Etsy sends out email asking if you wish to opt out of Father’s Day emails; received no such email for Mother’s Day.

banwavereality · 2021-05-10T15:07:00+00:00

i just want to opt out of all spam emails

d_nijmegen · 2021-05-10T14:28:21+00:00

This is really really bad marketing thinking. And so blatently dumb

fakevahi · 2021-05-10T16:48:53+00:00

csgardner · 2021-05-10T15:11:53+00:00

This seems odd to me. I know quite a few women who really hate mother's day because it makes them regretful and jealous that they don't have kids themselves. I've never met someone who gets depressed about Father's day.

MostlyPeacefulReddit · 2021-05-11T02:10:53+00:00

Except they did send one out for Mother’s Day. It was still really sympathetic to moms and neglectful towards dads but at least they gave a choice.

Their intentions were still kinda rotten though.

RuleofThreeTAG · 2021-05-10T16:58:33+00:00

Yup, I was just looking over my emails this morning and saw that shit. I don't remember getting one for mothers day either.

User654124 · 2021-05-10T20:22:35+00:00

Well that's a bit insulting.

Anyway, time to buy some stocks of the competitors.

JustAnotherRedditDad · 2021-05-10T19:12:59+00:00

I saw that this morning and was a little surprised...

Lice138 · 2021-05-10T18:44:39+00:00

Yeah but you know what’s going to happen right? At Father’s Day they will put out something along the lines of “we are celebrating all the women who are also the fathers blah blah blah hashtag women are fathers too”. Just like at the supermarket “hey you! Just round up to support breast cancer research “ but when it’s wounded warrior or prostate cancer “just hit cancel to go to payment options”. Which is why I’m glad they are being replaced with robots .

owtbound · 2021-05-10T16:38:10+00:00

I was just about to post about this. I never got one for Mother's day, but I get one for Father's day? This is outrageous.

Motherfly · 2021-05-11T01:48:41+00:00

What the fuck

EphemeralEmphaticism · 2021-05-12T20:55:25+00:00

I literally just received the exact same type of email from shoprunner (whose emails usually go straight to the trash bin but the subject line made me say WTF): https://imgur.com/a/XbLk6Pt

I had never seen anything like it before so searched “opt out of father’s day” and equal results came up with articles reporting companies offering to opt out of Mother’s day.

However I noticed a completely different tone between the Father’s Day and Mother’s Day reporting. Articles regarding mother’s day gave examples of reasoning along the lines of “strained relationships,” “difficult/narcissistic/abusive personalities,” and also women faced with infertility. The ones covering father’s day mainly referenced fathers passing away with one focusing on suicide, and of course the whole “absent father” thing, which actually wasn’t touched on nearly as much as I assumed it would be.

That was just a quick run-down if the first page of search results as I didn’t read any further so it may have evened out more had I continued.

I saw that supposedly Shoprunner (the one I personally received) also sent out the same for Mother’s Day, but I searched my gmail, including the trash (I have the “auto-delete after # of days” turned off and never remember to empty it myself), and I didn’t receive it despite receiving all of their other marketing caca around that time. But I suppose that doesn’t necessarily mean it wasn’t sent to others.

Either way, if companies are going to send out this type of communication and provide these options, they really need to keep it simple and straightforward as opposed to insinuating anything and/or making their own assumptions so clear. In my opinion, getting the reason right could just be rubbing salt in wounds for some, getting it wrong could be downright insulting to others, and an infinite number of other possible combos/resulting reactions. (That sounded weird, but my brain is crapping out on me right now. Hopefully it made sense/you get what I mean.)

Every “holiday” has the possibility of being painful for any number of people and they have all just morphed in to marketing schemes, with everything in life also now possibly being offensive to some or just someone. Dancing on eggshells gets old, and no one ever executes these things on equal ground.

CaffienatedJay · 2021-05-10T15:53:44+00:00

I mean I can’t say I’m surprised by seeing that from Etsy, don’t mostly women use that sight?

sakura_drop · 2021-05-10T16:48:38+00:00

The wording of this is really shitty. I've gotten these for both Mother's Day and Father's Day from one or two sites this year (I want to say Paperchase?) but it was from a perspective of "sensitivity" I.E. people whose parents are deceased or MIA. This is not that.

YummyGummyDrops · 2021-05-11T09:46:08+00:00

This is stupid

They also sent one out for mother's day.

It isn't because they hate fathers. They send them out so people who have difficult relationships with/dead parents don't have to look at all the fathers/mothers day stuff

SnooBeans6591 · 2021-05-10T17:34:56+00:00

That's the moment when you opt-out of Etsy.

Rockbottom503 · 2021-05-11T07:58:29+00:00

Vote with your money, just don't buy anything off etsy again. Send them an email explaining the reason for your decision if that makes you feel better :)

Brilliantiti · 2021-05-11T15:08:16+00:00

Honestly, who cares about those days anyway. I had quite a bad relationship with both parents of mine and I couldn’t care less if I get some mother’s day or father’s day spam.

The only thing is, if they decide to send out mails like this, they should at least do it on both mother’s day and father’s day. Otherwise it’s just sexist bullshit.

Comments