Is this a red flag?

failingtheturingtest · 2017-04-05T01:53:07+00:00

I asked her what she liked about me

Yes, that is a red flag. You need to read the fucking sidebar and get to the gym.

failingtheturingtest · 2017-04-05T03:15:31+00:00

You're acting like a bitch and need to read the fucking sidebar and get to the gym.

You should never have asked why she likes you.
That shows her that you don't know your own worth. It also is a sign that your own self-worth is reliant on her feelings of you.
You should never have asked what she thinks of your friends.
There is no correct answer to that. Either she risks being 'too nice' and you thinking she likes your friend or she risks being 'too harsh' and you thinking she doesn't like your friend.
Neither of these questions have a true answer. Whatever she tells you will be based on what she wants you to hear.
eg. Do you think I'm sexy = Right now, I want him to think I think he's sexy (if you are her BF, she cant' say no, even if she doesn't think you are anymore)

Asking these questions is a self-defeatist attitude.
You cannot get an answer you are happy with. You will always either dislike or distrust the answer and where it is coming from.
That is why men don't ask these questions.

Your self worth is far more important than what your GF thinks of you.
You have low self worth at present, and just demonstrated that to your GF. She now knows that she has power over your self-worth (even if only a little). This is not good.

You need to start focusing more on what YOU think of you.
When you are proud of your achievements, work hard, lift heavy, and just all-round are killing it in life, you will never doubt why your GF likes you, it will be as clear as the outline of your pecs in tight shirts.

There is a reason that TRP tells you (over and fucking over and fucking over) that you don't listen to their words, you listen to their actions.
Why does she like you? If you have to ask, you aren't paying attention.
I know why Plate 1 likes me, it was eyes and smile, then charm, then it was chest and biceps, now it's mostly shoulders and cock. I can tell because of how she reacts.
And old FWB was confidence and abs. Then it was chest, back and cock. Then it was leadership and humour. Then it started moving towards attention...

Pay attention to what they react to. Pay attention to when she starts initiating. When she behaves more sexual and less sexual.

The main thing you need to take-away is that her answer is irrelevant. For some solipsistic reason, she wants you to think she likes you "because you make her feel wanted". It could mean that she thinks you don't do that enough and wants to encourage it. It might be because she believes you're high value and wants you to commit harder. It might be because now that you've made her compare you to some cute guy, she's wondering what the fuck she sees in you. It is definitely not because you asking the question turned her on or made her like you more.

So. Get back to reading the required material. Get back to the fucking gym.
When you own your fucking shit, you won't wonder why people like you.

Marcus1138 · 2017-04-04T23:56:40+00:00

Don't worry about it. I'd avoid asking about what she thinks of you, or others, because it seems a little insecure. But the answers aren't cause for concern, nothing important.

bacheloritis · 2017-04-05T02:13:44+00:00

LOL reminds me of elementary school phone conversations..."So what are 3 things you like about me? I'll tell you after you tell me." LOL

[deleted] · 2017-04-05T02:50:36+00:00

Set up a situation where you slam her at her place, play her out for anal then afterwards, get up and say you're going to the bathroom to clean up but actually lock the bathroom door from the inside and sneak out the bathroom window. Delete and block her on everything and ghost until she comes crawling back on your terms.

smirk_addict · 2017-04-05T03:21:36+00:00

Your girl can't seem to articulate what she finds attractive about you, and only likes that you want her. She's basically vocalizing that it's just your turn. You can't pry or force her to give a "better" answer because it makes you look insecure. I honestly think it was a flag. Not red. But yellow for sure.

Title	Is this a red flag?
Author	divan93
Upvotes	1
Comments	14
Date	April 4, 2017 11:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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You're acting like a bitch and need to read the fucking sidebar and get to the gym.