Can you guys give me advice on how to deal with workplace stress please?

Ricksalab89 · 2021-04-28T16:12:01+00:00

Hey bud. It seems like you kind of need to stay where you are for at least a few more months. During that time, my best advice would be to try as hard as you can to not let what others do affect you. If confronted, obviously stand up for yourself, but whatever happens past that do not let affect you. I know that seems tough, but let me just give you one example from your story.

You mentioned that people who hurt you get off scot free. This type of mentality is adding stress in your life that you dont need. Do not worry about what happens to others. You cannot control that. All you can control is what is happening in your mind my friend. That is why happiness is a state of mind that no one can take from me. That is how I look at it. I have dealt with people trying to take my happiness from me before and this way of life is the best way I have found so far to stop people from taking it. So whatever happens to me in my day to day life, I just remember that I cant let it take my happiness from me. It is honestly hard work, and takes time to develop that skill. It is worth it though brother. I have a youtube channel that I recently started. I will put the link below for you to take a look at because it is easier to explain with speech. Hang in there king, you will come out of this even stronger. Trust me

https://youtube.com/channel/UCWMt5vdkD65locqfIp2nudw

burnett-lignon · 2021-04-28T19:07:12+00:00

There are many good suggestions here, but I would suggest one more. You say you "don't find any joy in day to day life at the minute..." I can't tell what it is, but you need to identify at least one activity that would give you joy, and do it for a least a little time each day. It might be reading, games, eating, animals, artwork, plants or IDK what. A person can't achieve contentment or satisfaction without their allotment of joy; it will make other conditions less unbearable until you can change them. Good luck on your journey.

johnnycarrotheid · 2021-04-28T16:45:26+00:00

You have a total victim mindset.

Lots of people are douche's but its how you deal with them that counts and shapes future interactions. The way you have been dealing with them, the rest seen it, and think they can do the same.

Going by your username, I'd guess 3782, age/birthyear, makes you about 37, now 38 ye old?????????

See a shrink.

If you lived in a messed up family home for 20yrs as an adult on top of the 18 childhood, and you just managed to leave now, trust me there's gonna be issues there.

I'm 36, if you are 2yrs older than me, and just now "flying the nest" you need a real life support network. Friends?

georgesoyros · 2021-04-28T18:39:27+00:00

You were raised by narcs and you were bullied by your own family members.

Then you became an easy target at working places (as well).

You're probably an empath, and this is something a lot of people can't stand. Quick guess: you probably want to be friendly towards everyone. You probably are a good guy. People probably even call you a 'typical nice guy'.

There's nothing wrong with you, at all. The problem is that this world is a hard, cold and dark place. Sure, there's beauty in it, but in general people in this world are in it for themselves. They survive by lying, cheating, backstabbing and bullying just to name a few. And they're afraid of empaths, because empaths don't do these things.

The people are afraid of you, because they can't understand 'how you do it'. A lot of people say they enjoy their life, but they don't say (or even know) that they use others to 'get what they need' in order to survive.

Know that there is nothing wrong with you. But do know as well that this place here is often awful.

Keep your soul and dignity. It's better to die staying true to yourself than live long 'cheating your way to the top'.

If however you want to survive for as long as possible, I'd recommend looking for some kind of a 'man bootcamp' or something. A 'warrior training' or whatever they call it. Not a PUA training, but look for keywords as 'man mental coach', 'no more mr nice guy training', etc. Learning to stand up for yourself.

You can also consider talking to a therapist. If it doesn't work out with a therapist, find another one. Don't make the mistake to 'sit it out' (and losing a lot of money). If after (let's say) 3 therapists you still haven't found a place to vent/rant, then maybe therapy isn't for you.

You already know where you're problems are coming from (bullied by family, unsafe family) which already makes for a couple of therapy sessions. A lot of people don't know where their problems come from. Most of the time it's from childhood.

All the best brother. And keep on asking for help. A lot of us are here to help.

forsandifs_r · 2021-04-28T20:41:24+00:00

Read 12 rules for life by Jordan Peterson. You NEED to read that book URGENTLY.

casra888 · 2021-04-28T16:39:52+00:00

Number one thing to remember. This is not permenant. Get into Community College or join the military. Either way, invest in your future! If nothing else, the military reserves can give you life long benefits. Community college, low cost, great professors who really care about your education. Great peers. Get in, get the best grades you can and join Phi Theta Kappa! Start hanging with the chapter as soon as you walk in the door! NO TV! NO VIDEO GAMES! NO DRINKING OR SMOKING! EXERCISE EVERY SINGLE DAY! Living situation. Get enough for loans to cover a place with a roommate. Try and get a place as close to your school as you can. Walking distance is ideal! Surround yourself with POSITIVE and MOTIVATED people ONLY! NO ONE WHO IS FUN BUT NOT HIGHLY MOTIVATED! Cut anyone else out of your life! Your life depends on it! Feel free to DM me.

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UnearthlyDinosaur · 2021-04-29T03:19:51+00:00

Sounds like your dad is a weak female.

If he thinks you’re not a “real man”, that’s 100% his fault.

You should try a different trade. Don’t do construction. That will make you subject to bullying.

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SocraticDuck · 2021-04-28T16:20:23+00:00

Quit your job & get on the Appalachian Trail.

Title	Can you guys give me advice on how to deal with workplace stress please?
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Date	April 28, 2021 1:48 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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