It is a shared room with dividers but the other patient still doesn't want me in there.
Edit: Jesus this blew up. Just an update, we complained to the head nurse on our way to a different hospital. We are only going back there if our son is born <35 weeks as he would most likely be transferred there.
Also to clarify I didn't want to take it out on the nurses as they were paused outside the door for a couple of minutes and I'm guessing the lady was being a thorn in her side. The job is probably hard enough without 2 thorns lol.
Also also as you may have figured out I'm not a doctor but my girlfriend is not in labor. From what I understand early contractions are a semi common problem and the other Hospital gave her a couple of shots to stop the contractions and let our son cook for a little bit longer.
[–]zeerust2000 16 points17 points18 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Other patients don't get to tell you what to do. Be with your girlfriend. She's the one that matters.
[–]Themightysavage 11 points12 points13 points (0 children) | Copy Link
As long as your girlfriend put you down as "in the room" on the paperwork, you dont have to leave.
[–]IronJohnMRA 9 points10 points11 points (1 child) | Copy Link
"I'm staying."
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Also 'fuck off, cunt'
[–]Lion_amongst_gods 7 points8 points9 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Play the Uno reverse card. Tell them that while you're with your girlfriend during her labour, you're uncomfortable with other patients around.
[–]IronJohnMRA 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Nice. I like that.
[–]McFeely_Smackup 8 points9 points10 points (1 child) | Copy Link
That's what private rooms are for.
The person who is not comfortable with a shared room needs to pay for a private one. You don't get to evict other people.
[–]IronJohnMRA 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Excellent point.
[–]Mike_Facking_Jones 5 points6 points7 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell them to close the fucking curtain and get in there
[–]wlopside 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s not selfish to be there for your girlfriend and child
[–]v573v 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
What does your girlfriend want?
If she wants you in the room and I don’t see why she wouldn’t you get in that room.
Be polite and respectful but don’t leave the room.
‘I’ve done nothing wrong and I’m here for my girlfriend and I’m shocked that this hospital is supporting discrimination against me.’
Then ask her for her name.
That should be the end of it.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I had the same thing with my wife for the ultrasound for our first child. This was back in 2007, and was their "policy" that men weren't present. I wrote a letter and rightly told them it was discrimination, I was the father, and unless the child's mother is requesting privacy, an institution shouldn't be enforcing policy to separate or restrict access based on gender.
I was told in response that their board had a meeting over my letter in order to discuss the policy. They (of course) decided not to change it, but at least back then the women in charge were at least interested enough in the appearance of fair play in order to have a meeting. These days they wouldn't even think twice about it and certainly not bother to have a meeting.
[–]NorrisChuck -2 points-1 points0 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe it's your gf who does not want you in the room? What color did the baby come out?