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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 50 | It's a Power Thing - don't give it to themLol! Good for you. Once you know a man does not care, we lose the need to divulge everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 04:33 PM |
| 59 | No means NO! Even in a relationship!This guy sounds disgusting and disturbed. I would miraculously feel better enough to pack and leave immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:45 PM |
| 39 | This question always seemed like a red flag to me🚩🚩Lol same girl. Now when a guy asks that, I go damn..you’re out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:57 PM |
| 149 | It's a Power Thing - don't give it to themOr trick the next woman better. I’m not giving you feedback for your next victim.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:56 PM |
| 19 | "I meet all of my own needs. I fulfill myself."Omg I thought I was trippin, came in here to see if someone else saw it too lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.He doesn’t see anything wrong with it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:15 PM |
| 1 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.I said he should figure out why he has been so unhappy lately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:14 PM |
| 21 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.Lol because I told him he seems unhappy and should figure that out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:21 PM |
| 87 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.That was in response to me saying he seems unhappy and should work his stuff out. Somehow he thinks the solution to his unhappiness is a woman.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 06:14 PM |
| 56 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.Winter blues I guess, I told him I hope he figures out his stuff bc he has been very unhappy/unpleasant lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:55 PM |
| 112 | My good guy friend of many years confessed feelings for me, then I learned he is still chasing after his ex. When I asked why he would compromise our friendship if he still is obsessed with his ex and commented he has been acting unhappy lately...this was his response. Blocked/deleted.Right, and to compromise our CLOSE friendship of many years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 05:46 PM |
| 3 | This ain’t it sisHehe I like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:05 PM |
| 6 | This ain’t it sisLol it’s a red flag when a guy says my name intentionally while speaking to me, once gets a pass but if its a theme, RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 04:05 PM |
| 15 | “You know what makes a woman worthy of protection? Her birth.” 🙌🏼 preach!Yes!! My parents and friends parents always did this when dropping off a friend at home, and then my friends and I adopted that habit when when we got our licenses as teens. TIL this day I still feel wait to drive off before someone gets in their door, I caught myself doing it with some grown men too haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Yeah tho not Sam bc that’s a common name. Kinda like Mel for Melissa or Ser for Serena. Sorry about your ex! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 12:27 AM |
| 30 | “You know what makes a woman worthy of protection? Her birth.” 🙌🏼 preach!My very petite mom does stuff like that if she sees young women being watched by pervy men...she watches them like a hawk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:49 PM |
| 20 | 🚁🚁🚁Back to hoovering 👀🚁🚁🚁In the words of Dr. Benjamin Zulu, exes come back to check if you’re still stupid. We have FDS, we are not stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Well I use a nickname on the app (3 letters but it is clear to most that its short for something). I am noticing most men don’t inquire about my name at all, the ones that do ask immediately upon matching. Even my ex only asked on the first date only when I asked him how to pronounce his name.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 11:39 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Yes that is true. I used to mention exes on first dates when I was insecure, I would never do that today. There are ways to bring sup experiences (restaurants, vacations) without mentioning a partner. I know this guy is very fit, which is why I matched with him..I like guys who share my athletic hobbies. And its fine if you decide to join a gym to meet more people...but to share it on a first date is unusual. My profile shows I want a LTR and someone making a comment regarding dating more is a t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I am not going out with him again. Thanks for the feedback. But curious as to what stuck out the most as the red flag, for learning purposes.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 06:25 PM |
| 4 | In response to the post about whether or not LVM cause monthly cycle disturbances. Explanation in description 😖My only respectful ex sexually did not care for blow jobs. Once we were talking and be said he minds finds guys who are obsessed with blow jobs to be perverse..he didn’t get why men prefer that to PIV. He was my first bf, snd thanks to him I have never given a BJ bc I don’t want to. Every guy since has begged for one, I say that’s for marriage lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:12 AM |
| 5 | The Wall is BS. A 35 year old woman’s take...He doesn’t even have a gf, let’s be real. If he was so fulfilled, why is he triggered by this 👸🏽? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 9 | The Wall is BS. A 35 year old woman’s take...Yes sis! I I got a DM from a lurker on here that said he is 33 but would never date an older woman, that his beautiful gf is 26 and as long as he works out/makes money he can date youngerp. I’m like okay..good for you? I don’t know what that has to do with me and my value tho! Keep on shining ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 12:04 AM |
| 18 | LVM love to say that women hit the wall by the age of thirty, but this is Katy Perry at 36.Ha that won’t solve it. I get harassed more than ever in my 30s... I remember walking with my mon as a kid and she got hit on in front of us..wedding ring snd 2 kids in tow.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 09:49 PM |
| 7 | The Wall is BS. A 35 year old woman’s take...Yes, and it’s a great way to boost your metabolism so if you care about how you look- you can more and stay slim/toned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:35 PM |
| 17 | The Wall is BS. A 35 year old woman’s take...Yes!! The alternative to aging is death. We should control what we can with the days we are gives. Who cares about a wall, no one gets eternal youth..but how are you going to progress through life? Good for you and happy early birthday! And I encourage more women to lift weights! People advised me against it, saying I would lose my feminine frame or get big...nope. I am strong, and feminine as ever, and carry myself with more grace and confidence. It’s a stress reliever and my body feels the bes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:28 PM |
| 38 | Maybe he’s trying to do her a favor by kicking himself out of her life so she can move on to better things...I remember my ex being mad at me on vacation on an island, and we go for a walk on the town to grab a bite. But he is 6’3 and walking fast and way ahead of me. So I just stopped walking and had a seat on a bench , refusing to keep up (i.e. chase after him) He later said the trip was one of the best times of his life, but that memory sticks out to me..I want a man that even if upset with me, will not make me chase after him in a foreign country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:10 PM |
| 22 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Went on a date last night and I was able to really listen and see pink flags- I told him I am vegetarian and he mentioned he dated 2 vegans in the past and was therefore familiar with restaurants...no need to mention your past dates. I told him about my fitness community and he commented “I would only join that for dating purposes.” I asked him a follow up question and he clarified he would want to be around like minded people. Who tells a date they would join a gym to get more dates. He didn’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:26 PM |
| 21 | I told him (40yo man) about the time someone I previously dated organized to have various bottles of wine sent to me for our video date “cause he wasn’t sure which type I liked”. His response to that was attempting to schedule a FaceTime date with MY groceries 🤡Hehheee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 03:19 PM |
| 14 | Seriously disgusting. And I left his name visible, as he is a public figure and has an entire page dedicated to this nonsense. 🤬This. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:40 AM |
| 48 | Seriously disgusting. And I left his name visible, as he is a public figure and has an entire page dedicated to this nonsense. 🤬My best male friend is 38, I am 35. I get dates with 32-38 year old world travelers, successful business men, attorneys, etc. He gets very few dates and they are definitely not in their 20s! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 08:39 AM |
| 30 | This was disrespectful. OMGF that disrespectful man- one thing is for sure, we are all lucky not to have to be with him. I doubt 25 year olds want him, not any with working eyes, ears or a brain... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 10:10 PM |
| 1 | What "lightly depraved" actions and/or "dating test" fuckeries will you NEVER tolerate again from a man since finding FDS (ex: items that do not warren red flags but yellow to green range symptoms/warning signs you missed before outside of standard FDS guidelines)?Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:53 PM |
| 54 | Thoughts?Yep what’s funny is the NEXT day after wanting to not pull out when I was ovulating, he ghosted for weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 05:56 PM |
| 129 | Thoughts?Yep I have heard men say that too, that they debate not pulling out if the woman is hot. My ex did it once and had a fit when I wanted to take plan B. Then he asked to do it again when I already told him I was likely ovulating that day..smh. We were not in a long relationship at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:49 PM |
| 11 | They say polyamory but they just mean cheatingYup, noticed that too.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:56 AM |
| 23 | They say polyamory but they just mean cheatingCruel and selfish loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:55 AM |
| 17 | They say polyamory but they just mean cheatingSame. When I read these stories, I promise myself that if I end up married, I will WALK and not even be bothered by such behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:54 AM |
| 41 | I hate seeing young girls normalizing older men grooming them🙁This is so true. Every man I know that pursues younger women are men that I would not wish on any woman! They are all similarly fragile, emotionally stunted, immature and noncommittal. It’s so sad. I used to date older men in my youth and thought older women that disapproved were haters...well now in my 30s, I have the same mindset and my disapproval is out of pure concern. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:35 AM |
| 12 | How many of you have been in sexually coercive situations/relationships? For me it's been pretty much 90% of men I've dated. And it's haunting me to this dayI have had 3 partners and with the exception of the first, they showed aggression and sexual coercion. And I have had plenty male acquaintances act aggressively towards me when intoxicated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:30 AM |
| 30 | I think we all feel this!It is. It should be humorous, but it’s profound. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:26 AM |
| 40 | When you give all that wife energyMy cousin just had a second baby with her live in BF. They are both late 30s and he is a doctor...yet won’t propose despite her wanting that. It is silly to me that he will reproduce but not commit... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 09:24 AM |
| 5 | 46, but not ready for commitment LOLLol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 3 | 46, but not ready for commitment LOLLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:06 PM |
| 19 | 46, but not ready for commitment LOLHaha those guys around here want to date women in their 20s-30s. And men in their 30s, want 20s. I am mid 30s and the 45+ guys are the most immature I come across on the apps. Date younger! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:41 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I think this is it. Another reminder that spaces and faces aren’t safe/comfort zones 😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Does he do any of these things? Throw him out!Reading these things remind me of something my ex would do- he would critique everything, how I hugged him, how I showed affection, how I wore my hair (he complained when I styled it). He did it in a way where it did not feel mean, always jokey but it made me feel uncomfortable with him. Now I see he did it to control me and make me feel inadequate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:50 AM |
| 2 | Ladies y’all need to be grateful to go to the SOUP KITCHEN! 🥴😩Has to be a joke! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 01:38 AM |
| 35 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I was feeling really good today but now I feel a little down. I go to a lifting gym and there’s a sports doctor who has an office next door. He is always friendly and we just wave hello and have small chat from time to time. He has commented on how fit I am a couple times, but I ignore it. Today he chatted me up and was subtly (not so much tho) trying to gauge my age and whether I have a boyfriend. He faked concern that I am isolated during these corona times. He is married with 2 kids. Idk why … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:28 AM |
| 13 | Are there men that don't SPIT?I don’t personally know a man that does spit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 7 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotYes, I got sad seeing my ex on app..for his next victim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 06:44 AM |
| 63 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotGood for you! I lost track of how many men have said “you know we are on (whatever app), right?” when I remark on inadequate behavior or incomprehensible messaging. I love how they justify their shit with the fact that they are on a dating app, so I should expect less...but I don’t understand that logic. You can put me in a dumpster, but I won’t ever act like trash. Now I just block/delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:48 AM |
| 10 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotIt is cute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:13 AM |
| 22 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotThis guy I know said he changed his profile from “something casual” to “relationship” in order to get more women for hook ups...he has no intention on entering a relationship with any of them. I no longer speak to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:12 AM |
| 40 | Translation: Someone who can dress like a stepford trophy wife, but also has a nice job so we can splitsies, likes to go drinking with me and also gives me sex, gives me constant attention, and also physically hotAh sounds like the NYC transplant I just unmatched. He had a stupid smirk in all his pics and couldn’t even schedule a phone call right..at 40+ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:09 AM |
| 32 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointAgreed but it wasn’t planned out lol. Said he was painting, felt close to her and decided to pop the question then..he made it more about him than her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:59 PM |
| 24 | Currently diagnosed with cancer and struggling with exYes this. Replace him with meditation and whatever else relaxes you. I wish you well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:29 PM |
| 69 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointMy ex proposed to his ex wife while they were painting the basement... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:28 PM |
| 29 | My Plan for ExclusivityI remember saying this decades ago before I even started dating. I did not understanding committing to a BF and keeping yourself ‘out the game’ if the goal is to get married. Bf/Gf dynamics are just pretending to be married and it can waste several years. I don’t see myself committing to anyone anymore unless we have a CLEAR and reasonable path to true commitment. Btw this is the norm in my parents home country, although western dating practices are creeping in. Over there, you “court” and then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.That’s awesome. She reached her goal (kids) but still lived a full life before raising babies. And clearly she dod a good job if her daughter is on FDS 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Ah ok. Well maybe like you say below, it’s your death stares? Regardless, seems to be a plus for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 3 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Sounds perfect haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:35 PM |
| 7 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Ah ok. I assumed you were since you said you did not meet anyone. And as a 35 year old, I disagree! But I also live in a major city. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 09:34 PM |
| 12 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Yep. My grandmas had babies into their mid 40s. Ans I know sooo many women who had ooopsie babies in their late 30s/40s because they thought it was impossible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:57 PM |
| 18 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.So happy to hear this! A woman that put herself first and lived in her truth then the good man happened to come along. How did you meet your guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:36 PM |
| 23 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Are you me? Lol I am loving my 30s glow ip too ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:34 PM |
| 19 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Hi lady. Do you put effort in meeting new people? I know it is hard due to covid. I listened to this psychologist say that while women should not pursue men, we should make ourselves “available”...meaning being active and social. I wish you luck ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:33 PM |
| 20 | Your “value” on the market will NOT decline with age.Thanks, single at 35 and needed to be reminded of this. I do want babies tho but the more I learn about fertility, the more I realize that ‘common knowledge’ about it is a LIE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 07:31 PM |
| 1 | No choice but to joinWelcome :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 06:15 PM |
| 6 | My friends roommate met up with us after 2 dates yesterday..a coffee date and and a park date.Same here. I treat myself so well, but tolerated shitty dates and was too focused on wanting to be liked. Thank goodness for FDS because those days are behind us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 05:44 PM |
| 13 | Are age gap relationships in your 30-50s still best avoided?I am 35 and asked a similar question on here when a 44 asked me out. In my youth, I dated men up to 10-15 years older. So dating within 10 years at my age now does not seem like a big deal. Some FDS experts said it was still a no no because some men into their 40s will not date women their own age but still seek out 30s women because they want kids. I can see that argument, and I don’t want to endorse any man thinking he can run around and then find a ‘younger’ woman whenever they want to settle… | /r/askFDS | 01/12/20 03:39 PM |
| 38 | My wish for 2021 and beyond is that more women realise that they don’t have to put up with callous, selfish behaviour in their relationships.I remember having a disagreement with my ex and he was angry, he would not stop and communicate. I was upset and just looked him in the eye and said “I am so sad” and he shrugged. Only then did I really feel how little he cares about upsetting me. I have not seem him since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 03:38 AM |
| 6 | Why settle for someone who could potentially be a prince when there are ones who already are?Yes!!! Better to be selective and trained at avoiding LVM and pristinely wait for a HVM. A dabbled in LVM recently, 6 months traumatized me...I don’t know women do it for years and years with an assortment of them. I’m not built for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:04 AM |
| 26 | This is freaking scary. We are not even safe at homeUgh something like this happened to me 12 years ago..same facts- neighbor who I saw around and thought it was okay to break in to see me. The guy also had his hands in his pants and I was scared he had a gun too. Poor lady, I sadly know she will never feel safe and alone in her own home again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:09 PM |
| 24 | Hate to see itYeah, this guy maybe requested a brochure from a law school | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 09:04 AM |
| 45 | Hate to see itHaha seriously..by 30, no one cares about your school anything, frat or athlete.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:59 AM |
| 2 | American Horror Story making good points.1984, season 9! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:21 AM |
| 18 | American Horror Story making good points.Yep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:42 PM |
| 11 | I feel this in my bones! I learned a lot from my past relationships- like how happy I am to not have to go home to their B.S.! Thank you ladies!Cheers to that! My ex keeps trying to reach me- NO thank you, I do not want to deal with your bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:34 PM |
| 44 | Stop underestimating yourself because m*n damn sure don'tHaha my ex lied all over his profile- said he had a grad degree (he had a bachelors), volunteers (was thinking about it), added an inch to his height, listed an employer despite only going to a free orientation at that company,and so on and so forth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 06:33 PM |
| 22 | Your egg is chasing a sperm KM 🤡🤡My lame ex liked his nipples sucked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 19 | When you block and deleteBlocking is the last laugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:02 AM |
| 10 | FDS Mood For Life Song 😍😍😍. Feel free to suggest songs similar to this oneHe is so cute. I am going to find me one of him IRL, I just know it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 11:12 PM |
| 90 | Ladies, please helpUm you know he is low value. No job, lives with parents, AND texts another woman despite your discomfort (then deletes messages). Run. | /r/askFDS | 27/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 29 | I’d never even ask a man on a date anywaysI know men that have been asked out on a date, and they still planned it and paid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 08:42 PM |
| 254 | May be FDS or may be that after I saw myself in a picture with my “hot” crush I was more attractive... either way, even hot men are meh now.Yeha but because I find them pathetic. Every single ex has reached out to me since I joined FDS just months ago...good reminder that they are not a prize, rather trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 08:41 PM |
| 11 | Negative reviews of FDS on YouTubeThis- agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 11:33 PM |
| 14 | Thanksgiving for the Things That Aren'tThank you my wise sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 83 | That moment this woman discovered she is with a NVMThat’s the thing about these 50/50 situations in marriage...like if we’re supposed to be together til death, what are you keeling tabs for? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 04:19 AM |
| 3 | European FDS differencesExcept in Europe people tend not to multi date even before DTR or discussing exclusivity, which is generally just assumed at the onset. Some of the cultural differences aren’t a result of LV tendencies. | /r/askFDS | 26/11/20 03:42 AM |
| 2 | What standards should we have the first time having sex with a HVM?I have not read Kara King but that statement regarding oral resonates with me. Despite being in my mid 30s, I have only had a couple of intimate partners because I don’t like hooking up outside of a relationship. But despite being in a couple relationships, I have never given a BJ. I feel like that is something I would be willing to explore with my husband or someone I feel is my special partner (haven’t found that yet). My last ex kept pressuring me to try one on him and even gave me a demo on … | /r/askFDS | 26/11/20 03:35 AM |
