Hi everyone, I’m at the third date with a girl, we met in the gym and after some casual talk I asked her the number and to get out. All the three meetings were good, we had great time. The problem is that already from the first meet, at the end of the evening she told me that she accepted to go out with me but she is not interested on anything more. Seemed strange, at the moment I was a little astonished but after that I thought that was just a tactical protective speech, not really important and so there was a second date. On it, the fact come back again and appeared she attempt to justify it with the fact she had been engaged for 10 years (broke 1 year ago) and she is not ready. The days after, to me continued to seem senseless she may had decided that there will be nothing more than friendship even before the first date and so I kept insist and there was a third date. On it of course she remark that and based on the fact that to me this was senseless (based on the quality of the dates, more after) I asked her a more sincere why. She said she does not like me physically because I’m too much short. And yes I am (170 cm, 5’6) but I also have a fit and muscular body so I previously thought was not a problem. I ended up accepting it someway and accepting the fact she does not like me.

Some about the dates: We both were confident, we had good times, she laughed often and always there was a strong physical contact. First date: shoulders, arms, hand five, casual on legs when sit near; second date: same as above plus more on legs and we stayed sit embraced (my arm up or down her shoulder); third date: same as above and sit embraced even more, and the first her touch on me on the legs and one her leg on the mine when we was sit embraced, a long hug at the end. So the physical contact definitively there was and she seems ok with it but every time it get more intense (during we sit embraced) she remind me strongly she is not interested about me nearly to ask me if I touch her because I expect something (that will never happen, she remake).

Today for the first time I read that all this may be a test. Is she testing me? I got many IOI but every time she want to be sure that I’m not thinking about more, and when it happen I think she really mean and thinks it because when she said it she try to be as much clarity and honest she can. So what, does she fought or what?

TL;DR: Great physical contact, got many IOI but she always explain honestly she does not like me physically and will not be anything (never). Is she testing me, or not? What to do?