They say polyamory but they just mean cheating

AyemHerself · 2020-12-06T01:55:54+00:00

Why are women expected to roll over and "communicate" everything their husbands want, giving in to things men would never consider for their wives? And don't tell me "she can find someone else too!" - clearly she doesn't want that.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-06T02:00:37+00:00

Just the level of disrespect for him to even breathe these words to his wife who has birthed his children! I would be done.

sassenachpants · 2020-12-06T02:42:08+00:00

Ugh. The polybomb.

Nope. Leave him. I can tell you from personal experience if you give an inch on poly they will take a mile. Your relationship will never close again. It will fake close and he will whine about it forever. Your relationship priorities don’t line up and no HVM asks for this. Run.

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2020-12-06T01:27:20+00:00

Does he not know how this ends? Eventually home girl is gonna take advantage of this open relationship thing and her husbands ex is gonna dump him again. Then he’s gonna want to close the relationship 😂

biggestsigh · 2020-12-06T02:22:14+00:00

she needs leave him asap, their marriage is over. Why are young, healthy women settling for this type of behavior?

KateJ1982 · 2020-12-06T02:44:59+00:00

On what planet is it not ok to say to your husband hey I'd rather you didn't sex up your childhood sweetheart while we're married, mmkay?

The whole never met the family, doesn't trust the husband, has no money for a plane ticket, getting a visa for a long stay in another country thing is giving me serious Sally Field "Not Without My Daughter" vibes.

PinkPetalCdistbeauty · 2020-12-06T01:52:41+00:00

I’m so grossed out by this. What a fucking turn-off. Hate to say it, but it’s a good reminder for me... I’m good right here where I am at, single af.

I was feeling a bit lonely and sad and was tempted feeling like I should “look” at dating again.... nope. I’m good.

Jiou112 · 2020-12-06T03:37:24+00:00

Doesn't it seem weird that there was never much push to get to the country his family is to meet, until there was also the option of him sleeping with someone else...? Like, never met his family, he asks to sleep with other women, all of a sudden they are now traveling to where other women is to "meet his family"...

jargon_explosion · 2020-12-06T03:37:10+00:00

You can tell how garbage poly is when the man only brings it up once he thinks he has a for sure prospect to sleep with.

YesPleaseMadam · 2020-12-06T06:29:37+00:00

how long till she find out he just married her for the green card?

CoffeeBeforeAdulty · 2020-12-06T06:15:21+00:00

"Sure, hunny. Right after we get a divorce. I assume, since you only want to sleep with her that you have no interest in raising our children anymore so I am more than alright taking custody and your child support money." And then you stick with it even after he tries to backpedal.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-12-06T14:27:59+00:00

"I'll only do things with her you don't like!" = making her feel even more like sh*t because he is getting "needs" from another woman she will not provide 🤮 Dump him. He does not love you.

vacantvivacity · 2020-12-06T04:59:55+00:00

This makes me really sad

SnooEagles9138 · 2020-12-06T09:17:57+00:00

These posts always make me wonder, why the woman never is considering how the poly relationship could work for her? She should say to her husband, that she is dating now too and go out. Most of the time the guys that proposed poly want to close this again really, really fast.

But nooooo, this it is all about the husband.

adertina · 2020-12-06T05:27:04+00:00

Has a woman ever talked to her partner about going poly mid-relationship?

amdecarr · 2020-12-06T06:29:10+00:00

My heart hurts bad for this person

light_workerx3 · 2020-12-06T13:00:46+00:00

Imagine being married to someone and thinking they are only going to be with you and then they drop a bomb saying they want polyamory? And that they are still wanting to have sex with their first love ? Hell no ... HELL NO .. that is so extremely disrespectful.

thinktwiceorelse · 2020-12-06T10:55:07+00:00

This poor woman says: he was honest. I'm done.

Title	They say polyamory but they just mean cheating
Author	biggestsigh
Upvotes	207
Comments	35
Date	December 6, 2020 12:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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