| -1 | 4 out of 5 of the love languages met. Is 1 missing a dealbreaker?How often are you seeing each other? If I was only seeing my bf a couple times a week, I would expect some text/phone communication in between. I want someone who is present in my day to day life if we are in a relationship. But if you see him frequently, then it would not be a big deal to me. My ex was not a big texter and it was hard to get accustomed to because I was also used to daily ongoing text chats in the past. When I spoke up, my ex did make sure to text me nearly every morning. We nev… | /r/askFDS | 26/11/20 02:13 AM |
| 80 | That moment this woman discovered she is with a NVMAnd she is carrying their child, gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:00 AM |
| 1 | It's hard to meet HVW and have fulfilling female friendships.Well your post equates youth with beauty, but not for aging women. Why is that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 03:42 AM |
| 12 | Cutting off a friend (40M) that is low value and dating a 26F?Definitely not. I have done that in the past, and am pretty good at distancing myself from folks. But to be frank, I have done that with a majority of friends over the years and it sucks at times...but for the best. These are friends whose values did not line up with mine. | /r/askFDS | 24/11/20 11:17 PM |
| 7 | Dating a divorced man with children?It’s okay. I agree with your take. Thanks for apologizing, I may have misinterpreted the tone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 03:08 AM |
| 9 | Dating a divorced man with children?You’re acting like 40 is ancient, calm down. While I agree he is far too old to date a 20 something, no need to age shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:25 AM |
| 31 | I know my worth, I've paid dearly for every ounce of it. I make no apologies for loving myself and finally living my best life.I 100% relate to this. Where is it from? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Blocked/deleted ex from years ago but he reached out via email. Any tips?Where is the block function on gmail? I mark as junk/spam but this email still came into my inbox..? | /r/askFDS | 23/11/20 08:46 PM |
| 9 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Damn. You’re right. | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 15 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Hmm now that you mention it, I can def see him being a narc. Very attractive (looked young for his age, friends guessed 30s). Sharp dresser, perfect responses (well your name matches your appearance, beautiful). Speaks very well..all of it just perfectly played out. | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 09:30 PM |
| 14 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Thanks! That was my main question :( | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 8 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?We did not talk about my age actually. AFTER the encounter when he asked me out via text, I first asked his age before answering. He would not have brought it up, he did not care about my age. He just made the comment he “hopes I am at least 28” bc to him age 28 is age appropriate for him, and he did not want to feel like a creepy old man. In person, he just commented on my beauty, my maturity and how I carried myself. He did ask about my hobbies and we got into that, but it was a brief exchange… | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 06:52 PM |
| 28 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Yes, it annoys me that so many people say I look good for my age..mostly younger women and men of all ages. I have heard this since my early 30s. What am I supposed to look like exactly? At 35! | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 06:49 PM |
| 14 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?I know, you are absolutely right. | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 06:48 PM |
| 51 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Yeah he was gawking at me and looking at me from head to toe. He complimented me on my looks and said I have an “old soul” and even joked I must be the oldest sibling to be so level headed (I am the baby in the family lol). It’s funny he said that he would never guess I am 35, as if I am old lol..really not a big difference from 28 (7 years is nothing esp if someone takes care of themself). A lot of it is my sweetness/innocence so people think I am young, I honestly think I am losing that innoce… | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 6 | This man at a restaurant picked up the tab for me and my group of girlfriends at a pricey restaurant, but then asked me out for coffee..?Nah he asked the bartender to introduce me specifically, not any of my friends. He was checking me out, not them. So I agree with most of what you said, I don’t think he was interested in any one of us. | /r/askFDS | 22/11/20 05:54 PM |
| 27 | No walk dates, not even during a pandemic.Lol seriously | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 05:05 PM |
| 27 | In your opinion, how long into an official relationship is it acceptable/ expected for someone to say ‘I love you’?This may sound bitter but after studying meditation and spiritual teachings for many years, I don’t even know what people are talking about when they say they are “in love”. Love is an emotion and it is intense, I have felt it for friends, family members, etc. It can be an overwhelming intense feeling, but often times it can be selfish/conditional (a fleeting feeling tied to a temporary act or experience). I have experienced true unconditional love- like the feeling of deep respect and admiratio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 05:54 PM |
| 9 | Security Reminder: DO NOT Respond to "Journalists," "Researchers," or Anyone Else Seeking to "Interview You" About FDSLosers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 09:53 PM |
| 60 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?I have it for all men right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 09:53 PM |
| 16 | Security Reminder: DO NOT Respond to "Journalists," "Researchers," or Anyone Else Seeking to "Interview You" About FDSDo you think the lurkers on here try to find out who we are IRL? I have suspicions.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 08:20 PM |
| 226 | Do you think that a lot of women identify as asexual, demisexual, or are completely uninterested in sex is because of how male-centred and degrading sex is portrayed in society?I told my male friend I feel asexual and he just told me I am suffering from depression...he does not get it. I am the happiest and clearest I have ever felt, I just don’t care for most men these days and am utterly turned off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 5 | “Opening up” to menHaha THIS! I stupidly told exes about all my prior mistreatments from men..then they got this complex that they were great and better guys, but they weren’t. I am now going to say all previous relationships were marvelous and I was treated like a queen, as you said. You’re wise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 04:30 PM |
| 23 | LVM takes advantage of a "friend", rapes her, try to bend the story and gaslight her, still believes he did nothing wrong and reddit agrees with himThe way he writes this makes it sound like she is the aggressor, but I had a similar thing happen to me and I believe he is just painting this in a light most favorable to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 04:01 PM |
| 2 | "A Super Strange True Love Story: My Disappearing Fiancé." She gives him everything, he disappears with another woman. Tale as old as time.Lmao I wish girl, I wish | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 01:44 AM |
| 2 | "A Super Strange True Love Story: My Disappearing Fiancé." She gives him everything, he disappears with another woman. Tale as old as time.Actually THREE. He left his previous partner for the first writer, presumably in a similar fashion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Are there any older, single females on here still figuring things out?The future is bright. 37 is still relatively young, better now than never! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Older men (late 30s+) claiming they "never met the right one"Can you explain the difference? As a 35F (lawyer, focused/traditional so never dated much in my 30s), I feel awfully judgmental when I come across men my age or older..I used to date them but now I am turned off by most. A lot of them seem unsure about what they want and I now I think it’s a red flag if you’re 35+ and still single. I am now finding myself more compatible with men in their early 30s because they don’t seem as jaded and they also have this innocence that I think matches mine..if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Is it a red flag to not wish me a happy birthday?Yeah, if you know he saw your IG stories that reveal it’s your bday- block/delete. I even wished my match a good day when he mentioned it was his father’s bday, that’s what normal humans do. | /r/askFDS | 19/11/20 06:46 PM |
| 3 | "A Super Strange True Love Story: My Disappearing Fiancé." She gives him everything, he disappears with another woman. Tale as old as time.Goodness, this made me sick to read. The author talking about that worry of being happy because she never believed she would have a happy ending, really hit home. But it is that fear that kept me in dysfunctional relationships- I felt I had to “hold on” to someone because it didn’t mean anything if it didn’t last..even if I was no longer happy. I still have that fear and distrust going forward, never fully feeling safe and trusting of a partner and the relationship..I expect them to leave at any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:33 PM |
| 3 | It is hard to apply this philosophy into our lives but it is important to value ourselves.It is so hard! I miss going on dates on the weekends but every offer has been LV (coffee, last minute proposal, etc) and I am really embracing FDS and keeping my standards high...I know I am better for it tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Low effort first dates are basedShe dressed appropriately for the date | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/20 04:32 PM |
| 73 | LVM takes his date for a walk in the park and proceeds to sh*t himself in the bushes. Karma for organising an awful ‘date’.Haha perfect timing..I just declined a coffee/walk date for this Saturday with a 40 year old man. He was cool leading up to it so I felt bad. But yeah, I need a place with a CHAIR and TOILET. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 03:17 PM |
| 3 | "A Super Strange True Love Story: My Disappearing Fiancé." She gives him everything, he disappears with another woman. Tale as old as time.Yes, with his next partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Are there any older, single females on here still figuring things out?35 too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 10:07 AM |
| 13 | Own It!!Heheheee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 12:28 AM |
| 22 | Success StoriesI am curious about these stories as well! I think the point of FDS is more about becoming a HVW regardless of whether you get a HVM or not. But for some of us, a partner/family is a goal so it would be encouraging to hear from those who found that on their HV journey. | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Well he messaged me the morning of and everything seemed to point yo meeting. It wasn’t miscommunication bc he ghosted, I think it was done intentionally to upset me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.I agree, esp because he changed his profile bio to sound more like me. It seems crazy petty tho | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:29 PM |
| 8 | I wish my bf knew how to touch me non-sexually. Why does he do this?Good for you for recognizing it and not being in denial. It is hard to walk away from someone we have grown comfortable with. I was in denial with my guy and our relationship was so short...I rationalized or overlooked everything bc I am 35 and want marriage/kids. But now that I follow FDS, I realize I would be putting myself and any potential kids in an awful situation if I stayed with him. Good luck sis! | /r/askFDS | 15/11/20 07:30 PM |
| 15 | I wish my bf knew how to touch me non-sexually. Why does he do this?Yeah at 2 years in, I would run away! Esp if you want marriage and kids. | /r/askFDS | 15/11/20 07:23 PM |
| 21 | I wish my bf knew how to touch me non-sexually. Why does he do this?My ex was like this too. We were both in our mid 30s and he had a high sex drive. We dated for about 5 months and I think only ONCE did we see each other and not have sex..and it was because it was a short visit. He tried to pressure me to have sex on my period even though I told him I am not comfortable with that. When I was not interested in multiple sex romps in a day or wanted a break, he would act concerned about our future and bring up that his married friend was having marital problems du… | /r/askFDS | 15/11/20 07:04 PM |
| 3 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Yeah. Well I unmatched him the first time. I’m still having a hard time believing he went out of his way to message me, update his profile, plan a date, and message me for 4 days just to get “revenge”?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 69 | He keeps telling me he's "relaxed"?Yeah that would weird me out. My dad always said men who announce things (ex: I am a good or nice guy) are usually not what they are announcing. Also reminds me of that Shakespeare quote “doth protest too much.” Who is he trying to convince? That said, I don’t know if I would end it for that alone but it would definitely put me at unease and make me more vigilant. He could just be awkward or manifesting what he wants to be? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:40 PM |
| 7 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Right. But i have a history of anxiety and sometimes it’s hard to assess what is what. With this one, I knew something was off but there were enough signs to suggest he was legit. It’s all a learning experience and I refuse to give hp because of shitty men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:16 PM |
| 9 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Well the honestly thought this time he realized he should follow through with making date plans and he did that. In hindsight, it was stupid of me. I did for a moment think what if he is bitter and stands me up, but we are in our 30s and I thought no way would a grown man do that. He reached out every day leading up to the date, what a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 17 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.That’s wise. Luckily he gave me restaurant choices and I chose a place super close to me so it was a short walk. But I did get ready and did my make up. I am glad I didn’t even bother to get seated. This guy seems cruel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:09 PM |
| 3 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.Thanks, I guess I do blame myself for allowing it to happen to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:00 PM |
| 36 | How do you forgive yourself for being a pickme (my journey to FDS)I happened to be listening to an interview today with a happily married couple as I was getting ready for a date (that stood me up). The lady said she was just tired of men/dating and that she basically had every awful experience a woman can have from cheating to disrespect. She said she wrote down every single bad experience she had on a piece of paper, then burned it. She emphasized needing to be at a good place before she could find love. I liked that, and I plan to do it tomorrow as a cleans… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 08:42 AM |
| 18 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.It’s hard to explain. He isn’t a bot in that I got basic responses but something did feel off but I thought it’s just bc its text and we haven’t met yet. Like he did not feed off my responses all that much but then he also seemed normal too. Even today, he sent that clip of good morn song which I thought was a good move, then chatted about something that happened where we live. When planning the date he mentioned a few restaurant options consistent with my diet preferences in our area. All good … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:54 AM |
| 3 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Date 1: no show | /r/askFDS | 15/11/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDI have the same experience, I go on way less dates since FDS bc most offers are a walk or coffee and I now turn those down. I even put my ideal first date in my profile prompts...but guys still ask for walks. I did have a guy plan a dinner date 4 days in advance after I declined his invite for last minute drinks this week. Another guy asked me to a museum exhibit a week in advance but canceled the day of. Dating is a lot slower with FDS but I am saving my time and energy. I can use my time to do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:23 PM |
| -1 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Um disagree | /r/askFDS | 14/11/20 01:17 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020100% agree. These men are a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:41 AM |
| 24 | BasicallyYoleendadong | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 04:50 AM |
| 10 | LVM “All men ogle” myth BUSTED 😎Ah this! I do this at times bc I have a hard to read face and just overall unassuming/laid back vibe. But that is the only way I have retrieved useful info from a psycho guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 32 | LVM “All men ogle” myth BUSTED 😎I co-sign this. My ex did not stare at women in my presence, even when I took him to a yoga class with half naked hot women...I commented on it later and he said “You look great, and I kept checking YOU out.” Well, he also told me he used dating apps as masturbation material so 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:31 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Yep totally relate. Yay to us. I have 2 scheduled dates this weekend and I don’t even care lol. I used to fantasize and overthink, not anymore. I heard of people talking about getting to this place and it always seemed fictional- like I could understand it, but never truly feel happy and content while single deep inside. But here I am. It took a bad recipe to get here (a break up then covid keeping us apart, then me discovering FDS). But I got here, and I am so thankful I did because I really be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 01:23 AM |
| 13 | I used to seek validation and closure from my past relationship. A very wise HVM told me “if he’s telling you who he is through his actions listen to him and drop him, sis!” No truer words spoken. Lesson learned. Moving on...Why need closure from someone who is a complete fool? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:32 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Right! I would have said that my yoga studio is my sacred space but maybe some day he’ll be able to experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:31 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I’m noticing this too! Since FDS I get better date proposals but I also turn down a lot more LV effort dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:31 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I am learning to keep things to myself and not talk about my growth or things going on in my life. I found that sharing issues or discussing dates with LV people gets me stuck and in a rut. I am glad I have FDS to turn to :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:28 PM |
| 23 | Female SpacesYes. A new bar/restaurant in my city has a large multi-stall gender neutral bathroom. I am very uncomfortable being alone in that space with a male, especially when it’s late and there are intoxicated men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Haha yep, the more crap I turn down, the better offers come in lol | /r/askFDS | 12/11/20 01:04 AM |
| 2 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Update: 2 fellows I am talking to confirmed dates- one for Saturday night with time/place and another for Sunday afternoon with time/place (although he asked how about 12p or 1pm at xx?). We shall see. Last weekend I was flaked on the morning of a well planned out date...so I have low expectations :) | /r/askFDS | 12/11/20 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Women hit a wall..??!Haha funny, I saw this photo then googled Leo thinking he must be a lot older than I thought. Nope, he is 45. Already slipping... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Ok so the guy I turned down for a next-day date followed up today to ask if he can take me to dinner over the weekend. I was going to unmatch him soon. I am already looking at him side eyed but surprised he came back with an appropriate offer. I am skeptical but will agree and see if he sets up everything right.. | /r/askFDS | 11/11/20 08:22 PM |
| 9 | And here we have NVM/LVMs who whine about paying for a first date huhLmao true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:19 PM |
| 31 | Multiple green flags! Notice how he gets up to clean immediately, involves the kid in his happiness, puts off the playing till later when the kids are in bed. Etc. It’s the small things.Haha I am glad you 20somethings felt that way because I am 35 and thought it too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Yes that’s what I think. If guys want entertainment they try to fill you into their schedule but if they want to really meet and see you, then they figure out how they can fit into yours. | /r/askFDS | 11/11/20 02:51 PM |
| 7 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Right I’m used to men just directly asking “can i take you to sinner” then if I agree, they figure out a date/time that works for me. But lately its been these guys only asking for a last minute thing but nothing else. | /r/askFDS | 11/11/20 03:30 AM |
| 6 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Dummies. Then the weekend rolls around and they still have no date and wonder why. | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 10:52 PM |
| 20 | watching Dawson’s creek!I always loved Pacey 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 10:15 PM |
| 10 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Yes! And time would be wasted. If he even took me up on that hint, I would eventually realize what I realize now without hinting..he isn’t bold and he isn’t worthy. Thanks lady ;) | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 09:51 PM |
| 25 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Haha yes. It’s honestly good self control practice for me because when I hear an inner voice saying “he is cute, just tell him you are free Friday instead”, my FDS knowledge kicks in and says NO. And it gets easier with each guy. | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 36 | Why do guys ask you on a date for X day and when you say you already have plans, they do not even bother asking for another available date?Some of these guys seem insecure and can barely get the courage to ask for a last minute date. Honestly its so easy for them with OLD and if they can’t jump on the opportunity that falls in their lap (I matched back and am engaging), they aren’t the men for me! But ugh, so many weak men! | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 08:03 PM |
| 21 | My friend has been using OLD recently and told me 10 men in a row have asked her for a PARK DATE. I AM GOING TO SCREAM!!!!My area is not as cold so we can still do outdoor dining. But many restaurants are getting their patios “winterized” so with heat lamp and some covering, we can still comfortably eat outdoor. It’s actually a neat set up, and I enjoy the ambiance of outdoor dining much more than indoor. Feels very euro, and a good way to support the local economy during what is going to be a hard season (well your date, bc he is paying lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 05:42 AM |
| 10 | THIS is why we don’t date men who insist on going dutch!! He’s the gold digger!!!This reminds me of my ex who was very against trendy restaurants, but he was just cheap. It’s not even about the trend, but it is nice to get dressed up and enjoy a romantic night out. We never had that. He always treated me, but we never went anywhere that would require him spending more than $10-12 on me and never a place with a nice ambiance. I asked if I could treat him to dinner for his birthday, he agreed. I made reservations to a very nice tapas spot and I got dressed up, even got a blow … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:39 AM |
| 34 | I hope they picked her. 😒🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 9 | Is this a deal breaker? How do I proceed? Or do I not proceed?Sounds fine to me since he apologized, had a feasible explanation, and took action immediately. I would move on from this issue but still keep vigilant, 6 weeks is not that long...I don’t even know if I would agree to exclusivity that early. | /r/askFDS | 10/11/20 01:51 AM |
| 31 | Being a pickmeisha won’t make men like youThis summarizes the epiphany I had today. Someone posted that J Lo song “I ain’t your mama” and I played it in the car, then it all hit me. How would a man ever love me and treat me right if I don’t demonstrate it to him. I gotta LOVE me and live in my worth, and not some bullshit fleeting moment of confidence. I mean really and truly be in that spirit and truly operate by believing in me and living for me first and foremost. How could I not? I was dating from a fearful place, thinking my value … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 01:13 AM |
