How do you command respect in an LTR?

Pikajeeew · 2017-05-22T01:16:04+00:00

Dread.

If she's telling you "fuck you" id dread the fuck out of her.

And "I was PMSing" is just a shit excuse girls try and use.

kingslayermcnugget · 2017-05-22T03:45:15+00:00

Don't take any shit. If she gives you shit, think of something productive you could be doing right then and do that instead. I live with my LTR, and I pretty much take her misbehavior as a sign from the Universe to take care of shit I'm procrastinating on. Condition your availability to her pleasantness. If she isn't being pleasant, then she doesn't get your time. Simple as that.

hobo_teacher · 2017-05-22T08:59:33+00:00

I wouldn't LTR a woman who doesn't already have a vast reservoir of respect for me. Being told 'fuck you' is a huge red flag, I know people here are quick to pull the 'next' trigger but I couldn't tolerate that. Next. Yea you could dread and play games and whatnot but fuck it, this isn't your wife, new pussy is better than old anyway.

RPmatrix · 2017-05-22T14:37:06+00:00

you don't, "respect is earned, not given"

In a relationship, Be a guy who's worthy of respect and you'll earn it

You can't 'force' someone to respect you

marciotoronto · 2017-05-22T16:41:45+00:00

This is the form of communication that you presently have. Sit and talk like adults Remind her that her language is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. Explain why. Let her know that PMS is an explanation not a justification. Next time that she does it: do not react, stay silent, walk away in silence. When you calm down you restate that her behaviour will not be tolerated, do not engage in an argument, don't raise your voice or show emotion. Be firm, clear and dispassionate. You will probably have to go through this cycle a few times and then subconsciously when she wants to threat you in that way she will know that she will be left alone and ignored. It takes restrain and maturity. Good luck

Redteen224 · 2017-05-22T10:58:37+00:00

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TxnyMontana · 2017-05-22T17:40:23+00:00

Take her as a dog. Train her as a dog. Reward good behaviour and punish bad ones. She say "fuck you"? give that dog a slap in the nose. (im not telling you to hit your gf lol) but you get the point right?. Sometimes just telling her to not do it is enough. In my case, LTR called me dumbass during the 1st month we dated, and i was just like "dont call me like that" and the continue with what i was saying, without being reactive.

I suggest tell her "dont say it" instead of dread. also, Dread should be already applyed in your LTR.

Title	How do you command respect in an LTR?
Author	pogiface
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	May 22, 2017 1:08 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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