Hello friends,

I've talked to my friends and gone back to my male comfort foods (RSD Tyler and Patrice O'Neal) to get guidance on this situation, but I thought I'd throw it past the /r/asktrp crowd.

It's going down like this

I've been dating in a large city known for its hookup culture for seven long years. I was the side guy in a 24 year old girl's life for about 6 months, feelings grew, and now she's in love with me. Honestly, I'm in love with her, too, and we all know how that turns even the coldest pimp into emotional fools. Sadly, I'm experiencing that now.

She's a freak in the bed, has freak friends, and we're getting offers for threesomes. Honestly, the biggest thing I miss about single life is the lack of pussy variety, so the hardcore pervert in me loves the idea... except for the obvious:

  • She's attracted to women and men, and
  • I'm attracted to women but FUCKING REPULSED by men

She's a smart cookie and has a good point - the fire in a relationship reduces over time and that's no way for two sex addicts to live. It'd be a safe outlet for us to get the urges out without cheating. I agree with that logic, but my gut knows that's not what I want. No man wants some outsider who put zero resources into getting a piece of what I've invested in, and is therefore fucking with my territory. I was that outsider, and I openly mocked the guy she was with for being such a fucking chump.

Now it's obvious some of you have had to deal with this shit - what do you say? Am I crazy? Is it worth keeping this relationship alive, knowing that I'm going to have to deal with this bullshit? I'll deal with the marriage thing in the follow up.