| 252 | He deleted his video afterwards.I love her face! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:50 PM |
| 89 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?Omg this hits home. I have definitely gotten the ick. Thank goodness for it, bc the ick is what kept me from taking back my LV ex during covid loneliness (before I discovered FDS). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:49 PM |
| 3 | If she doesn’t end things now, she’ll end up on breaking moms. She doesn’t have much time to make the decision.Goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Comment here to become an approved userRequest to commmwnt | /r/askFDS | 09/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 13 | These guys get it: The Bar is Low by Pissed JeansLol! Perfect. Thanks for sharing. The fact that the video is set in a gym speaks to my heart. I am a fitness fanatic and LVM try to sell me on the fact that they are just as fit too..but usually turns out they just go on walks and maybe bike every now and then. Such frauds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 03:29 PM |
| 32 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020This was a lovely weekend in my town, probably one of the nice ones before it gets cold. I wanted to go on a first date, and my date canceled on me the day of. I hung out yesterday with my best guy friend, he took me to my favorite park and bought a bunch of snacks and wine then treated me to dinner afterward. I am thankful for him. I had to remind myself to be present and enjoy the many good life experiences. I am 35 and want a family, sometimes I find myself not having fun or enjoying positive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 01:23 PM |
| 20 | A man who has nothing to hide will hide nothing.Eek. Never heard of that sub, I may have to take a QUICK peak. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:51 PM |
| 107 | All men do is take, take and take! Ladies keep your peace safe.Lmao. Story of my life. At the start of every relationship, men remark how calming and zen I am. Fast forward to their bullshit phase, and I never hear that again...yeah because you zapped it out of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:29 PM |
| 78 | A man who has nothing to hide will hide nothing.This is so sad. She must know the truth, how can she lay out those facts and then question her own sanity. I hope she finds awareness for her own well being, someone should refer her to FDSz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesLol honestly it confirmed my instincts are SO on point. I could not pinpoint it but I knew he was full of shit but thought I should be open to it bc he was nice and put forth effort, but still I knew something was off. Next time I am trusting my gut, without rhyme or reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 06:02 AM |
| 5 | Why women must appear vulnerable?I am not a smiley person, and I won’t pretend to be for anyone. But another thing, is I do have a ‘sweet/shy demeanor’ when you first talk to me, and that has led men to think I am younger and more naive than I actually am. Those guys tend to be idiots. I don’t want a man afraid of my true voice and energy. The man who played me the worst is the one who had the ‘sweetest’ impression of me. The ones I was my true savage self with, never played me and never called me sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:25 PM |
| 53 | PickMe Friends Are Poison... Eventhough You Love Them So Much! Cut The Ties For Your Own GoodMy pickme friend is the only one who told me to communicate with my ex that manipulated me and would punish me the silent treatment..she even ties his behavior to something I must be doing. Even my LV male friends told me to run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:20 PM |
| 13 | Man thinks because you matched with him on tinder, you should have sex with him 😒 gets pissed when a girl doesn’tI use and Tinder and I am not down to hook up. It’s just the app with the highest amount of users in my area, but I have to weed out 99% of the guys obviously and vet. So no, this guy is definitely disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 04:18 PM |
| 18 | Condescending Female Dating Coaches- SheraSeven + Black MermaidShe judges harshly but she doesn’t appear exceptionally healthy to me. Idk why her life is supposed to be so desirable, it seems toxic and not that meaningful? I want what she has (a family) but I don’t want to conspire for it lol. I am all for strategy and instilling wisdom in my approach, but blatantly lying and withholding important info..nah. I can’t imagine why a HVM would be with a woman who lied to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:53 AM |
| 4 | Condescending Female Dating Coaches- SheraSeven + Black MermaidYes that’s true, I like her perspective on staying elevated and ‘playing’ men instead if allowing them play you. BUT I don’t find it empowering to have to live a lie or pretend to get material things. I would rather get them for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:24 AM |
| 40 | Condescending Female Dating Coaches- SheraSeven + Black MermaidI checked out Shera7 after a colleague told me about her. I agree about her videos being long rants with insults, ego and little value. My colleague told me that according to Shera, we should lie about occupations. We are both attorneys but she said we should inform men that we are receptionists or something clerical (I don’t recall the rationale, I think bc men will think we don’t need them?). Also shera7 recommends dating much older men. My colleague told me she donated to shera7 on a live str… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 02:15 AM |
| 18 | Applies to generic white malesI cringe now when I think at all the guys who complimented me for how “I carry myself” and that women do not “behave” like me anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Applies to generic white malesWhere do we draw the line? I do not like men who immediately ask about my ethnic background based on my appearance- I tell them I am American (regardless of where my parents are from). But at the same time I have a foreign name, and sometimes guys won’t even inquire about my name or where it’s from. It really is a name I am sure they have never heard of and would be unable to place (my parents are from a tiny, obscure country). So sometimes I get annoyed by being “othered” but then other times I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:56 AM |
| 25 | Applies to generic white malesYea I wanted to echo this. As a WOC not of American descent, I get called exotic by both white men and black men. It’s honestly more so with black men because I am black but “different”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:52 AM |
| 3 | A little reminder for everyone 💕12/12 in my last relationship! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:49 AM |
| 61 | Be alert...cuffing season is here.Hmm I am a little weary as I date because I want long term and my last relationship took me from fall through Feb 1. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 01:21 AM |
| 4 | The Value of Block and DeleteLol. What’s scary is my ex was a legit military spy that hoked he could stalk me without me every knowing...yay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:53 AM |
| 6 | The Value of Block and DeleteThats why my male friend advised me to not block my ex, he said I won’t know if his craziness has elevated and he is coming for me..sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:32 AM |
| 67 | What in the ever loving pickmeisha hell is this?And gym membership | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:14 AM |
| 2 | My mom is a QUEEN & HVWHaha same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Throw away the lemon. Came across this while reading today, thought some of you would appreciate it.Make space in your life for the glorious things you deserve. Have faith. The message I needed today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:59 PM |
| 10 | She needs to post a tutorial for all pickmeishas out there 😭😭👏🏻Yeah, cute video but no thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesHe canceled this morning, he said he is stressed from everything going on in the world and wants to just be with a book. He said he would like to do dinner it was next week. I expressed I was no longer interested and wished him luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:28 PM |
| 68 | I just got dumped for being “too opinionated”This happened to me on a FIRST date. The guy wanted to talk politics and I said no, let’s just keep it light and get to know each other. This was during a very sensitive and divisive time in our country. Well be did not agree with my opinions and said “you’re smart but you see things wrong.” Then I asked to change topic, nope he said HE wants to talk about this. Well...I left. F- these guys. Want to have discussions but can’t handle a woman having her own opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 19 | Gaslit and Called Crazy So Long I Believe It. How to Get OverLose respect for your ex and everything he thought or said about you, then the rest falls into place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:31 AM |
| 6 | What is a HV way to tell someone they're not right for you?Yeah, whenever I discussed turning down a guy with my male friends, they always thought I was being “too dramatic” when I thought I was simply being thoughtful in how to gently turn a man down. Now I get it, men don’t care about our feelings and turning women down. We shouldn’t out so much thought and energy into people who so not so the same for us. | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 10:53 PM |
| 28 | Take my word for it, because I couldn't take your's...Truth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 11 | “It doesn’t matter if he cheats as long as you know he loves you” - a friend of a friend. Can she be saved?Eh keep her out of your ears and mind lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 10:29 PM |
| 10 | Pickmeisha Music Detox ChallengeLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 10:28 PM |
| 11 | Part 3 <3No I think she’s reflecting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 30 | Why do women tolerate this? They know but they stay...She should leave him and share custody so he has the kids full time at some points..but those poor kids might get neglected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:46 PM |
| 17 | Why do women tolerate this? They know but they stay...Goodness. I want a hubby and kids but damn, I can’t imagine a shower being my only break...esp since my whole life is my break rn lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:44 PM |
| 15 | Just out in the open on an OLD profile.Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel HellerYeah, nope...I won’t tolerate a partner checking out women in front of me. I have dated men that have done it and others who act like they are blind to anyone but me, so I know it’s possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:58 AM |
| 25 | Perfect response!I love you ladies, such queen mindsets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:39 AM |
| 7 | Perfect response!Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:39 AM |
| 11 | Is this romantic or cheap?True. My ex invited me to a picnic and only brought a blanket, I still dated him bc he was hot 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:36 AM |
| 38 | Is this romantic or cheap?And how else can we trust what a man that we do not know has prepared for us to drink/eat? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 03:34 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Yes, I was shocked. I have talked to many men in my life and the only vetting they did was with their eyes! It’s like I have PTSD, when he said he wanted to ask me something I legit braced myself for a dick pic or sex request smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:26 AM |
| 65 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsYeah, i responded in great detail to a post explaining why the fact that we we get so many matches means NOTHING. Then an angry man responded “but you get matches”!!! It’s like me craving a steak and someone saying, well look at all these squirrels outside! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:36 PM |
| 22 | How to deal with men talking to youHe can contact venmo or subpoena their records. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 13 | How to deal with men talking to youSmart ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 10:03 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I just encountered a man that vets while OLD! He asked me on a date 4 days in advance, and I accepted. Then while chatting he asked when my last relationship was and when I asked why he had asked, he said he tries to avoid being a rebound. I was put off at first, bc I feel like he should wait to meet me IRL to ask these questions. But he made a comment about dating is enjoyable when you know what to avoid. So its refreshing bc nearly every guy I encounter on app has the sole goal of meeting IRL … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:48 PM |
| 33 | How to deal with men talking to youAs an attorney, I would advise against it. It’s a cute story but illegal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:43 PM |
| 13 | How to deal with men talking to youBut I just looked at my venmo transaction history and everyone’s FULL name is listed lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:42 PM |
| 12 | How to deal with men talking to youI meant in the venmo app! You can see who you sent money to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 09:08 PM |
| 29 | How to deal with men talking to youAh ok, didn’t know that. But I thought when you look at your transactions it gives you the details of who you sent your money to...but unless he reports it to venmo, it probably won’t get hum anywhere...and even then, unlikely they can do anything. Maybe that’s why he wanted footage, to press charges. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:55 PM |
| 9 | If you don’t meet him half way he really does go all the way.I thought for the first month you only go on one date a week per FDS? At what point should we allow for 2 dates per week? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 44 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesYesterday a man who claims to be 39 but probably 50 asked me (35) if I could be his sugar baby..sigh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:17 PM |
| 22 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesHaha I have a date this weekend and am bracing for the guy to blow it before it even happens ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:17 PM |
| 15 | Share your ridiculous OLD storiesDamn | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:15 PM |
| 61 | How to deal with men talking to youLol that is hilarious! But I would think he could track her by her venmo handle 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 07:13 PM |
| 3 | It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards.Yeah I never thought of it like that til now. And he would get mad when I needed to pee or wanted to take a break or something...yikes :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Hmm thanks for answering! Your explanation if how you behaved allows me to relate to it. I guess I saw myself doing that last year when I entered a relationship with a hot millionaire smh..I became all about him and was adopting his views and opinions. I felt so lucky. I thought I had it all figured out and was insensitive towards my single friend on a trip. But I knew it was bullshit, I think I was convincing myself that all was good bc my instincts told me something was off about him. So then … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 03:29 PM |
| 22 | Even a 35 yo man has these same meltdowns but they're the logical sex!!!Lol what? As someone who has a brother..this is bullshit. My mom always talks about me having future daughters lol, because she loves me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 01:41 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I am a little proud of myself today. I dealt with a couple moments of rollercoaster of emotions and kept on through. I was strong when I needed to be and vulnerable when I needed to be. It feels good to know that I have my own interest in mind in how I act and interact. Thank you FDS 🙏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 02:44 AM |
| 2 | A guy asked me if I want to go to a sold out art exhibit with him on Friday for a first date..but he mentioned he had bought tickets and his friend bailed on him. Did I respond appropriately?True. I luckily ended with an lol” and he in used a laugh emoji back when be clarified. I’ll relax and be nice to him. Yeah, I think I am looking for something wrong now..heightened post FDS awareness and slightly paranoid after a toxic break up. | /r/askFDS | 04/11/20 01:33 AM |
| 5 | The Only Time You Can Bargain is Before PurchaseYes. I am not Kenyan but was watching Kenyan TV on youtube lol ..Dr. Zulu Benjamin has a lot of good videos and he preaches FDS principles through it all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:47 AM |
| 37 | The tyrannical minority benefit the majorityThank you. I hang around a lot of men and I am usually the only one vocal about shit, the other men may agree with me but do not speak up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 12:29 AM |
| 10 | November 2020 TheRealFemaleDatingStrategy.com Website Q&A Thread! Ask your website questions here!I just turned down a last minute date with a guy I matched with and looks cute and seems interesting enough. What a bummer..he asked me to grab a drink or coffee TONIGHT, its already 5pm here and our city is boarding up. I said no, and he said he understands and we can hopefully go out another time...sigh. I wonder if any guy is going to do things properly and ask me out at least 3 days in advance for something decent. Feeling defeated. Old pick me would continue to try with him, but I think I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 10 | The Only Time You Can Bargain is Before PurchaseFDS strategy is world wife and male endorsed 🙌🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Covid dating and early dating exclusivity..?THANKS! That’s why I value this feedback. Makes sense | /r/askFDS | 03/11/20 06:25 PM |
| 37 | WaLk DaTe??? 🥴🥴 💦Yep. So many men have “let’s go on a walk” on their profiles...thanks for making it easy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:07 AM |
| 96 | It’s sad this is normalized but it has to be said. Many women don’t realize their partners hate them because they’re so used to CoMmUniCaTing and negotiating their standards.I still cringe at my last break up...it was bc of sex. We had sex 2 times in a 24 hour period and when it came to him initiating a 3rd, I tried to get into it but I was clearly tired and uncomfortable. He yelled at me and accused me of faking bathroom breaks (even tho I pee often even during non-sex times, and its a running joke with everyone in my life). And if he thought I was faking pee breaks to escape, shouldn’t he have checked in with me and my feelings rather than yell at me? He started t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:32 AM |
| 22 | Well...LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Hey lady. Try to remember this is temporary. I know the situation sucks but you’re not alone. A lot of people feel stuck for various reasons. 6 days of work a week sounds like a lot..I want suggest you take up running or learn meditation, whatever it is that can bring you peace, but I know time is limited for you. Message me if you want tips on getting started with meditation, even 10 mins a day makes a difference. Try to learn good coping habits now because life will always bring us stressful t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:01 AM |
| 2 | How to reconcile a man spoiling you with them being financially responsible?Eh I pay $2k a month in rent in my major city, it’s expensive but I want to live in a nice building with amenities, in a safe neighborhood that is walking distance to everything. Sure some would judge me as financially irresponsible just based on my rent, but I spend no more than 18% of my income on my rent...so I think you should put these things in perspective. I still save and invest a lot of my income. | /r/askFDS | 02/11/20 11:59 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I’m shocked lol. He excitedly messaged me and we live in an international city and I look quite foreign 🤷🏾♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 11:08 PM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020I (35) matched with a 44M republican. I don’t care about political affiliation but when he asked about a travel pic and I responded that it was in my parents home country (I am first generation American), he unmatched me. Wow. I almost ruled him out because his age and FDS principles..thats what I get for not following the handbook haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020No lol we will be awesome women until we find our equals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 02:51 PM |
| 22 | Let's discuss this exchange. What are your thoughts?He loved throwing out that she is “almost 40” and the “oldest bachelorette there ever was” LOL what a fool. Doesn’t he know everyone ages, if they are lucky. Also, who says maturity is tied to age? He is 30 himself and far from mature. He looks much older than 30 to me..let’s see what he looks like in a decade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 05:24 AM |
| 9 | Let's discuss this exchange. What are your thoughts?Yeah, I notice people do that when they’re so angry and smug...they’re not IN a conversation but have unleashed their full on loony self. I think that’s why he seemed demented. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 05:19 AM |
| 7 | Nice guys moves that aren't actually nice..1. Saying if you need support they are always there. They do that so when you are in vulnerable state and need comfort, they can use your weak state to find a way to sleep with you and take advantage of you.She’s great | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 01:58 AM |
| 28 | Maybe right now, your journey isn’t about love.I like this, but it’s hard to resonate with it after so long of being alone. I am 35, have a professional degree/career, volunteer/give back, have traveled the world, and spent years learning about myself. I’ve been in shit relationships that never lasted. Until this year I didn’t realize I was naive about men, but my eyes have finally been opened. Maybe thats what always have been missing, and I am leveling up in that regard. But man, do I want love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 11:22 PM |
| 2 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateLol i don’t either. I just meant some guys would then not pay or not even wait for the uber. But you’re right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Hi lady, I can relate at 35. I feel like I should have learned these things years ago but I was a late bloomer with dating. I think finding this sub will save us a lot of time and heartbreak. I wish you well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:12 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Any tips on how to not feel let down by friends that are much luckier in love? At 35, most of my friends have found their partners and are starting/growing their families. We commiserated while we were both single but now it seems like I am on my own. I don’t get any sympathy or thoughtfulness. For example, my good friend got married last week so ofc she is on cloud9. But wince she got engaged, I don’t think there has been a single exchange about me and my challenges. I informed her of a bad bre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 4 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateLmao true! So sad that I find decent behavior refreshing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:45 PM |
| 4 | I accept.🙌🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:12 PM |
| 44 | FDS has ruined my lifeBitter sweet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:08 PM |
| 69 | FDS has ruined my lifeLol me too!! My guy friend made a comment about “whatever it is you have been reading lately” haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:08 PM |
| 3 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateYeah you owe her no explanation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateHe at least was respectful when she declined and waited for her uber to arrive. He sadly could have been worse :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 3 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateAs a curly hair girl prone to rain frizz, I concur lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:32 PM |
| 9 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateHaha right, he only values the ones he could not “get” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 18 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateFuture you thanks current you for telling him to fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:22 PM |
