Best friend’s drug addicted mom won the custody battle

WingsofSky · 2021-04-20T23:53:46+00:00

Bad judges and bad courts.

The USA is in desperate need of reforms.

Star_Drift · 2021-04-21T00:44:56+00:00

I knew some brothers from elementary school. They lived with their single mother. It was a surprise to see them one day on Facebook after all these years threatening to kill eachother in a post, and up came how their mother used to bash their heads so hard they'd get concussions, pick them up and throw them at walls, etc.

Women are just as capable of being shitty mothers as men are capable of being shitty fathers.

My mother also ran a home daycare, and she took care of two brothers who had split parents. The mother did everything she could to fuck her ex husband's life over. She took all his money, fought hard to take the kids, and took most of his belongings. My mother actually stepped in to testify against her, as she's witnessed her kids being miserable being picked up by their mother, and won the case for the father. The dude has come to our house to break down and cry each time he had to pick his boys up. I'm glad to say the boys are in the right hands now.

rabel111 · 2021-04-21T02:21:10+00:00

The gender bias and outright misandry in family courts is legendary.

After working in family law for several years, I had to leave for another line of work. The numbers of kids and dads separated on the basis of flimsy unfounded allegations of vindictive ex-wives, the tolerance of all kinds of abusive, violent and neglectful behaviour by mothers (including child sexual abuse), I had to get out before I died inside.

thealphateam · 2021-04-21T02:23:44+00:00

I had a woman tell me during the her divorce the couple agreed 50/50 custody was fair. The female judge pulled her aside and said she could get more time if she wanted.

datonemattdude · 2021-04-21T05:10:09+00:00

The US treats children like property.

unxile_phantom · 2021-04-21T03:04:08+00:00

Same thing happened to my buddy. His crack addicted mom got custody, even though his dad was clean, and was actively fighting for custody of his son. Family courts see men and fathers as second class citizens, unfortunately. A big, big reason I don't want to get married. And prenups can be tossed out like last week's garbage if you have a good enough lawyer.

WartimeDad · 2021-04-21T01:48:38+00:00

Another example to throw in the pile. You’ll have to climb a ways if you want to place it at the top.

Andynnos · 2021-04-21T08:30:44+00:00

This is absolutely horrible. Sadly it starts to be more common place than it should be. In this type of cases they should start investigating and questioning neighbors and relatives or do something better.

UCanSeeMeOnMySleeve · 2021-04-21T09:11:49+00:00

When a man and women go to court for the first time, a 50/50 custody schedule should be automatic. The parent who believes they deserve more should have the burden of explaining why they deserve more.

The last time I took my ex to court for 50/50 because she was keeping my kids from me when we’d fight, the judge said, “the current schedule seems to be working so it should remain the same.” (The “schedule” we had was whatever worked for my ex best)

Bloke_Named_Bob · 2021-04-21T14:43:51+00:00

Happens in Australia too. It took over 18 months for my family to get custody of my drug addicted cousins daughter. This is despite sworn, signed statements from both sets of grandparents (ie my aunt and uncle testified their own daughter was a piece of shit and not fit to raise a child), overwhelming evidence and a well established support network with the father to raise the child. My cousin just straight up didn't show up to every single court date and the judge just delayed proceedings over and over without any penalty. Oh, did I mention that it was known to the courts that my cousin was living in a drug den that was currently under police surveillence and they still sat on their hands and did nothing for almost 2 years before we finally got full custody of her daughter.

The good news is the daughter is in her teens now and is doing great. But fuck me it was an absolute battle, because apparently drug fucked psychopaths make great parents as long as they have vaginas.

CobraPL · 2021-04-21T15:45:30+00:00

This is exactly what we have in Poland now.
Friend of mine, MRA activist, fights for even "visitations" (he can forget shared custody), but he got alienated. He pays handful of alimony. But... his son (who lives with his mother) ran from his mother, in cold night, in pajamas only, seeking his father.

oafsalot · 2021-04-21T16:39:13+00:00

This won't stop happening until the grown up children start filing against the state for letting it happen. There tens of thousands of children in this boat, and many more in lesser situations. It'll bankrupt the state to have to deal with them.

laelapslvi · 2021-04-21T06:21:39+00:00

0% of liberals oppose this type of thing, therefore they should be ostracized like neo-nazis.

Title	Best friend’s drug addicted mom won the custody battle
Author	can_bee
Upvotes	261
Comments	38
Date	April 20, 2021 11:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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