Married, kids, and stuck.

brainenfuego · 2021-01-18T04:02:50+00:00

Listen man, I feel you. I was there 2 years ago. It’s complete and utter misery. This is what I did:

Stopped complaining. I was complaining about everything because I was so miserable. No sex, no love, my opinions didn’t matter, had no money because it was always going to everything else, didn’t have a life or hobbies or friends. So I said fuck it! I’m gonna do my shit. What’s the worst that can happen? I get divorced and divorce r*ped? Oh well! Can’t be worse than this!

Started by getting my hobbies back. Bought a hot rod because I knew if I didn’t she’d spend the money on something else anyway. Bought some guitars and started playing again. Started going to the gym, eating healthy, and not going along with everything she said. Started pulling back and doing what I wanted to do. Called up some old friends and went to have dinner and shit. Started calling her out on her shit tests. She fucking hated it, hated me, got pissed, yelled...whatever. I told her to piss up a rope, and told her why I was doing what I was doing. Told I was done being her servant, done spending all the money on new bedding and dishes and shit. Told her we either work together at this shit or I’m out. Once I stood up and said no more, it got worse for a bit, then it started to get better.

There’s a book by Athol Kay, called Married life sex primer. Buy it. Also Ironwood Collection of Alpha Moves. They are great books for married red pill guys. Also listen to the Donavan Sharpe YouTube video for married dread, and Rian Stone on YT also. It’s a hell of a lot better than it was, but it’s never perfect because we have to deal with women, and women for the most part are resource vampires. It’s the life we live. Just take back your nuts. It’s that or divorce.

YouSaidChicken · 2021-01-18T03:21:02+00:00

There's no benefit I've heard. When it's bad it sucks, and even when it's good it still sucks.

It's a prison sentence stealing your life on year at a time for, ultimately, little purpose.

But maybe I just talk to depressed people.

ogmubz · 2021-01-18T03:30:12+00:00

Imma follow your advice if that makes you feel any better. I’m in my early 20’s and have right this second made a vow to never have kids or get married!! Good on you for looking after your kids!!

the-lone-squid · 2021-01-18T06:32:28+00:00

Like one guy said, get a life. Get an Xbox or ps5. Go for hikes, go fishing. If she gets mad don’t even try arguing. Whenever my ex got mad I would just shrug my shoulders and say, “I’m sorry you feel that way” then ignore. She always ended up apologizing.

Other then that there’s not much you can do. Hope it gets better for ya

GhostsinOrbit · 2021-01-18T04:23:29+00:00

Fuck man. I pray for your happiness, but im happy you were honest enough to let the younger guys understand what can happen.

Rocky9down · 2021-01-18T07:24:31+00:00

I respect that, I remember giving my parents the run-around and constant sleepless nights. There' no real advice I can give because I'm younger than you. But hang I there. I'm sorry this is happening to you. But know that you're not alone. Many men are facing the same thing. The best thing is to be there for your kids. You're a great mand and an even better father for putting up with a lot of shit. Others just abandon their children and pay child support. You have my ultimate respect.

LongTimeOn · 2021-01-18T11:08:09+00:00

This was me three yrs ago. I managed to get out and save my sanity, save myself from a messy, drunkard, sexless hog. Yes I have to pay child support and the divorce cost me a shit load of $, but you know what...it was worth EVERY PENNY to be rid of that life sucking whore.

Take our advice brother and start planning that exit, do it in detail and play the long game. In the short term, concentrate on your kids and yourself...do nothing for her, treat her like a house mate. Do your own washing, cooking etc,...don't rely on her for anything. Get a hobby and pour all your energy and frustration into that. When the plan is ready, pull that trigger and bounce off to a new life and happiness.

Solo_and_Simple · 2021-01-18T11:56:51+00:00

I felt the same when I was married. I felt like my spirit was dying. I remember one point where I distinctly remember thinking, "I am trying to live someone else's life." Not my own.

I felt like a wallet. I felt like a source of financial and emotional security, but I did not feel loved beyond that. I remember feeling very lonely and hurting -- lonelier than I've ever felt alone.

I don't want to paint myself as a victim, though. I chose this woman. I chose to get married. I signed up for it. I contributed to the unhealthy dynamics in the marriage (e.g., by not being forthright enough about what I wanted and needed, by accepting things the way they were, by not expressing how I felt and how frustrated I was). I'm not blaming her. I'm not blaming myself, either. It just didn't work out.

I'm sorry you're in this spot. I hope you find a way to free yourself, even if it's not free. Money isn't everything. Easy for me to say, I know. I wish you the best. It sounds like you're in a bad situation.

big_pharoh · 2021-01-18T12:11:07+00:00

Have you tried counciling either for yourself or with your wife? Get into hobbies. Make some time for yourself as there's nothing wrong with that.

dowhatulove420 · 2021-01-18T09:04:14+00:00

Put your money into crypto cash and gold and leave... the country. Stay connected with your kids through apps like signal, get them a bank account and provide for their needs.

If your wife in unemployable do the long lasting agreements, you kinda have some responsibility to her. She wouldn't have set her life up this way if she knew this would be the outcome.

Unfortunately many learn this stuff after its too late but you do have ways to exit without losing everything. There are technologies and strategies that you can employ to stay in tact and still maintain some of the responsibilities you now have to all your family, but at least you are in control of your money and how and c who gets to spend it.

Title	Married, kids, and stuck.
Author	tylerplaas
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	January 18, 2021 3:18 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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