Every time my LTR is sick, I'm there to nurse her and make her feel better. Today, I am sick and she's not here. This is the second time it happens. Am I being a sissy and expecting too much from women, or should I expect her to be here?

[deleted] · 2017-03-09T12:08:30+00:00

If your woman doesn't jump at the opportunity to show you just how important you are to her and that she is committed to the LTR, then drop her like a brick.

Any woman that doesn't cook, clean, wash your clothes and does whatever is necessary to keep you happy, isn't worthy of being in an LTR.

P.S. This is only valid if you are actually a high SMV man. If you suck as a man, nobody will ever give a shit about you & any women will use you as ATM

WhorehouseVet · 2017-03-09T03:42:14+00:00

You're a sissy, women hate weak men. You're expecting her to look after you as if she's your mother, which she will find repulsive.

Hierarchy of love: Man > woman > child

Remember it well.

Lazysaurus · 2017-03-09T12:44:27+00:00

You are exhibiting Nice Guy Syndrome behaviors, specifically the covert contract that if you meet others' needs without being asked, then they will meet your needs without being asked. You gave while expecting something in return instead of giving freely. I'd recommend reading No More Mr Nice Guy.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2017-03-09T03:42:00+00:00

Can't really complain too much, sex on command, no disrespect, doesn't go out without me yada yada. If any one complain I'd say she barely cooks for me anymore, and expects me to cook for her kind of often.

So what does she do, other than have sex with you and eat food you cooked for her? Sounds like she's just trying to take your resources and give you none of her own, other than her pussy, but that's easy to find.

All you can do is not take care of her next time she's sick, otherwise you're just over-investing cause clearly she won't return the favor. But to be honest that's shitty LTR behavior, even a FWB who is in to you would be there in a hurry to take care of you. And from everything else you've described it sounds like this girl should be a plate at best.

djdonny · 2017-03-09T03:26:06+00:00

Only you can look out for you. a some girls like to take care of a sick guy, some dont.

TheRedStoic · 2017-03-09T15:16:54+00:00

Let one of your plates come over and care for you once or twice.

Your girlfriend's tune will change immediately.

If you don't have other options you can pull, well there's a problem in itself.

Regardless, women operate on what have you done for me lately. Right now you can't do anything so attraction is fading, and if there isn't dread as a motivator it won't balance out. Harsh but you'll notice it's true.

stephcurryftw · 2017-03-09T21:30:08+00:00

I think you are doing too much for her and her not doing enough for you. It's time to take a huge step back and make her do the chasing.

[deleted] · 2017-03-09T21:47:24+00:00

As soon as you are seeling better, set up a situation where you slam her at her place, play her out for anal then afterwards, get up and say you're going to the bathroom to clean up but actually, lock the bathroom door from the inside and sneak out the bathroom window, then go hard no contact, delete and block on everything.

walawalawa · 2017-03-10T01:53:00+00:00

You came here for Red Pill advice, I'll give you some.

Soft Next...immediately. This is exactly the reason men cheat. They don't cheat because they want sex, they cheat because they're not getting the loyalty and attention.

Women cheat because of hypergamy.

Back to your situation...she's taking you for granted dude. You're the strong one...but when you need that same level of care and attention she's busy. She feels no competitive anxiety, no sense of dread. Soft next and instill dread. Read how to soft next so you don't come across as a sulking brat.

Next step start seriously gaming other girls and then when you're ready, dump your LTR. No need to explain, just "This isn't working for me. Good Luck."

The problem I always had was the same as yours...why is this ONE girl not doing what I feel ALL girls should do. But then I started spinning plates and I realized that there are girls out there who DO want to care for a guy and if they see you as higher value they'll do things like: buy you gifts when they go on trips, make you a wallet for Christmas, dress up hot for me.

Then in my case there was one girl I had upgraded because she was chasing me. But then she starts with the flirting with my friends and the other nonsense, the nasty texts..so I walked out. Just disappeared. It was weird for me, but in the end the right thing to do.

So in your situation you shouldn't be on this board asking "is this ok?" You need to understand that your needs come first in any romantic relationship. You're the MAN. You LEAD. If you're acting like a "nurse" and she doesn't appreciate it...time to reassess.

But the Red Pill does provide specific tools: Instill Dread. Soft Next. Start working on yourself, be less available, start spinning other plates. If this is something that bothers you or is incongruent, dump her. Start fresh with a Red Pill perspective.

It happened to me several times, most recently 4 years ago when my ONE acted out like yours. At first when I was sick she came running over and made me tea. After she left me and started trying to work her way back into my life...when I was sick, she sent me a link to a website on how to make that tea.

I hard nexted eventually, but not before I went through my own sort of process for totally unplugging.

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