| 1 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateLol well said caff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 7 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateGood for you. The fact that this guy jumped into his therapy, exes etc sounds alarming for a first date. And the thing about you waiting outside, um..why wouldn’t he let you know he arrived and is seated at a table?! I would be annoyed by that too. You sound a lot like me regarding past relationships and looking for someone so unique, that you overlooked red flags when you found them. I also had a scarcity mindset with my last ex- we were the same kind of weird, he got me, and I thought I will n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:18 PM |
| 44 | For anyone who needs to hear this today.Hmm yeah I swipe left on those people. I’m not here to convince them I am worth a commitment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Gonna message him tomorrow, it’s late where I am :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:32 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020A guy I recently matched with and am interested in going out with asked me today (Saturday)what area of our city I live in and what I am up to this weekend. I am obviously not going to say I am free, even tho I am lounging in sweats all weekend. But I also don’t sound warm/inviting/interested in messaging. Wondering what I can say that says I am unavailable but not disinterested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 11:29 PM |
| 50 | Faking pleasure- pick me behavior?I literally say you can finish now lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 10:07 PM |
| 25 | “Online dating is so easy for women, you get so many messages!” My inbox:Haha I was legit asked to a park date on a 100 degree day this summer, the guy offered to bring water and pistachios lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 03:02 PM |
| 24 | I love how OP handled this like a queen 🙌👑 the audacity of this selfish guy trying to pressure her into being a warm fleshlightShe’s my hero | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:56 PM |
| 41 | I love how OP handled this like a queen 🙌👑 the audacity of this selfish guy trying to pressure her into being a warm fleshlightI had this problem with exes too. When I finish, it’s silent and you can’t tell bc the signs are so subtle..but I can tell of course (my hearing goes out, and legs tremble a bit). But men are always dissatisfied bc there was not a big display. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:54 PM |
| 36 | I love how OP handled this like a queen 🙌👑 the audacity of this selfish guy trying to pressure her into being a warm fleshlightYes, moms do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:52 PM |
| 21 | How do you embrace your haters?Hahaha awesome! I notice the tall men are the supportive ones actually...and my biggest haters are the men my height or below (I’m 5’9). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 03:25 AM |
| 23 | How do you embrace your haters?Thanks. You are right about one guy negging me...he has expressed interest in me in the past but I played it off. I asked him to knock off the harsh and inappropriate comments with me. Today I walked in and he just glared hatefully at me...it was intense, didn’t even break when I looked back at him. I at least continued to say hi to him, as I do to everyone when I walk into the space but no more. I discussed with my mom and we agreed that I will change my work out times and coaches so I don’t ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 13 | Men talking to you like you're 15 - any experiences?Lol I wanted to unmatch a guy who initiated with “how r u” but we seemed to have a lot in common so I continued to chat for a couple days. Well lo and behold, he is unemployed despite listing he was an architect, real estate developer, etc (he basically worked for his parents home flipping business but quit). FleetingDaisy, you are wise. | /r/askFDS | 30/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 10 | Men talking to you like you're 15 - any experiences?It is a turn off when men do not use complete sentences and type shorthand (u, r, ur). I don’t write the same way I would when on reddit or apps as I would when drafting a work report, but I relay some effort and maturity and I expect the same. | /r/askFDS | 30/10/20 06:47 PM |
| 13 | Never let the pain take you from what your future holds!!I needed to hear this today. I was surrendering to some pain I felt from feeling constantly misunderstood the point of feeling beat down and disrespected lately. I even had a good cry in the car. I felt I will never find love or have a family. But I won’t let the pain take away my faith and hope. Thanks for posting this 🙏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:55 AM |
| 3 | Real love VS. Toxic relationshipI hope you learn to embrace it. I hope for your luck one day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 12:14 AM |
| 8 | Real love VS. Toxic relationshipOne thing I notice is I talk too much when I don’t feel comfortable or valued around a man I am seeing. It’s like I’m subconsciously seeking validation or trying to convince him of my worth, and I have to blab a lot. I am not a blabber at heart, so I would like to think I can be comfortably quiet around a real love (haven’t had it yet). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 12:13 AM |
| 6 | I ignored all FDS last guy I dated (inevitability ended in failure- now I want to do it right! - advice pleaseI think it’s fine to not text much. He called and set up a date..save the convo for the date! Checking in every so often via text is fine. He just sounds mature in his communication style..incessant texting it annoying and creates false intimacy. | /r/askFDS | 28/10/20 02:36 PM |
| 2 | InspirationIs it arrogant that I think these are the traits I possess? I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:26 AM |
| 15 | People who enable toxic abusers are just as toxic and should also be removed from your lifeSometimes it’s your own friends. When I relayed my last encounter with my ex which involved extreme manipulation, my “best friend” asked why I just don’t communicate with him. Lol. Every other person I shared the story with, including men, were horrified by his behavior and advised me to cut my losses. I decided to keep my former BFF at arms length when it comes to my relationships and sharing details or allowing her the space to give me advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 07:16 PM |
| 9 | Im not saying he is a HVM, but he has potentialYep. Every well off man I know goes for that type as soon as they “make it”... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:28 PM |
| 11 | Im not saying he is a HVM, but he has potentialHaha he sounds like a bitter loser | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:27 PM |
| 7 | An elite FDS song to vibe toWhat is UHNW? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:21 PM |
| 17 | Women have a genuine cause of fear while dating but men, oh men, they're scared that somehow a woman will order all the expensive food and not even wet his D.I hope she recovers well 🙏🏾 Men get angry and insult me if I don’t acknowledge them when they are just creepy strangers on the street and I am trying to simply walk in my city. Ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 03:07 PM |
| 30 | oh honey noI went to a wedding the other day, the bride didn’t even get an engagement ring. She technically popped the question 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Imagine not replying for two hours because you’re studying and you come back to this...Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:44 PM |
| 23 | Some of y'all...Lmao. The current price should be higher tho.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Help me figure out if I’m married to a LVMRegarding the dee conversations, I don’t think that is something he can change or switch on. Some people are simply not deep, philosophical type of thinkers. It would be a dealbreaker for me. But I am wondering how OP dealt with dates/convos with him prior to the first marriage? | /r/askFDS | 26/10/20 02:37 PM |
| 30 | No longer jealous of all the engagement posts from friends because I am happy and confident being singleI am happy to not be with a LVM, but I do hope to find a HVM partner. I am also happy for my friends who find HVM. I went to a small wedding reception of my childhood friend this weekend, and they are both SO in love. But then I heard she actually popped the question, and I thought of FDS haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:58 PM |
| 12 | I lost hope in love and running into a HVM has changed my life.Not all “18 months” are equal. One couple can see each other every day, another once a week, and some are long distance. And sadly surprises come at even year 10 or 30! You must stay vigilant, always...and use your best judgment and instincts early on. People don’t tend to leave a partner even when they show their full self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:14 AM |
| 22 | The first date walk in the park stikes again!Haha agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:30 PM |
| 23 | I lost hope in love and running into a HVM has changed my life.Why 2 years? I think for older couples who want to start a family, engagement at 1-1.5 years is acceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:29 PM |
| 85 | The first date walk in the park stikes again!Actually, I would not be surprised. Men blow opportunities with women way out of their league physically with stupid date ideas, so maybe they would be dumb enough to ask Gigi Hadid to the park lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 10:23 PM |
| 9 | Quick question - Can you tell me your stories of meeting your first HVM in the wild? (I'm in disbelief I might have found one?)The part of the handbook rings true here, you told him your expectation and he complied...but he didn’t change, he just got strategic. This confirms that we should just walk away at the first sign of disrespect. I am sorry you had to go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:42 PM |
| 9 | Keep Your Standards HighBeautifully said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Thanks! It wasn’t easy but I know it’s the right choice :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 03:12 PM |
| 31 | Words of WisdomMy friend is like this. He turned 40 and is panicking because he is single. He now is scrambling to find a gf for a future wife. But he can’t sleep or eat and is riddled with anxiety. What woman wants to take that on? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:39 PM |
| 61 | Haha... NoHaha I dated a guy with 3 different DV charges with 2 different victims, and good old public records possibly saved me from being the third. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:37 PM |
| 6 | 🤔Is the bar really this low? (click photo for full thread)Yeah story of my life. I am not fussy and do everything for myself, so I thought I did not need much from a partner. But resentment is real! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 01:36 PM |
| 10 | What are your favourite "casual" questions to ask a new guy to figure him out (for the purpose of vetting without him knowing)?Um a man can just make up answers that sound good. Or they may not be self aware enough to truly assess themselves. As the handbook states, pay attention to a man’s actions. Words can be meaningless and have little value with someone you are just getting to know. | /r/askFDS | 24/10/20 01:15 AM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I made progress today due to FDS! I “dated” (read: hooked up with) a well connected man a couple years ago. He pursued me hard (for sex) and I was a bit star struck so I guess I let him get away with poor behavior. We remained “friends” and every year when he visits my city or when I would visit his, I would hook up with him (it was pleasurable for me). He has a public platform and conveyed messages that indicate he is quite LV. Well he is in town tonight, and he reached out and..I ignored him! … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 04:24 PM |
| 8 | Fakers?Then follow your gut and delete | /r/askFDS | 23/10/20 08:33 AM |
| 4 | Fakers?Reverse image search on google | /r/askFDS | 23/10/20 03:54 AM |
| 21 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 60 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Last sentence - truth ! We know, but we lie to ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:37 AM |
| 29 | What hard lessons did you learn over the years through dating?Amen on military men...full of lies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 03:36 AM |
| 37 | Woman is grateful that her amazing hook-up doesn't want her to die and informed her of a possible breast lump. How low is the bar exactly?Sadly, there are men who could care less so the bar is very low! I have a tumor in my breast that my ex bf discovered- I am glad he did. It’s benign and we monitor it. Another, subsequent ex bf also informed me of it. More recently, 2 LV losers I dated never commented on it, so yeah..they probably did not care if I die or not haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 11:03 PM |
| 20 | Did any of you queens find this sub AFTER marrying a LVM? How did you handle it?I’m sorry but your story sounds very common to me. I am American but my family of origin is not. I know people who married for a greencard and they do the very same things- put on a front as a loving partner but really they have ulterior motives and once they feel safe, their true intentions show. I don’t want to sound anti-immigrant and I would not doubt your marriage if not for the very obvious timeline with his change in behavior. He does not want to infest anything in his life with YOU, he i… | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 08:23 PM |
| 62 | you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️Yeah it’s bitter sweet. I love to see it but I feel some pain that at 35 I have yet to fine a man that even respects me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 07:35 PM |
| 42 | you deserve someone who takes care of you ❤️Same same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 07:31 PM |
| 115 | In case anyone asks...I wish those were the only things that happened to me 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 01:43 PM |
| 8 | Trying to dissect why my relationship broke apartHe wants to explore his other options. There is nothing else for you to figure out, forget about what his reasons are or what happened that him change. You want a partner that wants to be with you, and he isn’t it. You did nothing wrong here. | /r/askFDS | 22/10/20 02:38 AM |
| 9 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?I know his ex, she is smart but sweet, kind and cheery..but if something goes wrong or there is a challenge, she just makes basic comments like “it will get better!” rather than digging into things and coming up with solutions and such. He likes to talk and brainstorm, so he seems to be in denial thinking he can find a fun/joyful woman but then wants a serious minded partner when he is facing challenges lol. Delusional, like most men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:53 PM |
| 25 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyHe was my first real relationship, it started in my late 20s and he just turned 40..divorced with a kid. I was immature and learned that I did not want to sign up for all that. Also, he was LV in many ways- not a planner, not ambitious, bad finances, poor self care and did not work on his health/ staying in shape...over time I lost attraction. I would not date him had I known about FDS but I am glad my first relationship was not with a sexual deviant or hedonist like most other men lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:50 PM |
| 49 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.Right lol. I think they think that I THINK I’m a lawyer but really am a paralegal or legal secretary, I don’t know! Even worse is one of my male buddies is an attorney too, and when we around male acquaintances and anything legal comes up, they turn to him for advice and ignore my presence as an attorney completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:08 PM |
| 65 | Same 😞Yeah but this guy got a truck with lounge space in the back, seems to have brought a legit pizza and tons of cozy blankets. This is the drive in done right lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:28 PM |
| 26 | She says that Successful women have a harder time getting successful men. She says that those men are rare first of all and they don’t want to date you because of your achievements. They want you to be HOT as fuck and pure joy to be around . Thoughts ?My male acquaintance who makes $300k+ a year recently made a similar statement- he does not care about a woman’s career, he wants someone he can have “fun” with. But he just broke up with his gf because he couldn’t have meaningful conversations with her, he said she didn’t have much insight into things..lol. But at the same time, I know plenty of accomplished men who want the same in a partner. My successful exes would beam when they introduced me to family because not inly was I arm candy, I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 49 | This. I felt this was since i was 13 and got exposed to hardcore porn. People told me that i will change my mind when i grow up. But now i'm 21 and still feel this way, even worse now after my encounters with men and all the misogynyMy ex was like that..did not care for oral, he preferred to have sex. He actually thought men who were fixated on receiving oral were a bit perverted because in his opinion, regular sex felt better. He loved to go down tho! I was spoiled by him and til this day, I don’t perform oral lol. Maybe for a hubby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 34 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.Wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:23 PM |
| 107 | Ladies, I got asked if I do travel and accommodation at work. I'm an ENGINEER.Oh I get it! I’m an attorney but apparently I don’t look/act like one because when some men ask what I do and I inform them, they will then ask me whether I actually went to law school, actually work as a lawyer and other ridiculous questions. I learned to ignore it and internally laugh at their ignorance, but immediately write these fools off. These guys have fragile egos and seeing us as peers or even worse, superior to them professionally/academically, is something they must reject in their l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 03:22 PM |
| 1 | LV date Hall of ShameWhat’s sad is I dated him for 5 months. Pre FDS! Btw he is a verified millionaire, just cheap as hell lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:15 PM |
| 6 | Ran into a guy I’ve been seeing while he was on a date with another girlGood. Sorry for asking, was just curious since you said he is HV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:06 PM |
| 3 | LV date Hall of ShameNo he just thought a picnic meant inviting me to sit on his blanket with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:06 PM |
| 2 | LV date Hall of ShameEwwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:22 AM |
| 3 | LV date Hall of ShameMy ex said “let’s do a nice dinner date night on Saturday” and I was excited bc it was our third date but our first meal date (pre FDS days). I got dolled up, cute dress and heels. When he arrived to pick me up, he had no idea where we were going smh. He googled places in the car and we ended up at a casual restaurant that literally used little school styled chairs. I was soooo over dressed and looked silly. Looking back, we dated for 5 months and that was the nicest restaurant we ever went to l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:17 AM |
| 2 | LV date Hall of ShameYou’re still beautiful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:06 AM |
| 3 | LV date Hall of ShameA coffee date and the guy got a shot of expresso. So he sat over an empty cup for about 30 mins and asked for a sample of my small coffee. He was going to buy a Tesla tho! Or the picnic date where the guy only brought a blanket. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 05:00 AM |
| 0 | Revisiting "How to let a man know a date he suggested is inappropriate": A DiscussionCoffee is casual and low value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 04:29 AM |
| 10 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatWiki knows... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 30 | Don’t be the “live-in girlfriend” for someone that will leave you in a heartbeatI feel that vibe too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 11 | Ran into a guy I’ve been seeing while he was on a date with another girlWhat was his reason? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 02:33 AM |
| 114 | Ran into a guy I’ve been seeing while he was on a date with another girlBlock, delete and self care! Order your favorite food, set an ambiance, watch your favorite comedy, lay on the floor, go for a run, take a walk with a friend, whatever it is that nourishes your soul- do that. Allow yourself to be sad but be happy you discovered this now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:12 AM |
| 27 | I paused dating this year because of how many creeps I encountered, this morning I found out staying home and not engaging with men doesn't keep me safe either.It’s a federal crime if he does so! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:29 PM |
| 6 | How did he not see that coming?😂I love these ruthless women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 20 | I bought the berries & chocolate, dipped them myself, a card, flowers, & her favorite wine for < $30. My mom is supporting me during grad school & tonight I’m making her fave dinner + this surprise. I’m a broke graduate & I found the time to do this for the queen in my lifeMommas are the best! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I turned down a coffee date this past weekend with a guy I was chatting with for a week. My friends thought I was being too picky when I told them I do not accept coffee dates..they said it’s what adults do. But the today, a younger guy asked me to dinner next weekend at a fancy restaurant that Obama ate at when he was in my city. Who knows if the dinner will happen, or if we will hit it off..but my take away from this experience is don’t be afraid to turn something down that does not meet your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:42 AM |
| 19 | Saw this and instantly thought FDS.Right 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:22 AM |
| 4 | Classic example of scrote stringing his forever girlfriend along. I hope she dumps himOh gosh, I hope not. He is certainly arrogant, my parents have always said he acts like he is better than most people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 11:01 PM |
| 2 | YesSame! Better to cringe now than never at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:56 PM |
| 9 | Classic example of scrote stringing his forever girlfriend along. I hope she dumps himHmm perhaps. My cousin got knocked up by her BF 5 years ago, they just recently had a second kid. He appears to be a great father, and they moved in together at the first pregnancy. She wants to get married but he has not proposed, they’re both mid-late 30s. He is even a doctor and makes good money, yet at one point she briefly had a second job. So it’s confusing to her family because from the outside it looks like they are a committed family. Not sure what his reasoning is for not wanting to ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 13 | “Lower your standards, No one wants a divorced single mom” Yeha okay...one week on tinder 4,600 “likes” and 60+ matches...Agreed. The number of matches or likes means nothing really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 04:07 PM |
| 21 | Leave him in the dust...Hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:25 PM |
| 7 | Con men do.My dad told me this when I was younger, he said “good people don’t declare that they are good people.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 38 | Classic example of scrote stringing his forever girlfriend along. I hope she dumps himI don’t understand why men will have kids with a woman but won’t marry them..it’s an even bigger commitment imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:05 PM |
| 21 | Never forget 👑I like this. I notice in past relationships where I felt I was not seen or valued, I felt like I had to “convince” the guy of it...I would end up talking waaaay toooo much, makes me cringe to look back on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Concerned about my boyfriend lack of social media presence.I’m kinda like that too. I was worse in my 20s but now that I am older, I try do try to take some pics...but my instincts sometimes are still to back away from them or turn my head haha. People always say I am photogenic, but it’s not about that.. I just have a natural aversion of photos..I am also super private. I also have not much of an internet presence, no social media. I’m not hiding anything lol. | /r/askFDS | 18/10/20 02:18 AM |
| 26 | Victoria monet talking about women and her song "Dive". Nicest thing I've read about women in a while. Ain't that the damn truth ❤So true. I can’t recall the last time I met a man and thought “wow, that’s a great person” lol but I can recall meeting countless women that left with that impression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:48 PM |
