Uhh I think I fucked up...crush on a coworker.

trpanak1n · 2017-07-05T02:43:33+00:00

DO NOT DATE CO WORKERS READ THE FUCKING SIDEBAR

[deleted] · 2017-07-05T04:45:42+00:00

crush

Holy shit I forgot what that even feels like

_notanything_ · Wed Jul 5 3:26:16 2017 UTC

You need to do things where you meet new women frequently. Then you will realize there are plenty of women just as good as or even better than the ones you work with.

Once you have something to compare, it becomes the choice between dating a coworker+drama, or dating someone else without drama, and that's an easy choice.

The__Tren__Train · 2017-07-05T03:59:10+00:00

she sees you as quality orbiter material...

so there's that

sacgsxr · 2017-07-05T01:29:09+00:00

Move on to the next. Can still be friends.

Terdmuffin · 2017-07-05T18:18:18+00:00

Just start slow fading her, become gradually more unavailable.

MaxwellGaine · 2017-07-05T12:01:09+00:00

Don't date a coworker.

I wouldn't say drop her from your life either. She can probably contribute to your life, even if you don't particularly enjoy her platonic company (and if you do, that's good enough).

Female "friends" can be invaluable for their perspectives, their female friends (who they may introduce you to), their fashion tips, their social validation, etc.

BusterVadge · 2017-07-05T13:36:01+00:00

Don't be an idiot. If the sexual attraction wasn't there in the beginning, being mr orbiter is NOT going to make those kind of feelings develop.

Yeah, I'm being harsh but you really need to pull your head out of your ass here.

do_it_or_leave · 2017-07-05T01:28:43+00:00

Do the same with other girls. Go out, b have fun etc. This girl's isn't special.

RedSkeller · 2017-07-05T01:41:03+00:00

Fade her out, get a new chick on tap - if you can get a moment where you can downplay the new chick in front of her do it and if she's interested she'll do her best to try to be more than friends if not, keep gaming other women.

Trilldungsroman · 2017-07-05T01:29:17+00:00

Sorry, but she more than likely sees you as a friend.

Your best solution, as long as you aren't clingy, would be to escalate carefully through your friendship, since you seem so enamoured with this female. You could ask her out for drinks/a 'friendly' date (quote unquote because you could work your magic from there) and see how that setting goes for you.

If she appreciates it, you should intensify your conversation. If not, it's a clear sign she doesn't want the same things you do.

Good luck.

Title	Uhh I think I fucked up...crush on a coworker.
Author	lebackpack
Upvotes	5
Comments	15
Date	July 5, 2017 1:12 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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