So, I come from a different culture from the American one, so what the handbook says about first approaching sex doesn't really apply where I live. Normally people go from kissing to having sex, and things like oral sex are considered more intimate and done later than PIV. The things about 'first base', 'second base', 'third base'... don't exist here. People don't fool around here, unless it's teenagers, and as I said, even teenagers have first PIV, then oral (I guess that because, unlike America, people don't have that hangup about virginity and here oral sex is considered sex, and even viewed as more kinky than PIV).

I only have haved sex with one man, and looking back, our first time wasn't a good experience at all. I'm very nervous about having to have sex with anybody else. In 'The power of the pussy', book by Kara King that is in the FDS recommended reading books list, she says that “Oral sex should be even harder to get than regular sex. When you find a good man and he's everything you ever wanted, save the oral sex for him.” Is that an agreed FDS opinion?

Do you expect to have oral sex performed on you, and be given at least an orgasm? Or at least, to see him really try to give you one? How can you vet for pornsick behaviour and penis size before having sex? Should I try to make out with him in a car?