| 34 | We need to stop normalizing the 'men are indecisive' narrativeYep, that’s why I am so thankful for FDS. It will save me time and headache! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 10:37 PM |
| 117 | We need to stop normalizing the 'men are indecisive' narrativeYep. My (now former) male friend took a girl from an app out on 2 dates and decided he would continue to see her, but also said he knew he wasn’t interested in ever marrying her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 09:27 PM |
| 15 | I made a mistakeHey, don’t be so hard on yourself. When I was likely your age, I had a pervy neighbor break into my place while I was home alone. I handled it so poorly and did not react in the smartest ways..luckily I was fine but I cringed for a while because when police, fam/friends asked the details I thought I handled it stupidly and felt judged. But it’s totally normal to not know how to react and it’s okay. I hope it does not happen to you again, but if it does, you’ll prob react in a different way. | /r/askFDS | 17/10/20 07:38 PM |
| 28 | I love this energy. Men need to be more competitive🤣Love this haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 06:49 PM |
| 3 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?I don’t feel ganged up on at all. Yeah, sometimes it feels harsh but no pain, no gain. I honestly appreciate the time you guys are taking out of your lives to help out a complete stranger. I was feeling a little bummed this morning but doing some self care/love and already getting over it. Thanks for checking in. This reinforces my new realization of how kind women are. Not one of your comments made assumptions or criticisms about me as a person, it was strictly applying the strategy to the scen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Thanks! Makes sense. They need to come with a plan or else delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 2 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Thanks, can you answer my other question that I directed at you? I appreciate your insight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 04:15 PM |
| 1 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?The “date” was for tomorrow but we agreed to it on Thursday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:55 PM |
| 1 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?I asked for advice on that too. He asked me out last week but it was too short notice so I declined, told him I was busy all weekend. So this Wednesday he followed up and asked if I would like to go out this weekend, and on Thursday I told him I was “free on Sunday”. He responded “great, we can do Sunday.” I was going to give him until Fri/Sat morn at latest to present plans/times/location bc I wrongly assumed he would make a reservation and such bc I live in a big city. So next time if the guy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:54 PM |
| 4 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Yup, he is implying I am high maintenance or difficult if I don’t find coffee satisfactory. My profile actually clearly states that my perfect first date includes good food..so he knows what he is doing. He claims to want a LTR and at 46 he is still lost as ever.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:44 PM |
| 3 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Haha I hear you.. he didn’t send them everyday, think he was touching base to plan a “date”. He is deleted. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:26 PM |
| 4 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Thanks sis! 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:21 PM |
| 4 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?Done and done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:20 PM |
| 11 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?I did read the handbook! I just reread it last night..the one page that discusses date offers suggested retorts when asked for a LV date by saying “i’m not accustomed to those dates”...but here, the guy seems to be mocking anything more than just coffee. So you are right, I should just block/delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:05 PM |
| 6 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?That’s what I figured...his wording. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:56 PM |
| 5 | This 46M from Bumble asked me (35F) on a date and we locked down tomorrow. This morning he sent this message...I think it’s ridiculous he asked if I wanted something “more elaborate”...should I just block/delete, or see what else he has to offer?I can’t include an image on AskFDS so posted here. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Cross posted from FDS at mod's suggestion: looking for advice on how safely make an aggressive neighbor leave me alone.Wow that’s awesome you have a handgun! I was young and pretty defenseless..I remember being terrified he had a gun and thinking “what do I have to defend myself with” ...and the only thing was a small ass lamp. Luckily I got out physically unharmed. The cops made sure to tell me that if I shot him, I would be perfectly okay. I know cops get a bad rep, but they really walked me through that experience when I was alone and 3,000 miles from any friends or family. That’s one experience that changed … | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Cross posted from FDS at mod's suggestion: looking for advice on how safely make an aggressive neighbor leave me alone.Please notify your landlord immediately, and stop communicating with this neighbor. Years ago I had a weird neighbor who gawked on me often, he later broke into my place while I was home alone. It was a traumatic experience..he was eventually charged and a restraining order was issued. I don’t mean to scare you with my story, but I wish I followed my gut when he was initially acting creepy and just moved or spoke up. | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 08:55 PM |
| 11 | Cross posted from FDS at mod's suggestion: looking for advice on how safely make an aggressive neighbor leave me alone.Please notify your landlord immediately, and stop communicating with this neighbor. Years ago I had a weird neighbor who gawked at me often, he later broke into my place while I was home alone. It was a traumatic experience..he was eventually charged and a restraining order was issued. I don’t mean to scare you with my story, but I wish I followed my gut when he was initially acting creepy and just moved or spoke up. | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Is my friend dating a LVM?Yeah of course I won’t be! | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 05:07 PM |
| 6 | I found my boyfriend on Tinder 3 months ago Idk what to do :(Leave | /r/askFDS | 16/10/20 03:20 PM |
| 28 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.Damn..cruel, dead eyes.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:58 PM |
| 18 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.Haha I wish that too...I wish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 10 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.Haha after joining my gym and noticing the huge difference in attractiveness with the gay vs straight males, I theorized that it must be a genetic link. My friend dismissed that and said no, they just take care of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 16 | John Cena was with his ex-girlfriend, Nikki Bella, for over six years and didn’t want to marry her. John has now married his next girlfriend after dating for two years. Ladies, if a man doesn’t want to get married HE’S NOT THAT INTO YOU.100% agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 01:02 PM |
| 2 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Hmm good points! Another factor is that I don’t even look 35, so something to consider.. | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 08:37 PM |
| 1 | If a guy confirms a date the day of do you cancel?Ok so I’ll give him until tomorrow morning then! I just told him when I am free moments ago, so want to give him a fair amount of time to make plans. I think a day is enough. I guess ideally a guy’s ask for a date already includes the place+time! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:52 PM |
| 2 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Thanks sis 💗 | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 06:40 PM |
| 0 | If a guy confirms a date the day of do you cancel?I know it is! But I am saying how long do you allow to make a specified date once the guy asked what day is best for me. As of now, I told him I am free on Sunday and he wants to meet then. I don’t want to accept last minute specifics, so was wondering what a good cut off is. I think I’ll give him 24 hours to tell me the place/time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | If a guy confirms a date the day of do you cancel?Late question but what if 3 days before he does lock down the day but no date plans yet. Example- on Wednesday he asks to meet that weekend and I share I am free on Sunday. He responds “great, Sunday it is!” but does not immediately share plans...I assume he needs time to figure out where to go/book reservations (hopefully). How long should I give him to confirm time+location? I’m thinking by Friday/Saturday morning at the latest or I am not going out with him on Sunday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:23 PM |
| 16 | Men Have Become Utterly Delusional!I just watched this. I agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 15 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?I will definitely ask him those questions. I appreciate your points. I am definitely curious about women he typically dates..if I am on the older end, I will definitely drop him. But I am 35 and single and I hear those questions A LOT...questions about why I am single, never married and have no kids. I was a late bloomer, spent my 20s in law school and starting a career..and looking for a relationship now. | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 05:41 PM |
| 5 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Good for you in getting to a better place. I’ll definitely be vigilant! I feel the same about now probably not going further than date 3. My most recent ex from earlier this year had so many red flags that I chose to overlook bc he was attractive..honestly, had I read FDS I would have not gone on the first date lol...and definitely not on the 2nd and 3rd etc... I hope I can follow FDS when I am faced in real life situations. | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 05:02 PM |
| 7 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Thanks! So even at 35 you had issues with someone 9 years older? When I was 28 years old I dated a 40 year old man and now when I reflect on it, it makes me angry. I thought I was mature but boy I was not..I was so inexperienced and be was divorced. I now find him questionable. I have matured a lot but I know some wisdom comes with time..and I don’t want to make the same mistakes. | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 04:39 PM |
| 1 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Hmm that’s how I feel too, esp with FDS, I can’t imagine a man being able to use a power dynamic against me. I suspect he does want to date younger for kids, bc his profile indicates he does want children. I’ll gauge more when I meet IRL! | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 04:36 PM |
| 29 | What’s an appropriate age gap when following FDS?Lol thanks. I know its a case by case basis and age doesn’t mean anything with men. But interesting way to look at it...maybe 46 year old women would say he’s immature, he’s just mature to me haha | /r/askFDS | 15/10/20 03:16 PM |
| 1 | I have read the handbook but need some clarification when it comes to first dates!Thanks! Re #1: if the guy then asks what day then proposed drinks, is it just block/delete? I read posts on here and it seems the FDS way is to just decline/delete. However, it seems some others recommend declining drinks, saying “I don’t drink” or “that’s not the date I am accustomed to.” In my city, it seems everyone does drinks for first dates and I suspect this fellow might..so I want to be prepared! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Thanks lady! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 10:37 PM |
| 15 | Ex pick-mes after finally discovering FDS and kicking scrotes out... Also was'nt Anna like the pick-me Queen initially! 🤦😂She was! I took my god daughter to watch Frozen 2 last year and I was so pleased that Elsa had other duties that were not marrying a prince. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:24 PM |
| 68 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!This makes me appreciate my exes, despite being low value, they always stopped and helped women whether it was with a stroller up stairs or someone stranded on the road. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:23 PM |
| 41 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!Ditto, my ex did this..never let me carry a thing even if it made him look feminine.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 40 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!Wow gross!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 5 | I hear my boyfriend's neighbor yelling at his girlfriend constantly. Does anybody have any advice for how I can help her?Good thought process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Guy I’ve been chatting with on an app won’t ask me out properly so I think have to unmatch him tomorrow. He has said “I would love to meet you” and “let’s go out next weekend” and I have said “yeah sure!” but he still will not lock down a date/place/time. Old me would ask him what day he has in mind to lead him towards locking it down. But now, I can see he is just too passive and indirect. Wondering for the future if saying “yeah, I’m free next weekend” or is that even doing too much? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:08 AM |
| 5 | “There’s nothing wrong with being alone.” - Daniel Sloss - JigsawHallelujah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:57 AM |
| 55 | I really hope every female on this planet discover this community soon. I wish my aunt found this community ..I hope she is found safe 🙏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Her pickme behavior, yes. Looking down on her overall, no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!No not mean girl vibes, more an observation of this endorsed and common female behavior that many of used to display ourselves until FDS. His behavior wasn’t as remarkable, but I did mention him and I got into a disagreement because of his actions. I was friendly towards her and even exchanged info bc I want to support her business venture. I called my friend a predator btw and I am pretty sure our friendship is over at this point. My first sentence even called him a LVM. Don’t assume women are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 08:09 PM |
| 20 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!She more did it to be the “cool girl” because she ordered what the guys did (bacon, drinks etc) and ate like them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 06:41 PM |
| 33 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Lol nah she already mocked me for acting “elegant”...I’m just composed/reserved haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 06:22 PM |
| 21 | Let me tell you something, we don’t care.I just got a DM saying I’m single because I think women shouldn’t pay for dates lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:33 PM |
| 24 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Yeah I’m mostly ashamed of my friend TBH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 05:32 PM |
| 24 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!She even thanked us and said “thanks for letting me crash your brunch!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:47 PM |
| 21 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Lol the funny thing is how guys always comment how “fun” and “open” girls like that are...🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I’ll be the “serious debbie downer” any day lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:47 PM |
| 30 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Yeah I was sad for her. She was doing silly things throughout the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:46 PM |
| 38 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Yeah I felt for the girl. She was nice and fun tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Hmm my other male friend always treats me but because there were other folks, he just let us all split it because it would get too complicated. I imagine if it was my BF we would likely just put half the check on his card to cover us both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:27 PM |
| 34 | Yesterday I had brunch with 2 men I know..one decided to invite a girl he matched with that morning. She showed up with a couple hours notice to a first date group brunch, paid for her portion then wanted to continue to hang out!Thanks we actually got into a disagreement over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:23 PM |
| 11 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?Tricky tricky! Love it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:03 AM |
| 4 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?Hmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:03 AM |
| 60 | Ladies, ALWAYS listen to your gut feeling!I had a creepy neighbor in my early 20s...one time I opened my window and he happened to be standing close by it. I knew something was off but didn’t want to be accusatory. Fast forward a month and he broke into my home while I was alone..cops had no clue how long he was watching me and if he broke in previously, how he entered remained a mystery. I now don’t care about “assuming the worst”...I listen to my gut. Every creepy man I encounter is now treated like a potential threat to my safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:59 PM |
| 59 | Let them miss you (non-dating related)Thats sooo true! When I pull back, people lean in and act nice. When I give, they act like asses.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:58 PM |
| 19 | I can't read relationship subreddits anymore...Love that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 02:01 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I love this sub and put it up there with my top monumental life discoveries...and the sisterhood! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 01:22 AM |
| 3 | *internal screaming, forever*Wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 12:17 AM |
| 2 | *internal screaming, forever*My ex didn’t even wear underpants..even in a suit, gym shorts and jeans. Pretty sure he did’t wash his pants after each use, and he only had a few pairs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 12:13 AM |
| 25 | *internal screaming, forever*The audacity lol. Men have such unfounded and unwarranted confidence, crazy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 12:12 AM |
| 16 | *internal screaming, forever*Yeah exactly. The basic requirement is MORNING. Weird.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 12:10 AM |
| 90 | I laughed at this 😂My ex raised his voice at me..it led to our break up lol. My dad never even yelled at me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 11:37 PM |
| 3 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Lmao truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:55 PM |
| 3 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:55 PM |
| 3 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:50 PM |
| 6 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Yeah he was always shitty to me, just in cycles...I blocked him for 3 years in my 20s after he tried to get me fired from my career. I thought he changed, but is back at full force. I feel bad for my parents tho, they will not cut him out of their lives and it must pain them to see their kid act so destructively. My parents are sweet good hearted people, refugees who escaped a savage war to raise their kids to have a better life in America..now he calls them losers and says he is embarrassed to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:08 PM |
| 7 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Lol awesome!! Toxic males using abuse of women to feel better about themselves. Yeah, honestly I always said I feel for my brothers future family, if he has one. Yikes! Glad your sis in law is out and okay. Sorry your brother criticizes you..its just a reflection of how miserable he is. Your last sentence is making more interested in getting with the tall buff dude I am talking to...haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:05 PM |
| 14 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Lol right! He thinks he is more successful than her. He’s a joke! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:51 PM |
| 10 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Yep. My best friend is going through fertility issues, turns out it’s unlikely her eggs (35F) but her older hubbies sperm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:50 PM |
| 11 | My brother just told me I will end up single with no spouse or children, ladies I need your encouragement!Amen. Thanks lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 09:49 PM |
| 131 | *internal screaming, forever*Wow gross!!! I suspect a guy I dates did not as well...I remember once be bad to go get his toothbrush from his weekend bag that he left in the car...but he returned from the trip days prior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 02:21 PM |
| 9 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.Yeah, I get it. I am not into pricey jewelry and was never one to daydream of prince charming proposing but I have always wanted a nice cruelty free but vintage looking diamond ring if I were to get engaged. My ex was cheap as hell and would speak negatively about materialistic items and thought expensive rings were a marketing ploy. So I remember looking up ring prices and convincing myself that a cheaper one was better than what I preferred..so pathetic lol. I make 6 figs for the record, as di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:40 AM |
| 11 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.So you know me personally? Thanks for calling me on this, that’s why I love this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:04 AM |
| 14 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.Nooo not justifying! I like to think things through to understand people’s behaviors.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:57 AM |
| 78 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.Is it a defense mechanism? The way the women write these comments suggest they did not actually find their proposal special. So instead, when reminded of the fact, they are trying to convince themselves that these things don’t matter...and sadly while doing that, they have to undermine anything that may threaten that (like an expensive/planned proposal). They put down the other women because it allows them to exist safely in their facade. Because if they truly didn’t care about proposals, they w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 36 | On a Facebook Post about an expensive proposal, you're bound to have many Pickmeishas appear in the comments! Some of these are hilarious, some are downright sad.Well said, light bulb moment for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 12:41 AM |
| 5 | Guy I matched with on an app seems great and nice...he said he would like to meet but I need advice!Thanks, I suspect he wants to meet now but we’ll see. I just personally have no idea how to respond to these texts bc this is the first interaction with a guy I may possibly like since I recently discovered FDS and read the handbook. My old pick me ways was so casual- I went on a walk date, coffee date, beer garden date just this year..and I turned down brunch/dinner dates lol bc pickme thought it was “too much pressure” for a first meet. I guess I am second guessing just being myself because I … | /r/askFDS | 09/10/20 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Guy I matched with on an app seems great and nice...he said he would like to meet but I need advice!Thanks for the tips! I always wonder about that deadline :) But what should I say exactly in response to his last message? I usually would say “that sounds good” but I want my response to suggest he needs to put in WORK to make plans. | /r/askFDS | 09/10/20 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Guy I matched with on an app seems great and nice...he said he would like to meet but I need advice!Thanks!!! Ok he just sent this message after I said okay to his statement about wanting to keep this going despite him being out of town. He said “okay great! We will go out next week but we can talk between now and then.” He didn’t ask me out, but he is telling me? I really think it’s just awkward wording bc he has given no signs of being a bossy jerk. Also he did say he wanted to meet earlier and i said “perhaps” before continuing with the betting. What should I say to let him know that I expe… | /r/askFDS | 08/10/20 11:51 PM |
