Hitting the reverse wall

fuzz94 · 2017-05-22T16:51:35+00:00

The girl I am seeing now is great, but she has major baggage that will not make a good LTR, and the end is near.

Just fucking get rid of her now for god's sake.

Your post is all over the place. You complain about having a "low number", yet in the same sentence you say you prefer a LTR over ONS. Do you see the irony in this? If you are so insecure about being with women who have a higher number than you, either get over it, or go out there and fuck as many women as you can. My first LTR had been with 3x more partners than I had. You know what I did? I fucked her as good as humanly possible to make up for it.

Also, you're only 25 dude. That is literally the very beginning of a man's rise to the top of his potential. Who gives a fuck if you missed out on the "college life". Most guys do. If you're worried about fucking a woman with a high number, you can still easily get 19-21 year olds without much of an issue. Fuck as many CC riding sluts as you can in the next 1-2 years, and you will be in a much better position come your next LTR.

ppzhao · 2017-05-22T17:04:39+00:00

Don't worry about missing out on wild oats, you're only 25. Your SMV will increase over the next 5-10 years, you'll get more and more attractive while women decrease, "getting some" will get easier and easier for you. If you want to live the wild oats life, move to a NorthEast major city, you can rack up your numbers.
When it's time to settle down, I'd recommend smaller cities/towns. I met my gf in a 2nd tier city that has less than 300k in population. The problem with that, is you either have to stay there forever, or it'll be very hard to peel her away when it's time for you to move on. I was fortunate, I got a job there as a temporary "break" in my busy life, when I lost that job, I moved back to a big city and she decided to come with me. After that, I decided to move across the country, she came with me here too.

quicklogaccount · 2017-05-22T17:22:25+00:00

I missed out on the college life. I never sowed my wild oats.

As every other male in the planet, you are polygamous. ARE. It's not like you "were" polygamous as you were younger but now "became" stability seeking and monogamous.
This is an process WOMEN undergo (edit: disclaimer. It's not exactly that. I know. They just begin to prioritize BB traits, they remain hypergamous, they were never polygamous). Not you. You haven't missed out shit. You ARE missing out.

I prefer LTR over ONS or dating.

And you're not like this, either. You grew to believe LTRs are more "safe" and you "get to be yourself". This is bullshit, believing this is an one way road to becoming an average frustrated chump committed to a lazy woman.
For now, just go and enact your hard wired sexual strategy and you'll be cool.

So how do I ever settle on someone if I'm always going to be so offput by ' the number '?

You don't. The mindset you're current dwelling in, WRONG mindset, is one to ease your burdens. Stressing that: You want LTRs because you believe they're comfortable and tolerant to your mistakes, and you think that by investing hard and being decent you become entitled to this "security", but since you're looking for candidates to heavy investments, you want all sorts of guarantees that your investments aren't being made in dead end women.
Things are not like that. This sort of deal does not exist. Anyone who offers you this deal is baiting you into signing a contract committing your investments and releasing your woman from doing the same. Ok, the releasing isn't explicit, but it's an enormous loophole that you'll learn how to spot as you progress in the sidebar, particularly the rational male.

As you fuck around for a bit and TRP sinks, you learn that you have to live without those insurances and leverages. LTRs should be a constant exchange, you make an effort to be decent all the time, and she makes the same effort. If one of you slacks off long enough, the other simply leaves.

Once this sinks in, the logic changes. If she becomes shitty, you walk out. It doesn't matter WHAT made her shitty.
High count women are more likely to feel delusional entitlement and thus it's more likely that they become shitty once they feel their spot in the LTR is secured. WHO CARES. IF she ever becomes shitty, you WALK OUT.
High counts aren't the only reason that make women shitty. It's ONE cause. Probably not even a major one.

legitshitonly · 2017-05-22T23:49:04+00:00

Find one 21 or younger

jm51 · 2017-05-23T14:32:37+00:00

I missed out on the college life.

Is that 'I never went to college' or 'I was sensible in college and focused on my future'.

Primary__Account · 2017-05-22T16:19:50+00:00

You cant settle with someone if you put "the number" on such a high pedestal. Unless you land yourself a lucky one which isnt likely at all. What you can do is get plates and slowly promote them based on their actions, if you have 5 plates eventually you might make one a LTR.

Title	Hitting the reverse wall
Author	JerryTRP
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	May 22, 2017 2:30 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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