How does ghosting work? What if the chick keeps contacting you again and again and maybe wants to work things out

refusewool · 2017-05-17T18:31:29+00:00

Depends what you want. If you want to fuck, arrange to meet in person to discuss and just fuck her brains out. If not, ignore.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-05-17T21:33:48+00:00

Ghost means no contact. It doesn't matter if she sends the POTUS with a letter for you. You don't contact her in any form.

Terdmuffin · 2017-05-17T18:36:04+00:00

If you want to talk to her then talk to her, if you don't then don't. If you don't want to talk to her, there's no obligation to respond to her attempts to reach you. If you want to plate her, then treat her like any other plate. If she want to have a serious talk and you don't, then don't. Unless she kidnaps you, ties you to a chair and threatens to kill you, she can't force you to have a conversation you don't want to have.

MattyAnon · 2017-05-17T21:05:57+00:00

How do you keep her as a plate then?

Ghosting = total ignoring. The plan generally is to get rid of her.

How do you know when to respond to her, what if she wants to proceed to some serious talk after a "hi" that you keep ignoring?

What's the problem here?

Never "talk seriously".

Ghost to get rid of her: just ignore.

If you soft-next for a few days (due to poor behaviour) then you just hit her up as normal after the ignore period (generally 3 days and a number of ignored messages from her).

Avoid falling into the trap of "Use TRP to make it work with this one girl". If you need to ghost her, you need to accept that she needs to improve to be worthy of your life. If that improvement doesn't happen, ditch her.

vandaalen · 2017-05-17T18:42:13+00:00

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2016/07/18/16297/

[deleted] · 2017-05-17T23:55:23+00:00

Let's get our definitions out of the way like good little feminists:

Ghosting is going NC/Hard Next without warning or notifying the other party
Soft Next if when you temporarily go NC to instill dread as part of your operant conditioning of her behaviors (also see LSNFTE)

Since you want to keep her, see Questions and Answers Regarding Soft Nexts. If you provide enough value for her, she will come back once you decide to re-initiate contact, but you must not left her behavior define yours or the dread from your soft next will not have any power.

If you are worried about her not coming back at the end of the soft next, she is not a plate. At that point you should either drop her because oneitis, or re-evaluate her value and see if she is worth upgrading to FWB or gf.

Title	How does ghosting work? What if the chick keeps contacting you again and again and maybe wants to work things out
Author	bestjokeev
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	May 17, 2017 6:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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