| 11 | Guy I matched with on an app seems great and nice...he said he would like to meet but I need advice!Thanks! He just told me that he went out of town for the weekend (his location on the app confirms this) and said that he wants to continue to talk to me. I just said ok, and will see wha the says when he returns on Sunday. If he does ask to meet, and it does not meet the date + location + time requirement, do I just unmatch? | /r/askFDS | 08/10/20 10:51 PM |
| 23 | Guy I matched with on an app seems great and nice...he said he would like to meet but I need advice!That’s a good point! I think I had it in my head that I would meet him this weekend. I have another date this weekend anyway, so its fine..I’ll give this guy a week to ask again! | /r/askFDS | 08/10/20 05:57 PM |
| 2 | Top 3 things you look for in a partner?Communicative Ambitious Kind hearted | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:32 PM |
| 4 | My dad's dating advice100% agree. When I do find a guy with potential, he usually is passive as hell and wants to text For ages without asking me out or worse, asks me for coffee. LE SIGH. But I’m glad I’m eliminating them in the betting process rather than wasting my time with LVM. That way when a HVM comes along, we will be able to spot them and not be distracted with losers. Good luck! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:07 PM |
| 16 | My dad's dating adviceLol i want that struggle tho. I can barely find one guy I’m interested in seeing more than once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 12:05 PM |
| 6 | Explaining your standards to men?LOL that’s exactly what I said to my friend- he is older but dates younger women and is currently covid heavy but doesn’t like heavy women. Our other male friend said “she has every right to make decisions based on her preference!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Explaining your standards to men?Yeah a lot of my exes would ask how tall another guy was if I mentioned someone else..it’s there way to size each other up. Yet women can’t do it.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Explaining your standards to men?Very true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:57 PM |
| 17 | Another gem from IncelwithouthateWow so basically black women and southeast asian women. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | Explaining your standards to men?Lmao good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:17 PM |
| 23 | LolMansplaining’s new term | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 21 | Explaining your standards to men?Haha thanks! Unmatched him. It’s not so much the doubt that I can find a tall/fit man (its what I usually date), I sometimes feel bad. I’m super empathetic. I have a problem, once I start chatting with someone..its hard for me to be ruthless about blocking, esp if they have been nothing but pleasant. But I hear you, Thanks for breaking it down. Funny, the other guy I am chatting with is very fit aand just said he is 6’1..but will still have to see about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 02:42 AM |
| 30 | Explaining your standards to men?So true! Why do we get shamed for having preferences? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:33 AM |
| 18 | Explaining your standards to men?Also you might appreciate this- I turned down an extremely tall man (6’7) and my male friend said it was hypocritical of me because I am also a tall woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:33 AM |
| 20 | Explaining your standards to men?LOL. I don’t care about height, like I just want someone at eye level | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:21 AM |
| 7 | Explaining your standards to men?Good point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 10 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolHmm I look “foreign” bc my parents are from overseas, but I am American. Sometimes I think guys are sketpical about me because of that. Also I abbreviate my extremely unique name and about every fee days a guy decides to play “guess my full name”...they don’t seem to get I don’t provide my real first name because one google search and you know my entire life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:47 PM |
| 42 | LolLike guys who complain about women not looking like their overly filtered pics..okay dumb dumb | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:13 PM |
| 45 | LolLol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 19 | This is so gross!! How is bad hygiene not a dealbreaker? All this shows me is a man who can’t take of himself 🤮🤮Haha exactly what I was thinking! That’s clean compared to what I have seen :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:11 PM |
| 11 | How to react when he asks you out for a coffee date 😂Lol I love the comment about walk your dog! I’m going to use that before blocking... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:28 PM |
| 10 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolLol that would be more admirable than talking about work. I live in a city that is known for talking about careers, people joke that it’s the first question people ask after your name. It’s not even gender specific...people put value on what you do here aka are you important? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 05:27 PM |
| 13 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolGirl, I am there too. Let’s just stay hopeful and not let OLD impact our mental health | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:57 PM |
| 28 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolEh I think a lot of guys just have nothing better to discuss bc I have verified high earners ask me this too. No, I don’t want to tell you my employer dude.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:56 PM |
| 22 | How to react when he asks you out for a coffee date 😂Exactly. My recent ex and I were going to talk recently but I flaked because I did not want to give him pointers so he can deceive the next chick even better than he did me lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 04:55 PM |
| 10 | How many men have actually given you orgasms?I think I’ve given them to myself TBH | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:50 PM |
| 46 | "Going with the flow" is bsYou sound just like me. I was raised by a HVW mom and I was prude as hell throughout my 20s. I got a law degree and started my career before age 25. But I was criticized for being “mean” to guys and “too difficult”, “stand offish” etc. So I tried to be more open and go with the flow. Now at 35, I realize I had it right at 25..go figure. Back to my old, high value ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Does his profile alone make him a LVM?He is 43 btw, attractive and with a great career (verified). But also sounds negative as hell, insecure, bitter and and possibly cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 02:30 AM |
| 18 | Imagine being pregnant and not allowed to use a chair. Just when you think you've seen it all. And most people are voting NTA which makes it even worse, most YTA are getting downvoted!? Poor girl.LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 01:57 AM |
| 5 | For those who are newly joining us as we grow - he said what he said, he did what he did, he is who he is. Don’t gaslight yourself and instead, block and delete. Have a nice day. ✌🏼Yep! Good for you too. I am OVER him but I am still upset with the experience/my choices. I feel like covid happening right after the break up has left me single for much longer than I care to be and that I allowed that fool to waste my time. But if I did not go through that experience, when would I learn about becoming empowered? Would I ever seek out FDS? I would probably still be a pick me. So I am glad I got to this place. And sure, I am 35 but in the grand scheme I am still relatively young… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 7 | I don’t think Taylor really cares what you think, Stefan.TRUTH. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:34 AM |
| 6 | I don’t think Taylor really cares what you think, Stefan.Trust me as a 35F, men LOVE to throw this at us. Sadly it’s a loser males way to feel like a winner.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:33 AM |
| 18 | Imagine being pregnant and not allowed to use a chair. Just when you think you've seen it all. And most people are voting NTA which makes it even worse, most YTA are getting downvoted!? Poor girl.Lmao. When my mom hears stories of modern relationship dynamics she simply nods her head at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:31 AM |
| 11 | For those who are newly joining us as we grow - he said what he said, he did what he did, he is who he is. Don’t gaslight yourself and instead, block and delete. Have a nice day. ✌🏼I met my ex in Sept 2019 and we broke up in Feb 2020. He showed me who he was in Sept 2019 but I spent 5 months in denial, walking away at times only to return. I discovered FDS in September 2020 and a week later, my ex reached out. I am SO thankful I disxocered FDS because I happily ignored him. I am working on forgiving myself for the mistakes I made with him, but I know it will only get better with my new found perspective. Thanks ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 12:01 AM |
| 7 | For anyone who’s struggling or feeling vulnerable after leaving a guy just remember..Same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 07:04 PM |
| 30 | Types of PickMes and how to heal your inner oneThanks! At 35 I am the bio clock pick me..so so true. I needed this reassurance this morning | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 02:29 PM |
| 47 | Shower thought: why men end relationships vs why women end themThats why they always come creeping back weeks/months later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:42 PM |
| 11 | Shower thought: why men end relationships vs why women end themSo true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:04 PM |
| 66 | Shower thought: why men end relationships vs why women end themYep but then it hits them harder with time..once they discover there aren’t women lined up waiting for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:04 PM |
| 4 | Just watched American Murder: The Family Next DoorI know many men who made the opposite choice- chose their spouse over family of origin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:51 PM |
| 78 | Just watched American Murder: The Family Next DoorRight. I just told my parents about this story and you can tell they thought I was just making an anti-marriage argument bc I’m not married lol🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 01:39 AM |
| 12 | Why do Christian Dating Coaches ALWAYS Women have “Unrealistic Standards” for men and we need to lower our expectations. 🙄 I’m tired of these Pick-Me grifters exploiting women in God’s Name.Yep thats the message I have received. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:47 AM |
| 9 | Mama said.....My thoughts are with you and your late great mama 🙏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 19 | Acknowledging you have no HV friends in your life and deciding to go forth alone...? Anyone experience this?I like this. Don’t have to get rid of friends if they aren’t being toxic. And true, people can change..just like we both recently did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 01:40 AM |
| 7 | Acknowledging you have no HV friends in your life and deciding to go forth alone...? Anyone experience this?Deal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 01:37 AM |
| 29 | Acknowledging you have no HV friends in your life and deciding to go forth alone...? Anyone experience this?Your father is a wise man. And you’re wise as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 01:08 AM |
| 10 | SadAm I missing something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 12:16 AM |
| 20 | American murder, family next doorI picked up on the signs as well, #2 is def something a HVM would not engage in | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:07 PM |
| 29 | American murder, family next doorYep they were together for EIGHT years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:05 PM |
| 41 | American murder, family next doorWeird! I am watching this right now and started to make a post but did not. I am new to FDS and naturally, I am analyzing the documentary through the principles. It’s so upsetting. Her gut told her something was off while she was in NC, but of course she would never think it leads to the demise of her life and her precious daughters. And her poor family, esp her dad.. they were excited she married a “great guy” ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 2 | I feel a slight cultural expectations to settle on any lvm just to have the marriage titleYes I love my family but I come from a culture of arranged marriages. I have had TOUGH times with them when it came to not wanting to be “set up” by the parents of other men who “selected me” because I had “failed” to find a spouse by age 30 on my own (btw I was not even “looking” for a spouse in my 20s). My family and I are still super close. The thing is, real love can overcome these challenges..we adapt and accept. Maybe my initial response to OP seemed harsh but that’s what my 10+ year exper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 8 | I feel a slight cultural expectations to settle on any lvm just to have the marriage titleUnfortunately family can be the biggest critics and you have to decide if you want to live for them and their expectations, or your own. I’m single in my 30s so trust me, I have heard it for the last 10 years from my family too. They come from a good place but it really doesn’t matter if it’s not aligned with my own beliefs and values. It bothered me back then too, then I learned ☝🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:42 PM |
| 29 | Today is their anniversary and even though there was a flood, he showed up with flowers for his wife ☺️☺️Cute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 11 | I feel a slight cultural expectations to settle on any lvm just to have the marriage titleWho cares what those people think or say, why are they so concerned with how others are living their lives and when/if they get married? Live your best life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:36 PM |
| 5 | Canceling the date for this. He can’t bring me a chair? I just threw mine out as it was rusting but I’m not buying one this morning. We have five mutual friends so I have to let him down nicely. How?Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:47 PM |
| 5 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downYeah, or just start distancing yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 10:16 AM |
| 22 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downYour “friend” sounds awful, honestly. I’m learning to distance myself from toxic people that make comments that serve no purpose other than to be hurtful. It’s your bed, your sleep and your puppy. What does that have to do with having a boyfriend or not? Couples sleep with their puppies too. People don’t sleep with their pets as replacement partners 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 03:24 AM |
| 41 | "you seem really sweet"My ex said that to me! We were talking about how people think I’m reserved, dry and stand offish before I open up. He said “I think you’re really sweet.” And he sure as hell took advantage of that.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:43 AM |
| 74 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backGood for you, sounds like a “comedian” I dated in NYC lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 02:14 AM |
| 5 | Where to find a female roommate?If there are local graduate schools, nursing programs, etc I would ask to post a listing there..they usually have boards there. | /r/askFDS | 02/10/20 07:43 PM |
| 38 | Omg Sis, you are so lucky! 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 #blessedhunLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 10 | Don’t post screenshots of texts to men UNLESS...I don’t engage with LVM, but I did post a screenshot of a message I received unnecessarily (no witty comeback, i just unmatched) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 05:08 PM |
| 7 | I like him. How do I get him to initiate a date? Or is the ball in my court? I am green texts.Give him a couple more days, but leave ball in his court. Match his intensity, your green boxes should equal his.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:39 PM |
| 15 | Don’t post screenshots of texts to men UNLESS...Sorry, guilty here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:36 PM |
| 3 | Loser is discussing babies in first messages..smhLol yuck indeed. But easy unmatch, glad he let himself show.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Loser is discussing babies in first messages..smhLol he is actually decently attractive, normal looking and good job. But I have dated better! I am 35 but no man has ever immediately asked if I want a baby. In a way, I appreciate he brought it up bc he could have otherwise never disclosed this and wasted time until something else revealed him as a NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:34 PM |
| 4 | Loser is discussing babies in first messages..smhLol he knows be doesn’t want them..he wants sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:32 PM |
| 11 | Loser is discussing babies in first messages..smhLol that’s the take away I got too..gross. This is a 39 year old “man” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Tips for my OLD bio to ward off LVM seeking hook ups..?Thanks. Sadly agree, fingers crossed.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Tips for my OLD bio to ward off LVM seeking hook ups..?Thanks! I agree. And I don’t even show my body on the app (I have a full body but nothing super tight)..it ends up being the opposite of cat fishing bc guys who I do meet with (very FEW bc most are trash on apps), end up super surprised. My friends said I should put a pic of me working out or in swimsuit, but nah..I don’t want to lead with my body. I honestly work on my physique for ME. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Tips for my OLD bio to ward off LVM seeking hook ups..?I agree. I am pretty good at spotting LVM but a few of the “POSSIBLE HVM” I have matched with commented on my lack of bio. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 03:18 PM |
| 11 | Let’s Discuss PERSONAL Requirements, Red Flags and Dealbreakers! 😍🤡I didn’t endorse him, I asked for her to clarify her views on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:28 AM |
| 15 | Let’s Discuss PERSONAL Requirements, Red Flags and Dealbreakers! 😍🤡Interesting, I’ve listened to some of his podcasts and he seems to have a wide range of guests but doesn’t seem to take once stance. I know he supported Bernie and Tulsi especially. He supports a lot of up and coming women comics too. But thanks for the feedback, I’ll keep an eye.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:56 PM |
| 5 | Let’s Discuss PERSONAL Requirements, Red Flags and Dealbreakers! 😍🤡Hmm why is Joe Rogan toxic? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 11:10 PM |
| 6 | Recognize when you’re doing this and block that man on everything for real. When you’re really over him, you won’t need him to see you leveling up.Yes, why care if you’re truly over it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:00 PM |
| 30 | Jolene can have them!There is a popular Dolly song called “Jolene” where she describes this beautiful woman that her man desires, and begs the woman (Jolene) not to take her man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:43 PM |
| 15 | This is why the six month period before declaring someone a HVM is a MINIMUM. Strap in ladies, this is fun.Can you message me too? I am curious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 05:57 AM |
| 1 | Ex sends me this message, 11 months after we broke up 🤔 BLOCK AND DELETE!Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 04:55 AM |
| 0 | Cracks me up EVERY time.Or for food maybe? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 03:51 AM |
| 1 | In general, can you really score younger women if you're an older guy?Your first awesome makes no sense. Of course.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/20 02:43 AM |
| 54 | Is having a Snapchat a red flag?🚩I’m in my 30s and I do find it a turn off when 35+ year old men advertise their snapchat on their profile. But I don’t know what snapchat is all about, it just seems a bit juvenile | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:38 AM |
| 14 | Ended things with a guy it’d been dating for like 2 months because of horrific communication issues and he had the audacity to ask I NOT be on dating anyone or on dating sites while he works on his communication issuesYup | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 02:36 AM |
| 1 | In general, can you really score younger women if you're an older guy?Just as reddit is anecdotal. FYI, as previously noted, DATA (you know, objective evidence) shows that my statements are true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/20 02:33 AM |
| 1 | In general, can you really score younger women if you're an older guy?But most couples I know that recently met in their 30s and 40s are in the same age range, maybe a few years difference. In fact my 43F friend is in a relationship with a 38M. Aure my 30s+ guy friends like younger women, but they rarely end up in relationships with them. I know many 20something women too, they are not dating men well into 30s or 40s. So again, lies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/20 12:57 AM |
| 1 | In general, can you really score younger women if you're an older guy?Lies tho | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/20 11:29 PM |
| 2 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?Ofc we are GREAT 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 11:19 PM |
| 3 | NYC woman finds love on OkCupid - confirms what we already know about OnlineDating (OLD). OLD is one of the most effective tools you have in your "2020 dating toolbox". It WORKS, ladies. Be selective, be RUTHLESS, be persistent, and TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN, WHO ARE A PENNY A DOZEN ON OLD APPS.5 years with him, 6 years total of OLD. But agree...0” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:35 PM |
| 3 | Remember that you don't owe them shit. If he won't 100% accept who you are, he should be blocked, he isn't even owed an explanation.Pre FDS I informed my ex my number (can count on one hand)...then a couple months later we recounted that and he accused me of decreasing my number and being “deceitful”.. SMH. Like he owns me.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 4 | COVID is not an excuse to accept low-effort dates. If sitting and having a meal with someone is too risky, stay home.Lol I’d rather just not date then do all that...just too odd a start for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 08:13 PM |
| 5 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?Eh again, I’m not of American heritage tho.. you probably mean black women* are diverse and vast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:00 PM |
| 11 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?I’m not sure but when people ask where I am from, if I state my home state they then clarify where I am from ethnically because they don’t think I look “American.” Also, my name is not English. ETA: I hear a lot of Asian Americans receive such comments, so it is probably a common experience of many first generation Americans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:33 PM |
| 10 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?And she is honestly so gorgeous, justine 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:30 PM |
| 21 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?I am a black woman (not of American heritage) and honestly, I have never received criticism OLD or IRL when it comes to dating. I have friends of all races and it is not uncommon for me to be approached by men when I am out with them. So I refuse to give into these statistics and let it impact my self esteem or outlook. I do also live in a major city that is quite international in demographics. I am sure some men do not pursue me or swipe left because I am black, but that is fine by me..we all h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:29 PM |
| 14 | Scrotes be like: Don’t come back when you hit the wall 😏🤪 Asian Grannies: bitch where is the wall?😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:22 PM |
| 4 | How to date men less smart than youHaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:43 AM |
| 7 | COVID is not an excuse to accept low-effort dates. If sitting and having a meal with someone is too risky, stay home.Exactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 3 | When things fall apart (book)Hmm deep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:30 PM |
| 28 | COVID is not an excuse to accept low-effort dates. If sitting and having a meal with someone is too risky, stay home.Lol right, he was so mad about MY dating preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 12 | Are you f’ing kidding me?!I am so thankful someone directed me away from there and led me here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 59 | COVID is not an excuse to accept low-effort dates. If sitting and having a meal with someone is too risky, stay home.A guy on the DOT just said that my refusal to go on walk dates is why I am single lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:08 PM |
