Need help

GTFO_Lmao · 2021-01-07T21:16:49+00:00

Because they don’t care about you. Drugs or not. And when I mean they don’t care, they really don’t. Ex-girlfriends forgot you exist. The only time the thought of you pings in their minds is if they need something. Money, a place to stay, attention. Once they get what they want, they go right back to forgetting you exist.

If you lose a family member, they don’t care. If you get injured in a car accident, they don’t care. If you die, they don’t care. They may use those incidents for pity attention for themselves. They may cry and get people to care for them over your suffering. But they don’t care. They don’t call, they don’t try to be friendly, they don’t remember your birthday, Christmas, Hannukka, graduation, or anything else about you. The only time they think about you is if it benefits them in some way. If they see you in public, they avoid you. They turn the other way. If they see you on social media, they judge your appearance. They call your new girlfriend ugly. They call you a faggot. They say your mother dresses you. They make fun of you. They tell their friends you are bad at sex, you have a small penis, your stupid. They don’t like you.

So why give them a second thought?

30203forever · 2021-01-07T20:57:57+00:00

But last week I heard from a mutual friend (F)

That's your problem. Not only you consider females to be your friends but worse still, are communicating with the ones who still associate with your piece of crap former GF.

2021-01-07T21:08:42+00:00

I know it sounds pathetic, but two years ago I used to have a relationship.

Not pathetic. You tried!

But last week I heard from a mutual friend (F) that my ex was using drugs.

Good reminder of why she's an ex!

Any advice on how to get over her?

Time to replace those thoughts with something new.. what hobby or skill, craft do you want to do but been putting off? Do that.

mrreal01 · 2021-01-08T03:02:11+00:00

Dude she cheated on you! She wanted other dudes dicks in and around her mouth. The easiest way to get over it is just remember she’s a cheating whore who doesn’t give an F about you. Plus she sounds like a loser. So since the break up you’ve concentrated on better yourself via education and generating revenue and getting in shape and she’s now a crack whore like this is a no brainer dude

cleats4u · 2021-01-07T22:26:24+00:00

Most of today's crop of women are destined to be alcoholic cat ladies at best. Drugs just get them there sooner than alcohol. And don't listen to anything a woman says. It's a lie or a half truth designed to get you to play a part in their dramas.

craigmunday · 2021-01-07T21:24:51+00:00

Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Just keep focusing on yourself and being positive. Feeling bad for someone in a bad situation just means you are human

Jaguars02 · 2021-01-08T02:08:49+00:00

It is always sad to hear about someone you knew or know or related to is in that situation but in this case it is not your problem nor is it your place to fix. Desire to fix is a knee jerk reaction but in most cases you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink as she has cheated on you she will also cheat in her 12 step program etc. . Dont let it get you down some people no matter how bad the situation is do not want help or are happy being miserable or addicted.

Remeber giving an addict financial help or money only enables them to buy more drugs which could lead to an OD and possible death.

blackakainu · 2021-01-07T21:19:08+00:00

Its human nature to show empathy, but its a man’s nature to be logical. Maybe its a blessing in disguise, she could of turned you out to some illicit drug(s) and ruined your future, but instead you went thru a heartbreak and grew from it and now are on the path to being a better man

2021-01-08T02:35:14+00:00

It’s okay, you’re human. You feel empathy, it makes you sad that someone you once loved has fallen down a dark path - that’s only natural. The hard part is not succumbing to the strong emotional reaction and doing something stupid like contacting her to go see her. What would your plan be? To hit her up, meet, and be like “stop doing drugs”, boom magic fairy dust and she gets back on the right path in life? You can’t help her, it’s not your obligation to help her, only she can help herself. Keep trudging on and these feelings will dissipate. You will think of her time to time and what once was - such is life my friend.

Extra_Napkins · 2021-01-08T02:43:17+00:00

She doesn’t give a fuck about you. At all. It’s a two way street don’t even waste a moment or a thought on her ever again. Make money and improve yourself. If she wants to be a piece of shit druggie and bang losers whatever. We will see how that works for her when she’s 30.

casra888 · 2021-01-07T21:41:42+00:00

But last week I heard from a mutual friend (F) that my ex was using drugs

So what? You live YOUR life and she lives HER life.

Deplorable_X · 2021-01-08T00:16:31+00:00

Yes, stay busy, get older and wiser

sikesi3318 · 2021-01-08T06:54:43+00:00

Listen to your thoughts. Which thoughts are comming up that push you towards helping her.

Write them down.

Basically you have to replace this thoughts. So which perspective helps you?

Did you tell yourself that you are responsible for her? Then find reasons / focus why you are not responsible for her.

Write down what helps you to find a good way for yourself.

dcmathproof · 2021-01-08T07:08:18+00:00

Keep up the good work. Do not let that crack head get a grip on you (it is easily imaginable that she will resurface asking for something), avoid that at all costs.

Azuzu88 · 2021-01-08T11:57:57+00:00

Its perfectly reasonable to care about someone youre close to, youre human. Honestly I think youre better off staying out of this, these are her mistakes to make. You can help her if you want but you risk getting sacked back in and I really wouldn't advise it.

Remember, you don't have to be a cold, unfeeling monster towards women to GYOW, youre the one that decides how you interact with them.

farleysnl11 · 2021-01-08T18:53:50+00:00

Acceptance. MGTOW does not mean turning off emotions and pretending to be a robot. You had something with her and now it’s over. It’s ok to be sad... do not get back into her life you are better not to.

Suka87 · 2021-01-08T21:55:19+00:00

We all remember our first loves. Hell, I sometimes think about the girl I kissed in high-school. It happens, its natural, just don't act on the emotions, ots a part of life.

raviolipocketoli1836 · 2021-01-08T05:56:22+00:00

MGTOW or not, I don’t believe in that shit I just like the women hating in the sub. It’s funny to think guys can even make such hypocritical/non sensical claims.

Okay MGTOW and the red pill aside, you made a connection with someone and that’s a great thing. You obviously still have feelings for her or you wouldn’t feel some type of way. You want her to be safe and living a healthy life, that’s commendable but my guy it seemed she was already struggling when you met her. We all have demons and sometimes they win. We just end up choosing not to make any effort towards making something out of our lives.

I’m telling you to stay away. Not because she’s a women or a thot or whatever the fuck have you. I’m saying this because whatever terrible shit she has going on is her doing and her fuck up to un fuck up. She’s a grown adult who needs to put her big girl pants on and fix her issues. All of this you have no control of her doing, she needs to want to do it. You don’t have a place there. I’m sorry homie I wish the world could end like in a fairy tale but that isn’t reality.

Life is hurt and there’s enough to go around, but with the hurt comes the relief at the end of the storm.

we’re all fragile pieces of meat don’t listen to the other jerk offs who think they’re better than women or that she’s less of a human because of what she does or do. We all fuck up.

RottingVillain666 · 2021-01-08T10:11:43+00:00

Dude, stop worrying. This thing are short stuff. The hoe will get in OD soon ( Overdose ). I saw friends get to better life in a matter of a month. Extra plus if she doing more then one drug. Just wait then relax. Then cut off her friends. Okay female friends, but not your ex one idiot

Title	Need help
Author	True_Alternative5368
Upvotes	1
Comments	29
Date	January 7, 2021 8:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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