Oneitis is a blessing and a curse for me.

I can game all I want, but I feel nothing for most people. But when I really have a spark with someone, I have 10x more motivation to improve myself. My lifts become stronger. My mental health is better. My game improves so much because my confidence tends to skyrocket.

The flip side is that there is a very hard crash that happens after a month of not escalating with my oneitis.

This chick admitted she's totally into me and wants to fuck but she's in a LTR right now. Obviously I'm not going to take no for an answer. (I am also going to let her actions speak, rather than listen to her hamster)

She invited me to her family's place for July 4th. I gamed the whole family. They loved me, especially her uncle who I hit it off with so well.

Her boyfriend was there but I ignored him and focused on having a good time and sharing that good feeling with everyone. They loved it, and I'd bet a lot of money one of them is going to talk to her about me. I spent the night building social proof and having fun while doing it.

My problem is that I am hyperfocusing on this girl. I wish I had a better explanation than "there's a strong feeling" as to why I like her so much. Objectively, I deserve a much more quality girl than her. But there's a real companionship she and I have that is very uncommon and I've only experienced twice before.

How do I break out of this oneitis? I get that Abundance Mentality is supposed to help with this, but I'm not sure that applies here. I could go pick up a chick this weekend but it won't be the same, it'll be an empty fuck.

I'm not pretending that this girl is some unicorn. TBH I think she is on a branch swing from her bf to me. And that is so fucking validating, it feels so good.

Maybe that is my issue: I need to foster internal validation rather than finding that in aiming for specific people. But would this cure Oneitis? How would I even go about doing this?

And I want to be clear, I'm not making this girl my entire life. I'm working on my career, I'm traveling this entire summer to a bunch of exotic places, and I have a number of side projects I can't wait to finish. It would just be so fucking awesome to bring her into these things. I already have, like we went hunting together and it was so fun.

I can do great on my own, and I'd enjoy my lifestyle even more sharing it with someone who has my same values and worldview. She's one of the few who seems to enjoy this too. I know Oneitis is bad for me, so idk what to do.

Thanks for the advice.