign of disrespect/when he stops being a HVM. Even if it's after you've been… | /r/askFDS | 26/12/20 03:36 AM |
| 27 | Anyone else have this view on having children?Same thing happened to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 62 | This sounds like my last relationship!My psychologist best friend told me exactly the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:14 AM |
| 18 | TDLR Scrotes is finally dumped but clueless why gf no longer wants to play mommy.OMFG! How useless do you have to be in order to not know any of these things? I never do any kind of housework (except the laundry sometimes) and I know them. He knows them too, but it's easier to pretend not to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 02:49 AM |
| 8 | He wanna spank my ass but he don’t want me to stomp his balls?? Now I only use Tinder just to laugh at these dummies w my friends.What is FinDom? I'm too afraid to Google it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 02:22 AM |
| 10 | This is so fucking embarrassing watching things like this makes me want to off myselfThis has to be satire, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 9 | Do you regret losing your virginity? Do you suggest someone wait or not?I don't regret it. Also, I wouldn't marry someone without knowing how generous are in bed and if they have porn-addiction related issues. Besides, you don't lose anything. Virginity is a social construct. | /r/askFDS | 20/12/20 11:31 AM |
| 10 | Texting response times?Could he have sensed that he seemed too needy to you before? | /r/askFDS | 19/12/20 03:30 PM |
| 17 | Income inequality in a relationshipI made this mistake and wasted 6.5 years of my youth. Don't do it. You disagree on one of the most fundamental things. | /r/askFDS | 17/12/20 11:18 PM |
| 49 | How do you deal with a PickMe / girl with no boundaries around your man?She is not your problem. Your BF is, if he doesn't seem deserving of your trust. | /r/askFDS | 17/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 30 | I haven't had sex in over half a year and thinking about it, I feel great.I haven't had sex for 6 months. I have never been more stress free. I don't have to perform for anyone, take pills or fear pregnancy. Thought I might miss it but not at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 02:00 PM |
| 31 | Should I help him or not ?Girl, you aren't a therapist. He is using you without any regards for your feelings. Don't. | /r/askFDS | 15/12/20 06:20 AM |
| 20 | Women are the solvers and the one to take responsibility. If marriage fails, is the woman who is held to a higher standard. Woman is to be perfect, although she will never be. Woman is to be limited, society tells her she should function through fear.I feel you. My breakup was the same. He was even lyimg and saying that everything was OK when I used to ask him. That he couldn't wait for us to live together, to see me pregnant... Then one day, out of the blue, broke up with me. I didn't see it coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:21 AM |
| 14 | Be careful about building an online influence (or any kind of business) with your boyfriend. Never be overly dependent on a man, it makes it so much harder to leave him if the relationship goes bad.Exactly. I agree with some of these (the in case the relationship turns sour leaving mechanisms), but why marry if you don't trust your husband at all? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 11:24 AM |
| 5 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?Yes, I wanted to hold off from dating but I met someone who liked me and I liked back when the situation in my country was quite good (in the summer). Now situation is fucked up again and everything is closed. Which also sucks because I can't date multiple men at the same time. I don't want to, but it's truly the best method in case you need to cut someone out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:13 AM |
| 5 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?I'm not in the USA. We are required to wear masks all the time in all public places, even if we are in a street that is deserted. Even if we are in a park with nobody around or in a mountain with no people in miles around (obviously I'd take my mask off in the second case, even if it is illegal, because restrictions are just absurd). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:30 AM |
| 6 | BoundariesWouldn't also be useful to be alone and know how well he respects boundaries? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:11 PM |
| 12 | What are some strategies and tactics to put off intimacy for as long as possible?I'm struggling with it in the middle of this pandemic. I've been on five dates with a man. Almost everything is closed where we live (all bars and restaurants). We haven't kissed yet (wearing a mask at all times is compulsory), which makes it more complicated, because if we had kissed, I could tell him that OK, I was going to his house, but he shouldn't expect any sex, and see how well he respects boundaries. If he tries to push me, he is out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 11:10 PM |
| 7 | On the fence about this guyHave you read the handbook? Because the answer is so obvious. Your post is full of red flags. And he is cheating on you. | /r/askFDS | 07/12/20 07:49 AM |
| 4 | TW// What are the reasons for why you stayed in an abusive relationship?I had never read it so well put as you have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 08:26 PM |
| 5 | TW// What are the reasons for why you stayed in an abusive relationship?I also had an abnormally rigid form of loyalty at the time - love meant putting up with everything, and if it hurt a bit well. I was used to love hurting and that felt normal. OMG. Are you me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 08:23 PM |
| 27 | I used to think gamer boyfriends are superior too... thanks to FDS I’m aware of how pathetic men that call themselves „gamer“ areI play videogames myself and I love them, but I'd never be with someone that plays them online or is addicted to them. Online gaming equals adiction, in my experience. Also, most gamers are very sexist and looking for their perfect gamer pixie girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:24 PM |
| 10 | The Holidays are Coming: You dont need to buy him a Gift or show up with himIs it normal to have your BF/GF at Christmas? I wouldn't bring anybody that wasn't my husband, or go to their family party if we weren't married. Even if we were married, we would most probably spend the holidays separately unless we had children. I'm european, so it may be a cultural thing. I was with my ex for 6.5 years and we never spent the Holidays together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:46 PM |
| 6 | Things My 86 Year Old Mother Says About Men and RelationshipsI haven't ever heard of it before. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:25 AM |
| 14 | Things My 86 Year Old Mother Says About Men and RelationshipsWhy can't you marry a first born? I thought they would be more responsible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:55 PM |
| 35 | I just got dumped and I’m having anxiety about the futureI had the same happen to me except my relationship was 6.5 years long. My ex is a LVM but I never doubted that he loved me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Have you found any HVW in media as role models?I loved that show. And I believe that watching that show with a man and seeing what he think about it it's a testament to his character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 09:13 AM |
