So I should talk less huh?

untrp · 2017-06-21T00:31:34+00:00

If someone is yammering away about senseless things, first and foremost, I tend to think less of them. If they're talking about shit that has no value, then they create the impression onto others that they don't have anything important to say.

It also comes across as seeking attention and affirmation from others if you're simply just trying to talk to fill the silence. If one is truly okay with silence, they won't look to fill it. They'll appreciate it. It's fine to be nice, but there is a difference between being nice and being annoying. You can also be personable without yammering away.

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-21T00:49:21+00:00

Can you guys give me some logic about why I shouldn't do this?

We advise that because it seems like you're going out of your way to influence how people perceive you. "Talking too much", "trying to make everyone at ease". Usually these guys are perceived as either insecure and/or seeking validation. Weak.

Just refrain from interacting a few days and see how things play off, for you and for others. Maybe you're the spirit of the place, which isn't inherently good but is a good sign.

Docbear64 · 2017-06-21T03:04:54+00:00

You have to think of your words like a currency . The more of it you produce the less valuable it is. Instead of blabbering away on and on about any and everything just talk about relevant good shit. Now that doesn't mean be a fucking silent monk but it does mean manage and moderate your speech . If you can say the same thing with fewer words and express the same thoughts do it . again it makes your words seem more valuable.

Also after a certain point an overflow of words becomes mind numbing , better to say just enough so that people are still engaged .

The kind of talking and whatnot matters to , there is no one size fits all rule for conversation . A good story can be longer, a good joke , bullshitting at the bar , whatever . The goal is to make your words more valuable because people are more inclined/ interested to listen .

LordThunderbolt · 2017-06-21T03:57:40+00:00

"I talk a lot about useless shit at work. Just to talk and fill the air. I'm okay with silence, but I like being 'nice' and just being very personable."

That's a lie. You're clearly not comfortable with silence.

Compare the two guys in this video. You will know who m talking about, even though there are 3 guys in it: https://youtu.be/plwTIKZqf9A

RPBulletDodger · 2017-06-21T03:00:30+00:00

Hope this helps

Title	So I should talk less huh?
Author	TheyCallMeVinny
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	June 21, 2017 12:22 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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