How to be a TRP Brother to 3 sisters and their kids?

Aaren_Augustine · 2016-12-27T08:43:35+00:00

My condolences.

Family has a way of giving us a purpose in life. Or at least meaning. And you're young-ish. This is basically how I felt when I had kids.

Be the most stoic crane you can be. Be support when it's not at your sacrifice and be a leader if the opportunity arises. Mostly though, enjoy them.

TheRedStoic · 2016-12-27T13:12:14+00:00

By action. Setting a consistent strong example is the best thing you can do.

If your life is awesome and you're happy, others will do as you do. Especially children.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-12-27T17:52:05+00:00

One of the things about being a man is, you'll sometimes wake up to find the shoes you wear have gotten three times larger!

Aspects of it are strangely coming naturally and I have this innate urge to protect, support, and comfort them in ways I wouldn't usually behave.

That's great, RUN with it, just beware the urge to turn to Blue Pill roles and behaviors. I never wanted kids of my own, but when I was a step-parent for years, it fulfilled me in ways I never anticipated.

Now's a great time for leadership. Take the point role in whatever funeral arrangements will be, and in keeping the family notified and in the loop. One of your sisters is probably more organized and together than the others, try to delegate and work with her toward this end.

Now's a good time to plan for future contacts as well. What's the next big gathering holiday for you, Easter? Work with one sister to arrange a holiday shindig to get the family together under more auspicious circumstances than a funeral.

Over time, spend time with your nieces and nephews. Maybe plan a boy's weekend day, and you and a GF might take the niece/s for a theme park day or some such. Campouts are another way I've gotten involved with my extended family; sister and BIL never went camping ever and my Nephews really enjoyed the couple of trips we took. Mentoring youth can be a very satisfying activity.

Other than that, things will probably soon settle into a long-term equilibrium of how frequently or seldom you all interact. Also, the relationship between individual siblings will likely change over the years, with some being more involved at times than others.

Congratulations, you are now a sort of family Patriarch. Good luck, Sir.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-12-27T18:25:32+00:00

Teach by example.

StoicCrane · 2016-12-28T01:26:08+00:00

I'm truly sorry, please accept my condolences. I know the TRP is all about being the "The Man," but you're still a human. If you were as close to your father as I would, you have to let yourself grieve in the healthiest ways. I cried waking up every morning for months after my father's death, not a fun way to wake up, but I allowed myself to acknowledge & feel the pain. Oppose to my sister, who barely cried but gained 50lbs from emotional eating.

Continue to be there for your family, but don't forget that he was your father too. And you deserve to mourn.

EGOtyst · 2016-12-28T04:11:50+00:00

Be John Wayne. Women want him, men want to be him.

Title	How to be a TRP Brother to 3 sisters and their kids?
Author	StoicCrane
Upvotes	11
Comments	15
Date	December 27, 2016 6:57 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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