I need advice. How can I help my boyfriend recover from the abuse he has endured? I have lived with him and his family for 5 years now. We have finally come to terms with realizing that his mother is an emotionally and psychologically abusive “functioning” alcoholic who is manipulative, pessimistic, narcissistic, and deeply condescending.

He lives in a town where his mother and older brother have a horrible reputation. This ruined his middle school and high school experience in many ways. He has severe anxiety. He has been suicidal. He has been hospitalized more than once in a mental institution.

He needs help desperately. What can I say or do to help him?

I work full time now and my income is shared between us. I am content with that but we need him to work too so we can afford to move out.

He is currently taking Coding classes online. He is very good with computers.

Please give me some advice. We support each other emotionally as much as possible. I am hoping someone sees this post and gives me some more insightful ways of helping him.

There is more to this story. I am willing to answer most questions.