I met her online about 6 months ago (possible red flag) on a paid dating site. Ugh, I had to call it quits after our vacation with her two kids (ages 3 and 4) as we went to Disney. From the start of the relationship 6 months ago, she had a birthday in which I bought her a nice designer watch (in my ability, no financial strain), but come Christmas, she gave me a shirt. For her gift, she received jewelry and tickets for us to see an NBA game with her mom (I was thinking she was spending money on the kids) Sounds dumb, but I did not pick up on her gambling habit on football games and did not realize her ex husband was paying over 3,500 to her household for child support and alimony.. he is well off and is active in the children's life. He left her accusing her of "being a cold hearted bitch" and had an affair at work with a woman he's still dating. He took the divorce hard according to her and still tries to hook up after she spent thousands of his dollars on fake tits after the divorce.. We went almost three months before having sex, but she said she "wanted to feel totally comfortable" before doing so.. but she also openly spoke about adding a girl to the bedroom and masterbating with her toys (only way she orgasmed). Im feeling dumber by the minute typing this.. lol she told me she was never attracted to him and never has had an orgasm with him and will never perform oral sex.. She also said at 20 years old, she was dating another girl and currently has a reality tv star female as a screen saver. She named her daughter after a kardashian... (all true) She was a housewife until he filed the divorce and is now trying to get a BSN before the alimony dries up.. She wanted to marry me, but asked for a 12,000 dollar ring and a McMansion house. She wants a landrover someday.. I make 120k a year and suggested a 3 bedroom 200k house... she basically showed disappointment.. She has never worked and is now 30 years old.. She sleeps 10 hours a day and takes benadryl every night. She hates cleaning and says she will never do it.. She does not want kids and I do not have any, which I don't mind at all, but it was still another line she drew. I had to walk away about a month ago, and she jumped right back on the website just like I did.. it was a hit to the ego for me... I really enjoyed her and the kids, but my gut tells me at 30, she will never work fulltime as a nurse (she's never held a job since 20) and she would continue to spend her exs child support and use my money for the mcmansion.. she is not a US citizen, but a permanent resident with no family here.

Was I smart for leaving and not risking being the second divorcee? Is there a chance she will pull it together after school and be the potential person I saw?