| 24 | Are you f’ing kidding me?!Lol losers man. Same stories of women wondering what went wrong with these losers.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:27 PM |
| 47 | Are you f’ing kidding me?!I responded to her about this and now I am getting attacked lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:58 PM |
| 19 | Chadwick Boseman took a pay cut for 21 Bridges so Sienna Miller could be paid fairly. How a man treats people, especially women, who do nothing for him says a lot about his character.Rare indeed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Yeah I have both b12 and iron deficiencies, I get regular lab work. The thing about vitamins is it depends on the person and their individual needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:31 PM |
| 383 | Chadwick Boseman took a pay cut for 21 Bridges so Sienna Miller could be paid fairly. How a man treats people, especially women, who do nothing for him says a lot about his character.He exuded a beautiful soul. Love this story, and love that there are still young men who stand up and do the right thing when no one sees it (not for publicity). RIP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 10:52 AM |
| 9 | Men who won't move over for women. What do you do?Yes a lot of very young ladies and couples it in my area, so annoying and entitled. Sometimes I say “excuse me” sternly .. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:58 AM |
| 7 | Men who won't move over for women. What do you do?I hate men who do this. Thankfully most men are still gents in my city, opening the door, stepping aside, etc. But with yuppies on the rise, I run into more and more dorks who just don’t get it... I walk so fast because I have long legs so I usually do the dodging of all people.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:56 AM |
| 1 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Most vegans are deficient in iron, vitamin B12 and folic acids as well, which can lead to problems like neuropathy and fatigue. That’s just on the micronutrient level... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 02:28 AM |
| 5 | How long should you date someone before deciding to marry?My friend dated her BF for 4 years, they were married for one year when he started to change. He insulted her appearance and had an affair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | What to do when you come across LVM’sLol she is awesome! Beautiful and elegant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:32 AM |
| 3 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Hmm good point! Maybe I feel shame about it because it pertains to my appearance (among other things). I’m still a “spiritual tomboy” type of woman, so this development later in life is new. I did NOT take care if myself in my 20s...my hair couldn’t grow bc I abused it, I had vitamin deficiencies, I was skinny but unhealthy, I did not eat very well, I did not meditate, toxic friendships, etc. I guess these habits are positive have paid off. And its kinda weird to peak in your 30a lol. I am waaay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:16 AM |
| 5 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?I don’t work out to be hot for guys. I lift weights and purposefully avoid being skinny, which most guys seem to prefer. I just love working out, it makes me feel good, I have a community around it, and it is so empowering getting stronger and fitter as I age and being able to see the results. But otherwise, I like your suggestion..thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:12 AM |
| 11 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Good points! I do give back, pre covid I took pro bono legal cases for the homeless and currently, I have been helping a couple unemployed individuals with their benefits/appeals etc. I have been thinking of getting a dog because I am a bit lonely. I have friends I see on a weekly basis but I am a natural introvert/introspective person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 11:06 PM |
| 2 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Hmm I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:34 PM |
| 8 | How to let go of the feeding into the beauty obsession?Wow I relate to this. I’m not on any social media but I do keep up to date with most things health, fitness and beauty related. I also alternate between extremes- where I’m hippy dippy and let my hair go long and wild and then there are times, I want to look more “girly” for lack of a better term. I am concerned it comes from self hatred. Like a lot of people in my life don’t put nearly as much effort into their care, I feel like I am more in line with people in “hollywood” or other industries c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 10:33 PM |
| 3 | Yeah, just think about that 🙈Ditto! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:30 PM |
| 14 | We all feel this way xDAt 35, I feel this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:41 AM |
| 34 | Where do you meet worthwhile dates?Good question 👀 | /r/askFDS | 28/09/20 12:55 AM |
| 36 | FDS helped me change my competitive views on other women, thank you all so much!Same, I noticed I started feeling that way towards younger women (I’m 35) but now I am a huge fan of ALL women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 08:33 PM |
| 19 | "Let them slide once, and they'll start figure skating"Hahaha i just picture a guy slipping then doing flips on the ice when the woman is okay with it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:29 PM |
| 3 | Today I turn 24I love that! Happy Birthday lady 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:12 PM |
| 14 | Timeline from match to dateI found guys that didn’t ask me out with the first week would never do it. So I give it a week unless they state they went out of town..but I still expect expression of interest to go out when they return, within a week of matching. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 25 | The fact this sub gets so much hate from people on the manosphere proves us rightDating over thirty | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:26 AM |
| 30 | The fact this sub gets so much hate from people on the manosphere proves us rightYeah, I joined DOT with a throwaway account while recently in a bad situationship...wish I sought FDS advice and saved myself the time. But glad I found FDS before he reached out again. I can barely tolerate DOT posts now that I am an FDS convert but sometimes I appreciate having a perspective of older singles.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:55 PM |
| 1 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedKnowing lots of men, I 100% agree that there was no other woman. If there was, he wouldn’t even say anything about it to you lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 11:24 PM |
| 71 | The fact this sub gets so much hate from people on the manosphere proves us rightI just had a post removed from DOT where I suggested a woman check out FDS...they said it was promoting hate speech! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:51 PM |
| 5 | Thank you, ladies!👯♀️💃🏾👍🏾❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:30 PM |
| 55 | Common lies on OLDYes, I’m new to OLD but so far I have found 90% of men on there are lying about something. I live in a big city and come across many profiles of men I know, a lot of them lie about their age and height. I even came across a recently engaged family friend on an app. Nearly every man that has arrived on a first date was not as tall as they claimed..and not as fit as their pics indicated. One guy used an old pic where he was younger and leaner...he was supposedly only 5 years older than me (35F), a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:22 PM |
| 27 | Classic “let’s go on a walk”Ive chatted with so many guys like that..I used to pity passive men but nah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 2 | High Earning, Well-Educated and Well-Dressed Does Not a HVM MakeMy point is that not all male attorneys or law students are terrible people. You sound bitter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:13 PM |
| 29 | Prime example of the type we don't give our valuable presence to. A date with a woman is worth far more than $18.75. He had the audacity to call himself a "gentleman" after all that! 😂2 enemies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:36 AM |
| 0 | High Earning, Well-Educated and Well-Dressed Does Not a HVM MakeI dont like blanket statements, as a female attorney.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:36 AM |
| 7 | ‘Good luck never finding anyone’Lol my ex’s final text during our break up was “good luck”...he just texted me last week lol...I ignored the loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 5 | At least the responses are great 😂Haahaa | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:10 AM |
| 70 | "You get one chance to act right, and that's being generous." Thank you FDSWow! Awesome, it’s one thing to understand these principles but I bet its harder applying them. I bet you feel great! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:10 AM |
| 36 | HVM will do ANYTHING to make you succeedWow he sounds too good to be true. Where/how did you meet him...give a girl some tips! Good luck on your exams lady, you got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 12:07 AM |
| 51 | My favorite part is how her female friends are surrounding her for this epic momentWhy do you think they always come crawling back? LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 07:46 PM |
| 123 | My favorite part is how her female friends are surrounding her for this epic momentLol yep. 100% So many women assume men have all these options out there which is why they act dumb- many do not have options..they simple don’t act right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 16 | They always come back. Always. They might be nasty to you, make you feel obsolete. But they come back, always.Yup, a hard truth at first but thats what it boils down to.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:22 PM |
| 173 | My favorite part is how her female friends are surrounding her for this epic momentNo, they aren’t drowning in it. Trust me, I have many male friends.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | I just canceled a date!Damn that cell service looked out for OP!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Thanks FDS for having a platform to explain & call out PickMe behaviorI met a guy at a park event and we had a great convo. He asked me out for that night but I said I had plans. We exchanged numbers and be immediately asked me to a comedy show the following week (I mentioned liking live comedy, he does too). He purchased our tickets, we had met beforehand for drinks (he paid). It was going so well! Then during a lull in the show, he takes his hair down from his man bun and shakes it down, then leans in for a big kiss. I pulled back and shook my head..embarrassed … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else become a pickmeshia even though their parents taught them better?YES! My mom taught me well, she never even dated..she married my dad at 19. But she always taught me self respect and that most men are trash. I followed her advice most of my life, completely avoiding dating until I finished law school and became an independent women in my mid-late 20s. Because I was late to dating world, I was told by peers that I was too intimidating, reserved or difficult. So I completely abandoned all the principles I was taught to “try and give guys a chance.” Well, I only… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:09 PM |
| -5 | FML. I was on Tinder and I found a friend's boyfriend on there.You don’t know the dynamics of their relationship, whether they broke up or do open dating. I probably wouldn’t do anything about it personally, unless I knew they were still in an exclusive relationship. If they are still together/exclusive, then I would send an anon screenshot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:02 PM |
| 53 | Literally, the audacity!Thank you!! I know a guy who is 40 and thinks he can get a hot 20something bc be has a good job. There are plenty of hot 20-30 something successful men they can choose to date with a full head of hair and a nice fit body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:50 AM |
| 29 | Then they insist you at least pay the tip...Gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 03:09 AM |
| 53 | This is just so sad... I don't feel like i want to date men anymore after being exposed to what they really think... and dealing with horrible men. I just can't take it mentally lolUgh that’s how I feel..I know good men are out there but after a breakup in Feb and subsequently going on 4 first dates that were “one and done” for me...I have no energy or desire for men. Otherwise, I am doing so well. Fittest I have ever been at 35, feeling good and healthy..but yeah, not motivated to date. My best friend is a guy, so I do have male company..too bad I’m not attracted to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:06 AM |
| 19 | The only 50/50 to aspire to🙌🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:53 AM |
| 14 | I have decided to date myself, & Thursday nights are date nights!Yay! I’m watching a guilty pleasure with a lit candle, face mask, munching on cheese and finishing off a protein shake..did 2 work outs today! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:09 AM |
| 8 | I'm so proud of you ladies. Whenever I see a woman on another subreddit who could use our help, I send her a DM invitation. Seems many of you are doing the same! Keep it up, it is our sacred duty to uplift women especially when they have been trampled by patriarchy. Cheers to 100K! 🥳🍻🎉🥂👯♀️🍻🎊Thank you for the honesty. My grandma had my mom at 45 as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 11:47 AM |
| 45 | I'm so proud of you ladies. Whenever I see a woman on another subreddit who could use our help, I send her a DM invitation. Seems many of you are doing the same! Keep it up, it is our sacred duty to uplift women especially when they have been trampled by patriarchy. Cheers to 100K! 🥳🍻🎉🥂👯♀️🍻🎊Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 03:01 AM |
| 7 | How has FDS changed you?I’m direct and unapologetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 02:20 AM |
| 3 | Another FDS queen by the sounds of itHaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:40 AM |
| 6 | Another FDS queen by the sounds of itMy hero | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:40 AM |
| 8 | Another FDS queen by the sounds of itSomething had to warrant that lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 118 | I'm so proud of you ladies. Whenever I see a woman on another subreddit who could use our help, I send her a DM invitation. Seems many of you are doing the same! Keep it up, it is our sacred duty to uplift women especially when they have been trampled by patriarchy. Cheers to 100K! 🥳🍻🎉🥂👯♀️🍻🎊I was a 35F desperate and worried about finding a husband to start a family with. After FDS I feel so free and light about everything. I’m much calmer and level headed about dating. And I have never ignored my exes in the past, always taking them back when lonely. I have ignored TWO exes who are trying to reach me since FDS. Sooo thankful! I would be out there wasting my time with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:36 AM |
| 19 | And I'd rather shit in my hands and then clap than be in the same room as a dude like this.So clever lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Queen actions. Saw this on Facebook FDS material.Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 01:17 AM |
| 14 | Broke: financially, spiritually and mentallyLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:20 PM |
| 3 | High value dates for the current moment?Idk about a picnic first date- do I want to eat/drink stuff that a stranger packed? No. | /r/askFDS | 23/09/20 02:07 PM |
| 9 | Life will test you the minute you decide to be a HVW.So true! I just joined FDS recently and received a text from my ex within a couple weeks. I also have been negged by a LVM and tested in other ways. So glad I came across FDS so I am not making dumb mistakes like before.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 07:38 AM |
| 6 | Ladies, I found another gem on the dating sub. I don’t care how they explain their need for coffee dates. It’s a no for me, but all the other pickmes can have these men. 🥴Lol right! I get too lazy to do my hair so I often get a blow out for $35.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 11 | Ladies, I found another gem on the dating sub. I don’t care how they explain their need for coffee dates. It’s a no for me, but all the other pickmes can have these men. 🥴Ding ding ding! They want to go out with every willing woman to hedge their bets.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Yeah I sensed that too. He is older and not my type, prob has a “prove to me” you look like that attitude.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 06:18 PM |
| 0 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Yeah, he is a writer so I think he tried too hard. Anyway, I dont like it..my gut says nah Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:58 PM |
| 1 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Hmm its the first time I am hearing this kind of feedback regarding inconsistent pics! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:37 PM |
| 3 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Lol that’s what I thought too. My profile is verified and some of my pics are even without make up- but men still express fear of catfishing. One guy would not meet me because I did not have an IG account. Not my problem. IMO I look better IRL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 05:30 PM |
| 5 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?I am getting better at spotting them! I unmatched him 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:43 PM |
| 3 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 7 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Haha I wondered that too re different..but I have various pics (in a dress with makeup, bare face etc). Anyway, I found it arrogant to say he likes my look and wants to see it...yuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 6 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Thanks lady! I don’t have many close female friends rn so I appreciate your insight. I completely agree with everything you said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:35 PM |
| 13 | After exchanging hello’s/pleasantries, this is the first message I received from the guy (technically his second message)..Am I overly sensitive in finding it a sign of a LVM?Yeah, that’s what it is. His comment about wanting to LOOK at me..ew. I can walk down the street for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:34 PM |
| 13 | Your mental health > Your feelings for himUgh same, crazy how a 6 month relationship can cause so much trauma.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:28 PM |
| 17 | Your mental health > Your feelings for himI dated a guy for 6 months and when we got into a disagreement, he used the silent treatment on me. It was the first time I dealt with that, and I later learned it was a form of emotional abuse. It was a short relationship but damn, 7 months later and I still a bit scared from it... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:27 PM |
| 29 | Got banned from r/datingoverthirty due to inviting women to FDS via PMDamn at 35, I am jealous. Good for you young ladies, learning early! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 16 | Got banned from r/datingoverthirty due to inviting women to FDS via PM“Don’t save her, she don’t wanna be saved”...that song has a new meaning haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 26 | Got banned from r/datingoverthirty due to inviting women to FDS via PMYou’re the one who referred me- thank you!! I used to post more on DOT but have converted to FDS thanks to your recommendation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:18 AM |
| 8 | If the man you are with is not worth caring for if he became totally disabled, leave.That’s sweet. I hope I find someone like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Is this guy a waste of time?Right, we aren’t free virtual entertain. I find guys that don’t ask within the first week will never ask! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:10 AM |
| 8 | This girl’s boyfriend is clearly so generous! Is even worried about how much toilet paper she uses 🙄Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:26 PM |
| 15 | Is this guy a waste of time?I would stop communicating. I was in the same scenario and after 2 weeks of no plans, I unmatched. I want a proactive man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:21 PM |
| 2 | How to forgive your prior pickmeisha self...the flashbacks still make cringe.That’s an interesting point. My pick me friend constantly talks about how she does not regret anything and says all her past relationships with guy (LVM imo) were great experiences. I’m not the same...but if I can process it from your perspective, it helps me move forward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:12 PM |
| 2 | How to forgive your prior pickmeisha self...the flashbacks still make cringe.Yes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 2 | How to forgive your prior pickmeisha self...the flashbacks still make cringe.Ah yes, thanks lady. You’re right- I can’t even consider these guys! My friends were commenting about me getting back with my LV ex, they didn’t quite understand how impossible that would be for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 1 | How to forgive your prior pickmeisha self...the flashbacks still make cringe.Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:03 AM |
| 5 | How to forgive your prior pickmeisha self...the flashbacks still make cringe.Thank you. I ignored my gut with him, never ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Quirks, Flaws, Traits and Red Flags - Let's discussWow thanks! This resonated with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 01:36 AM |
| 6 | Are men actually bad at texting or is this just an excuse?Great insight here | /r/askFDS | 16/09/20 07:46 PM |
| 176 | When I read this I knew it belonged hereHaha yeah my mother the other day said “you changed, you seem to only care about yourself these days.” Yes! I do care for others, but putting me first. No apologies... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Progress: first time I forgot about every guy I was chatting witj on an OLD app. Thank you FDS, I am so so relaxed and unfazed by men and dating!🙌🏾💃🏾💃🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 12:20 PM |
| 16 | OLD strategy for unacceptable datesYeah, I went on a picnic date and it was a blanket on the ground. No food or drinks. I won’t do that again.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:49 AM |
| 6 | Never once did my exes ever do anything close to this.. take note ladies.I hope I find that.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:42 AM |
| 6 | acceptable covid-proof dates?Nice! He sounds thoughtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Forever coffee dates LOLWhat city? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:34 AM |
| 10 | Progress: first time I forgot about every guy I was chatting witj on an OLD app. Thank you FDS, I am so so relaxed and unfazed by men and dating!Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 02:34 AM |
| 3 | What are some phrases LVM say in the beginning that are red flags in the early phases that we may not notice?Yup! But at the same time they love to introduce me and somehow mention I’m an attorney (I never ever ever initiate talking about work when socializing with new people and I do not have a boring attorney style), bc it makes them feel like they have a “catch”.. 🙄 but I catch those private digs every once in a while | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 01:04 AM |
| 3 | What are some phrases LVM say in the beginning that are red flags in the early phases that we may not notice?Lol yep! I have had so many men downplay or undermine my education despite me NEVER mentioning it unless they asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:31 PM |
| 5 | Poetic justice 💋Isk Im an attorney and I think this would not be a conflict of interest | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Poetic justice 💋Why? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Poetic justice 💋Nah, its fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Hmm thanks lady. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Thank you sis. You’re right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..We have mutual friends, and I didn’t mind sharing my number...if he came correct, I would have considered going on a date. But he only texted sporadically and boringly, so I lost all interest. And FYI I did tell him he should just accept people or leave them be. He went silent. I just think its odd to go off on an acquaintance in this way bc you don’t like their phone etiquette! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:39 PM |
| 8 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Yes! Even guys I date ask if they can call first.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:39 PM |