| 55 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?Why would you use the term 'slutty'? It's derogatory and sexist. Also, not true, unless they are charging for sex. You can use 'promiscuous' instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 09:47 PM |
| 5 | How do you sample the goods before having sex?I feel like most men wear jeans 95% of their leisure time, though. The guy I'm seeing is always wearing jeans. | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 11:48 PM |
| 41 | Wow!No, this is not a red flag. This is fucking abuse. Red flags are what are supposed to warn you about this kind of thing. That man is mad and a psycho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:43 PM |
| 3 | What standards should we have the first time having sex with a HVM?Thank you! I have already read the handbook several times. It's not really that I want to make out with men in their cars, but I don't see another option. I honestly was thinking more about making out in my car, as the guy I'm seeing doesn't own one (very common in my country, not in the USA, i know). In my country right now it's compulsory to wear a mask at all times, no matter if you are in a park, in a deserted street or in a bar. The only exception is if you are actually eating/drinking some… | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 06:47 PM |
| 5 | Been wondering for some time; how many neurodivergent women are here?I have Asperger's, and a lot of trouble approaching sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:58 PM |
| 15 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Why would you date a man 11 years older than you? Especially when you meet him through OLD. Read the handbook on age gaps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:55 PM |
| -1 | How do you weed out men in OLD?Thank you! I don't mind going in a coffee date to see if I like them in person. I like my men tall as I'm also model-like tall. What kind of questions do you ask about character? And about their place in their life? I feel like I'm not assertive enough, or that, culturally, dating in my country is not as forward as is in the States. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:54 AM |
| 2 | Has anybody ever used matchmaking services?Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:52 AM |
| 3 | Has anybody ever used matchmaking services?Thanks, I think I'm going to call and ask them if it would make sense for a woman my age and location. I think women don't have to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:52 AM |
| 2 | Has anybody ever used matchmaking services?There is not. The service exist only in the capital city of my country and I can't move there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:51 AM |
| 2 | Has anybody ever used matchmaking services?I'm not. My profession is much more especific. Lawyers in my country don't earn that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:51 AM |
| 3 | Am I a forever girlfriend and is this future faking?I'm not American either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 05:02 PM |
| 17 | Guy still pays, even if I make a lot more money?Not OP, I'd love to date up, but it seems quite difficult sometimes. But yeah, I've come to believe that if I have to wreck my body to give some man kids he better pay for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:24 PM |
| 8 | Guy still pays, even if I make a lot more money?I feel you, sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:23 PM |
| -7 | How do you weed out men in OLD?Ok. How do I sort them out? I can't talk to everybody. I need to know who would be a good match. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:23 PM |
| 22 | Why are so many people on here on OLD sites?Because most people don't have that many chances of meeting new single people of their age once they are out of university. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:48 PM |
| -3 | How do you weed out men in OLD?Maybe I'm wrong and I should give them a picture privately? But yeah, I have lots of interests listed and they are like 'and the picture?'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:46 PM |
| -7 | How do you weed out men in OLD?I'm getting plenty of matches. In fact, that's my problem, I have too many matches, I don't know how to sort them out. 99% people I match with have pictures of their face. I don't want to post pictures of my face because of job reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Should you continue a relationship with a man who cannot find the clit, does not regularly stimulate it, and does not ask for help? Do you have to show him and teach him and remind him with no initiative from him?You shouldn't even begin a relationship with them in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 02:45 PM |
| 2 | How do you get over someone?Thank you. I don't think our relationship was abusive, except at the end, when he broke up with me he said some hurtful things. But it was definitely toxic, my attachment style was complicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:27 AM |
| 2 | How do you get over someone?Thank you. I've been in NC for almost two months and a half. I don't have social media, so I can't check his. I have plenty of hobbies, and I'm a loner, I love being alone. I guess I just can't let go of the hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:25 AM |
| 2 | How do you get over someone?Thank you. Will do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:23 AM |
| 3 | How do you get over someone?Thank you so much. The worst thing is that it was him the one who broke up with me. When I was at the worst point in my life. Severely depressed. When I outearned him by x4, and was ten years younger than he is. Still, when our relationship was good, was very good. Thank you for your kind words. Honestly, I'm starting to believe than I'm at my fullest when I'm single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 10:22 AM |
| 8 | I’ve been a natural HVW my whole life and it’s breaking my heartI didn't have a BF until I was 19. Hindsight, I would have been better off without one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:38 PM |
| 10 | You don’t own me and you never will :)They want to have the cake and eat it too. LOL, bye. I never had issues with commitment, quite the opposite. Men who were not up to my standards tried to get me to be in a relationship with them and I fell for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 12:37 PM |
| 5 | When a former ghosting LVM you haven't talked to in 6 months finally "checks in" to see how you are doing during the pandemic and you are now on the enlightened FDS Queen journey...Oh, so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 06:28 PM |
| 13 | Why children should take their mother’s surname instead of their father’sThere are countries where wifes don't take their husband's surname, and where children take their mother's surname (Portugal) or both their parents' surname (Spain). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 06:26 PM |
| 7 | Still pining about my NVM ex! Bob the BuilderThank you. My mother says the same thing, that I shouldn't humiliate myself anymore and that he doesn't deserve me (even if before he said that he was such a good person that I didn't deserve him). I've read the handbook. I guess it's just very difficult, it was my first relationship and it lasted almost 7 years. I didn't saw the BU coming because I considered myself so out of his league that I didn't think it was possible than he would BU with me. I also thought he was far a better person than … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 05:00 PM |
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