I need some advice

DangZagnut · 2019-07-30T20:39:07+00:00

Does it make you happy? Then how is it bad?

No metric you've shown is bad. Replace "gaming" with "working out"

Is it bad to workout two hours a day?

a healthy balance means, is it interfering with some other form of happiness?

Impossible-asset · 2019-07-30T20:40:09+00:00

You've already answered this.

You "feel" like you're spending too much time doing it. Which is good intuition because you probably are, given that you have stated you have another goal that this is detracting you from.

The balance would be to use the video games as a way to decompress AFTER your work (including that of your side project) is done.

If you find yourself CRAVING the game. Give yourself permission to do it, but add the caveat "after I finish up (X) on my manga project." That will quickly kill any craving you have because you wont be "fighting" it, just delaying it for a little bit.

After you've accomplished the work you want to get done, then give yourself a verbal permission to play your games. E.g "well, work is all done for today, time to relax a bit, game time!"

As for buying 4 games a month, well, it's your money. As long as it's not causing you to spend your savings or you're having to sacrifice other important things to get the games, you're ok.

Good to catch it early before it becomes an addictive behavior which is harder to break.

Pliyii · 2019-07-30T20:59:11+00:00

Do what I did, ditch story based games. Play fighting games or such. Those will let you get your fix in and they will be done in an hour max if even that. My recommendation is king of fighters 11 xD

801735 · 2019-07-30T21:22:08+00:00

I feel like I'm spending too much time and money on video games

Compared to investing that time into you and socializing, yes, yes it just might be too much time. But gaming does fit the picture perfectly from time to time, tho, no need to completely cut out something one enjoys, no?

Frelsi_8899 · 2019-07-30T22:29:53+00:00

Here's my take on it, but first my resume.

I started gaming on an original handheld Donkey Kong. No wait, prior to electronic ones, you got those water squirt ones with the Dolphin and the hoops.

I swiftly upgraded to Atari when that came out, then vic 20, and then a ZX Spectrum and a C64. Around this time arcade games.

Arcade gaming was an art form. You had a limited amount of coins and you tried to make each one last. You would often just watch other guys play, sometimes for hours. Spending an entire day at the arcade.

At some stage, I got into PC gaming. I recall the first PC I ever bought, I spent 3 days on it without sleep and no food. I was weak before I pretty much passed out.

Needless to say, gaming was always a huge deal for me. I'm now 42 and still game every day.

Over the years I've really enjoyed gaming too. Yes I know to some it's just a worthless pursuit but I can't say it's been boring.

So now here's the beef of this. You only get one life and when it comes to mastering skills it takes a considerable amount of time and effort.

Gaming then is sheer entertainment for most people. You aren't really mastering any life long skills unless you consider being good at video games a skill.

Now since being MGTOW, I decided I want to get good at just one thing. And I'm not talking about being OK or yeah "He's alright". I mean I want something that I can take personal pride in, something that sets me apart. I was "that thing" in my life, if you feel me?

Some people have that one goto sport, or hobby or interest that defines them. My whole life I've been some kind of jack of all trades but master of none.

I can play chess reasonably well. Certainly can whip most casual players ass, and even have a reasonable rating, but I'm not an exceptional chess player.

I'm ok at most sports, but only average in the casual sense.

I just got tired of being average in every fucking thing, if you get my drift.

So one day I picked the thing I was the best at already and decided from this day on, I'm going to invest time in mastering this skill. It happens to be classical guitaring.

So does that mean I'm quitting gaming? Hell no.

It just means I watch less (none actually) TV. Or find the time elsewhere. However I'm not gaming for more than 2 hours a day.

Way I see it you need some downtime. And if that's gaming, it sure as hell beats television.

But having said that, I still urge you to find that one thing you want to master and have that as your primary focus rather than gaming.

Emervila · 2019-07-30T22:44:08+00:00

is gaming preventing you from doing something productive? like school a job or so.. yes it's bad for your

What I do and I have 32 is rotation: I just completed Hitman season 1 (free from psn) then I started to see a series on Netflix Dark then I will read a book on how to understand marxist-feminism ideology while I'm having a P&D date this friday

'Whatever prevents you from being productive is bad.

2 hours per day doesn't look like much if you keep everything tight

GYOW_OR_DIE · 2019-07-30T23:15:44+00:00

It's not healthy if it impacts on normal social and occupational functioning. But I guess it depends on what you consider normal...

30203forever · 2019-07-30T23:21:55+00:00

How about playing "My Financial Independence" game? If you feel that you're not playing that game enough, then you're playing too much other games, methinks...

DopaMonkey · 2019-07-31T01:38:09+00:00

It's bad for your reward system, regardless of if people try to convince you otherwise.

Elvisonvelvet11 · 2019-07-31T11:29:40+00:00

"Any inputs would be appreciated."

Grow up and give away the console. Go live life. I've never met an avid gamer who wasn't a loser.

13Heathens · 2019-08-01T07:40:51+00:00

I can help with the cutting cost part since I used to buy many games at a go but realize that I don't play quite a few of them.

Nowadays, I only buy the next game after I'm done with the current one.
It's usually about 1 month per game on average for me.

You'll see that sometimes, you'll interest in the other games that you originally wanted to buy.

Title	I need some advice
Author	monkmode100
Upvotes	3
Comments	15
Date	July 30, 2019 8:32 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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