| 9 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Funny, I am super into working out and fitness and I notice most guys will try and playfully “insult/compliment” my body... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:02 PM |
| 14 | What are some phrases LVM say in the beginning that are red flags in the early phases that we may not notice?“Did you actually go to law school?” Or some other way to diminish my accomplishments when I say I am a LAWYER. “You’re too negative.” When I call them on shit. “I just want to see where this goes.” “i want babies with you.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 8 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Hmm never thought about negative flirting. I think a lot of guys use that approach with me bc I come across as “scary” or “intimidating”... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:46 PM |
| 9 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Lmao, thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 14 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Yep, already thought about that. My response to my male friend was “If a woman said the same things as this guy; you would call her crazy.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 10 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Lol thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Not a few hours, a WEEK. I sent the text after the missed call on 9/06, he responded last night 9/14. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 13 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..You’re right. I guess I am new to FDS principles and felt a little bad esp bc our mutual friend seems to think I am in the wrong for not returning his calls. Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 12 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Lmao. He texted a week after the call.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:21 PM |
| 15 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..My male friend, who is the mutual friend we share, said I am “a little rude” for not returning his calls and said the guy is “probably joking.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:21 PM |
| 21 | Lectured for not returning a guy’s call (who I am not even friends with!!) Why do men feel entitled to my time? See comments for backstory..Met a guy (36M) TWO years ago at a friends bday brunch, he was clearly interested in me but did nothing. Saw him a few more times over the years, but over time I lost any potential interest as I dated others. Last time I saw him was in December while we were hanging out in a group, he asked for my # and said something about me being out of his league. I shared my # and he didn’t text until weeks later, with a weak/boring convo. We never got into a flow, not much effort on his part whatsoever. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 03:18 PM |
| 7 | Broke PickMe proves to her multi-millionaire boyfriend that "she's not like other girls" by spoiling him with gifts and not asking him for anything. Then when she ask for help with her $1000 rent he says NO.Lol yeah my ex had 3 outfits he wore on rotation, drove a beat down car and lived in an awful neighborhood..my friends were concerned when I mentioned where he lives. What exactly was desirable for about his lifestyle that would make anyone want to use him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:36 PM |
| 11 | Resisting the urge to send a final text to my exTrust me, don’t contact him. I got out of a bad relationship in February and it ended so shitty and I wanted closure sooo bad. I wrote out a long note to him and a male friend suggested not send it, saying it would not resolve anything for me and it would likely leave my ex feeling good that I am still so wrapped up in our breakup. I agreed to hold off on it for a month, but then when I revisited, I decided I did not care to express anything to him. I worked on myself, focused on my health and e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:55 PM |
| 49 | Of course the pick me gets upvotes while the WOMAN gets downvoted for acknowledging her worth and stating facts.Lol, sounds like male logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:50 PM |
| 23 | Imagine being this insecure that you feel the need to go around and humble those GORGEOUS, confident black woman...patheticHer (first girls) cute smile at the camera when she was saying she was forreal forreal, you can tell she is humble and confident! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:43 AM |
| 6 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Lol yep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 09:58 AM |
| 21 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Yes! I just got bad vibes of irresponsibility and immaturity. The stupid coffee date we spoke for about an hour the whole time (including a short walk), and later he said that only thing he learned about me was that I’m pretty..um I’m pretty interesting and we spoke in detail, with huge contributions from me, about a topic/field that we are both very interested in. He just said that to say that I do not know enough about him to have made the decision to cancel on him based on his ONE mistake. 🙄.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:51 AM |
| 1 | FrOm ThE pAsT...best father of the yearHaha, yup! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:46 AM |
| 6 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Yep. After telling me to pick a place of a certain cuisine! I told him where it was and such, rhen the next day he goes on about his mileage on his leased car is up so he will metro. Then later said “its not fancy right, bc I am trying to stick to a budget”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 01:02 AM |
| 4 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:34 AM |
| 9 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Well he told me owned a condo...and please read the second update lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:17 AM |
| 10 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!I want a Tesla or something similar. I don’t judge others based on their material tastes or desires, so long as they aren’t attached to that stuff.. But I also wouldn’t announce the car I plan to purchase on a first date unless it came up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:12 AM |
| 4 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Yep. I guess mine are obvious if you know what a non-dramatic one looks like- my long term ex knew. But these duds often don’t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 12:09 AM |
| 26 | Before I joined FDS, I went on a coffee date with a man (38M) who told me he planned to buy a Tesla. He asked me to dinner and suggested a place, then asked if we can go to a place of my ethnic cuisine. The next day he asked if the place was $$ bc he was on a budget.. Sigh!Haha well thats the kicker- there are no fancy restaurants of this food in my city. I told him where the restaurant was (I would never pick where a 2nd date is but thought it was cute he wanted to try my peoples food)..he could have looked up the menu and discovered entrees are $10-15 max! I am also an attorney in a major city, likely make more than him so he should have realized I don’t need his damn money or food | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 11:21 PM |
| 3 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Sounds like it wasn’t bad, just not perfect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:12 PM |
| 22 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Yes definitely..most men I dated would make foreplay last sooo long and alllll centered around me. Then I enjoyed sex a lot more. My ex’s foreplay lasted 2 minutes and he wondered why I did not enjoy sex.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 17 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.I’m the same exact way! My orgasms aren’t obvious to all guys bc I am not vocal, but I can tell (hearing goes out, leg trembles, etc.). But once that happens, I am DONE. I want to roll and over sleep haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:08 PM |
| 112 | Broke PickMe proves to her multi-millionaire boyfriend that "she's not like other girls" by spoiling him with gifts and not asking him for anything. Then when she ask for help with her $1000 rent he says NO.Yes! My most rich ex had millions but was so damn frugal, men with 10% of what has treat me more generously. He had the nerve to ask if I was with him for his $$...he sought ME out and what was his money doing for me? Nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:01 PM |
| 136 | FrOm ThE pAsT...best father of the yearLmao at “doing management”... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:59 PM |
| 11 | The most attractive quality of all ? It’s dignity.🙌🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Another reason NOT to accept drinks dates.Who is he? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:47 AM |
| 3 | Men who update pics when things progress towards meeting IRL...?I have read the handbook. I’m not invested, I’m going to stop communicating with him..I feel duped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:51 AM |
| 11 | Men who update pics when things progress towards meeting IRL...?Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:27 AM |
| 3 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!We always desire what we don’t have, right? Exactly, I never did my hair for a man.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 12:27 AM |
| 7 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!Lol I honestly don’t know if they even know what make up and such vs a bare face looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:48 PM |
| 9 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!Yep! Men say they want a natural women lol, but show me who they look at and who they break their necks for.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:06 PM |
| 9 | It's only dusty men who complain! My own father is a dusty! (I'll NEVER marry a man like him 🤮) He always makes fun of my mom when she wears make up! "You look like a drag..." So she stopped! She is now a Plain Jane! As a kid I was clueless! Now I know why!I have curly thick hair...it’s big and takes effort in the mornings so I prefer to get it blown out some weekends where I can get 3-4 days easy wear out of it (I don’t wash my hair every day). I have a membership at a local blow out bar. When I started dating my ex, we mostly went out on weekends and one day he asked what my natural hair was like..then he asked to see it curly bc he likes curly hair. Eventually he saw it curly when we met up midweek. He then complained when I would straighten it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 11:05 PM |
| 19 | I think I found a redpiller in the wildLol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 32 | I think I found a redpiller in the wildLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 10:43 PM |
| 7 | What is your timeline to marriage?Eh men saying that doesn’t actually mean anything tho. Most of the most marriage oriented men I know don’t make declarations like that early on... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:13 PM |
| 8 | What is your timeline to marriage?Hmm I’m 35..how old are you? As someone with many male friends due to my hobby, I do agree with your assessment regarding men knowing early on. My timeline (ideally) -Dates 1 to 3: are they serious about marriage, and possess straight that support the talk? -2 to 4 months: develop good foundation for a relationship/make it official -4 to 6 months: travel together -6 to 9 months: discuss the future, engagement shared goals... -9 months- 1 year: meet each others families (mine are traditional immi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.Lol i need to learn the art of stfu! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 9 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.Mind blown! Looking back at how “open” and “real” I was with guys before ...smh... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:10 AM |
| 6 | Tons of green flags so far with this guy I’m seeing. I like him but I’m being cautious, and would like your advice on us opening up to eachother.When is it safe to disclose things from your past and vulnerabilities? Never? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, how to block someone for good and never look back??Great advice. I do something similar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:12 PM |
| 46 | Jacob Blake 👎🏿Right. I’m sure it’s a black female victim too.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:06 PM |
| 11 | Reminder, it's never your fault when a man hurts you.Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:04 PM |
| 7 | Reminder, it's never your fault when a man hurts you.🙏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 08:03 PM |
| 62 | NVM Ex-husband meets new meYay! Is it weird that I am looking forward to dealing with a LVM so I can practice this! *I mean don’t get me wrong universe- I want, demand and deserve a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 07:44 PM |
| 50 | She didn't even have to send him a nude.Sweet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 12:59 PM |
| 12 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.If he wanted to be with you in an honest way, he would have been honest initially..not after telling you he could not commit and not after you ignored him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:42 AM |
| 17 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.Ditto but I’m almost back!! Time and effort.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 02:38 AM |
| 36 | Reminder: Trust your gut. Get out at the first signs of gaslighting.Oh man this is how I feel about my last relationship. I ignored my guy instincts. At one point, I followed my queen energy and walked away.. then doubted myself and went back bc I have always been told I was “too difficult” with men. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Why do men online always have such a negative reaction/hangups over dinner dates?? Yet they want to meet you ASAPEh I disagree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Is this even acceptable to plan a date like this??? Like how much more cheap can this guy get? "I hope she ate already so I don't have to waste money"? Ladies, I present you 🤢I am a high earner and live a mostly simple lifestyle, so I think he liked that....his money would be safe. He cooked and did stuff around the house tho. But glad its done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Is this even acceptable to plan a date like this??? Like how much more cheap can this guy get? "I hope she ate already so I don't have to waste money"? Ladies, I present you 🤢I had proof of his wealth but I agree. He wanted to settle down but would constantly tell me I should “not give up my independence” and keep my career lol. He would lecture me about how I am wasting my money because I like living in a nice place- but I can afford it and its none of his business. He also asked if I sought him out bc his $$- mind you, he approached me and asked me out. And what exactly was his money doing for me? Guys with 1% of his wealth treated me to much much more. Yeah I lear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 0 | Is this even acceptable to plan a date like this??? Like how much more cheap can this guy get? "I hope she ate already so I don't have to waste money"? Ladies, I present you 🤢Lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:12 PM |
| 4 | Is this even acceptable to plan a date like this??? Like how much more cheap can this guy get? "I hope she ate already so I don't have to waste money"? Ladies, I present you 🤢My ex was cheap but also a self made millionaire. I wish I left after date 1: a blanket on the grass. Date 2- a free event at the art museum. He once paid to fix a broken appliance for me, I asked how much the parts were and he said “don’t worry about it, I got it..it’s no more than $50.” I thought it was sweet given his frugalness LOL. I was recently at the home improvement store and saw the part he purchased for me- $4! I swear in the 6 months we dated, he probably did not spend more than $50 … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Oh hell noLmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 04:03 PM |
| 5 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.LOVE THIS! Thanks ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Never againI can relate. I am so embarrassed that I begged my ex to stay after our fight that did us in. I still cringe reflecting on it. We gotta forgive ourselves and realize we will never learn and do better if we did not have this experiences and later realizations. I try to look at that experience as a lesson I am lucky to have, for future experiences. Some women never have that ability to reflect on this stuff properly, and that is the real travesty. Good luck sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Found on instagram. He is looking for a mommy🤣The dig just makes him look so stupid and clearly hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Found on instagram. He is looking for a mommy🤣Lol Im gonna use that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:09 PM |
| 3 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.So then what does one actually say? What about “I’m still figuring that out.”! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:01 PM |
| 2 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.Haha yeah sounds like he gets his ego fed too much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:57 PM |
| 5 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.Haha the universe was looking out for sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:57 PM |
| 10 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.Yeah I noticed that too. He seems to have overshared his dating history, but I don’t know the full context. He responded to her having a friend over by saying “oh do I just saw this chick I used to date (but it was a group trip) and oh yeah I dated this other chick a couple months ago too.” Wtf. How is this relevant to your relationship? Yeah, sounds like he is either young and awkward, or just wanted an out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:51 PM |
| 5 | How do I control emotions of jealousy? I hooked up with a year long neighbor crush who I later found out was on two dates this weekend. If it wasn’t for all of the bedroom talk and promises of the future I wouldn’t have responded so viscerally.I like to be honest too and based on experience I would never say I want a relationship bc guys somehow thinks it means with THEM..no mofo, I want one with someone qualified and I don’t know your credentials yet. So I think I would say something like “I want to date and get to know people, I’m only open to something serious if I meet someone worthwhile.” Its truthful and sends a message. What do you ladies think? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?Ok, fine.. I am middle aged! I guess I just don’t feel like it haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:36 PM |
| 17 | Why do men online always have such a negative reaction/hangups over dinner dates?? Yet they want to meet you ASAPI hate coffee or walking dates, but guys are trying to pull it more due to covid.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 02:11 PM |
| 4 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?Great! Thanks for all the useful details. But 30s is not middle aged! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:29 PM |
| 25 | My boyfriend called me out yesterday.Yes, what a great thing to share. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:54 PM |
| 1 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?Yes! Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:51 PM |
| 6 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?Don’t think you missed the boat, plenty of women I know in my city who married/started families at 35+ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 08:00 AM |
| 17 | Any success stories from women 35+ who found a HVM? Any tips for us single ladies?I’m 35 too. I took A LOT of time to heal after my last break up. I put in work before that short relationship but I’ve put in even deeper work since then. More than anything, I truly value myself now. For the first time, I feel detached while dating..also haven’t found one I am fully into. And I’m okay with that. I’m patient, I live the good life..and until I find someone worthy of my time/energy, I am focusing on continuing to improve myself and living the lifestyle I always dreamed of. Btw I m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 01:26 AM |
| 5 | Shower Thoughts: Being Always Ready to Walk Away Keeps You from Acting CrazyAw awesome tips! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:40 AM |
| 9 | At first I felt for her until.. (let me know if you got to that part in the comments). 😣😣😣I feel the same about BJs, most guys did not mind but the last guy I dated asked a couple times and it became a “running joke” where he would make a bet on it and a BJ would be his prize. I always told him it was not my thing, and that I never did it much so not any good at it..:he proceeded to show me how to give a good one using his own finger to demo. Even showing me how to not tire my neck. Lol, I still never gave him one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:37 AM |
| 43 | Shower Thoughts: Being Always Ready to Walk Away Keeps You from Acting CrazyHow do you balance being affection and feeling for someone with also being ready to bounce at a moments notice (if he acts up)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 2 | This reminded me of all you wonderful ladies.. keep being queens! 👸💐I find certain flowers last longer than others- like mums. I get a cheap bouquet about every other week..but they def look better the first week! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 11:16 PM |
| 17 | Lots of broke guys have the audacity to say “I don’t own a home but I want an iNdEPeNDeNt women and at least 3 kids.” on OLD! What can we write on our bio to avoid these cheap broken asses?Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 25 | This reminded me of all you wonderful ladies.. keep being queens! 👸💐I buy myself flowers regularly when grocery shopping! They brighten up my place :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:48 PM |
| 2 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualIs it reasonable to ask someone to not speak to an ex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:44 PM |
| 6 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualWell 3rd time within 24 hours I guess. We slept over for night and we had sex that morning, and the eve before. Only once did we see each other and not have sex. I have a high sex drive too but he had the highest libido, esp for a guy in his mid-late 30s. I def think he was an addict because he said he masturbated frequently and even used pics from women on social media (clothed women!!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 4 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualHe said that my exes still communicating with me (2 of them, on occasion only) would get in the way of us developing something. Funny he had an issue with it before we were even exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:37 PM |
| 7 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualLmao he is in the past! Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:35 PM |
| 28 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualHallelujah! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:19 PM |
| 16 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualI don’t recall..I just remember trying to power through it even tho I was not enjoying it. He would accuse me of lying about having to pee sometimes, but I am literally known amongst my friends/fam for my shitty bladder. Looking back maybe I was starting to lose attraction in the bedroom because although he was attractive, he wasn’t a great pleaser. It was more for his enjoyment. Also, he was likely insecure because that night before bed, he was googling a B list actor I mentioned dating right b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:15 PM |
| 81 | The comments section is a bunch of LVM twisting the conversation to victimize themselves, and pickmes/cool girls slut shaming, as usualMy ex (of 6 months) and I broke up earlier this year after he yelled at me during sex. I pee frequently and am often sore (I lift weights), but he got agitated if I had to interrupt sex for a change in position or to pee. He is the ONLY partner I had this issue with. One night I tried to not be vocal about discomfort (we already had good sex twice that day) but eventually I asked to change positions (earlier we discussed different positions that would work better for me, but he still liked his s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Guy (43m) says I (37f) talk too much. Played it off like he was teasing me and I was being sensitive by getting insulted. Is this a neg or playful teasing or a flat-out insult? What does he possibly hope to gain by being so rude?Love! I want you to be my bff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:49 AM |
| 5 | Never put yourself down for your past choice in menI dated garbage at 34, glad I finally see the light.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 12:37 AM |
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