As a man is there any point in having female friends you aren't fucking or at least trying to fuck?

GuitarHero07 · 2017-07-06T16:18:16+00:00

Opportunities to meet other women through your female friends
Preselection: women will be attracted to a man who is surrounded by other women
In some cases they can be wing women (they start talking to a girl and that makes your approach easier)

50shadesofsigma · 2017-07-06T16:06:32+00:00

Preselection.

walawalawa · 2017-07-06T16:29:46+00:00

I only have hot female friends I'm not fucking as social-proof....

I use them to do things like enter a salsa contest...where there's absolutely no emotional investment---just having fun.

Other girls see this...and they get curious.

As long as I get something out of it...it's ok. Also, I have to be ok with not fucking them.

If I want to fuck them...and they don't want to fuck me...I can't be friends with them.

The-Hardball-Player · 2017-07-06T16:45:31+00:00

There is no POINT but I just enjoy hanging with some chicks. There's no point to a lot of things bro.

NexusReflexX · 2017-07-06T18:42:07+00:00

As a man, do what you want. Girls are amazing. They can bring so much energy into a room and really lift your mood as well sometimes.

You need to do some self-reflection and figure out why youre friends with these girls. The girls im friends with i:

Seriously 100% do not want to sleep with them. In fact, they want to sleep with me, but i friend zone them.
They are my friends girls. One of my friends has this super cool chick that wingmans for me. If we are out having a good time, ill take this girl and start dancing with her. (My friend is 100% cool with it, he made his boundaries, and i dont sleep with my mates girls) but he has no qualms. When girls see you dancing with another girl, they are mpre turned on. They see you javing fun, and they see another girl having fun with you, and they want a piece of that action.

Just make sure youre not being friendswith a girl in hopes that she'll finally realize what shes missing and fall head over heels with you. Thats called an orbiter. Still flirt with these girls, still make intentions known, but dont get caught up in it.

omega_dawg93 · 2017-07-06T19:21:35+00:00

sooner or later, the woman will want emotional support and/or the guy will want physical attention.

clear lines, trust, and discipline are absolutes or the friendship line will get very blurry.

I don't mind female friends that are co-workers... bc I'm not trying to fuck them anyway, and they pay their own way.

blackedoutfast · 2017-07-06T19:42:28+00:00

they do you favors, they buy you gifts, they cook for you, they drive you places (and come pick you up when you go out and get drunk), you can use them to get free shit from betas lol, if you train them right they can be much better at wingmaning than any dude, they're goofy and kinda dumb but adorable, if they're hot you get better treatment in bars/restaurants, it's easy to get into the best clubs if you have girls with your, you never have any trouble getting people to come to your parties/events if there are hot girls there, and of course good old preselection.

just don't be an orbiter or catch feelings for them

[deleted] · 2017-07-06T20:04:27+00:00

Same as men. Expand your horizons. Meet new people. Free food.

Yours don't cook for you??

ArabSigma · 2017-07-07T12:19:12+00:00

I'm surprised to see mostly positive replies in a subreddit that usually preaches a defensive approach to relationships. If you follow the logic of TRP then it's preferable that you avoid having female friends because despite the (platonic) benefits they might bring into your life, you run the risk of falling out of balance and thus becoming the orbiter in the relationship. It's a balance that you have to maintain, you need to constantly be on your toes to make sure you aren't being taken advantage of. For many, that could be exhausting. Is the fatigue worth the benefits you gain from the relationship ? That's something you need to carefully consider if you want your answer.

As far as I'm concerned, I don't mind having female acquaintances with whom to exchange favors. It's a strategic short term alliance that benefits both parts but other than that, I have yet to find a compelling reason to befriend a woman. And by "befriend", I mean the sort of relationship where you message each other, make plans, vent, and the like. I assume that's what you mean by "friends".

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-07-06T16:58:59+00:00

I have met and hooked up with many "friends of friends"...

oldredder · 2017-07-06T19:28:21+00:00

learning various current-state behaviours of women with each other and in the most recent trends. May as well be aware but just don't over-read it. By having only dudes as friends you lose touch with what's current and matters to women even if it is bullshit. You still need to act like you aren't telling them it's bullshit, or implying it, when you talk to them and this is good practice.

GreenPiller · 2017-07-06T21:56:40+00:00

Not worth it. I'm sick of hearing guys talking about all those advantages you can have. If you are attractive enough you won't need "female friends." Oh and newsflash, they aren't your friends, they will use you one way or another. Women are machiavellian by nature.

[deleted] · 2017-07-06T22:44:40+00:00

People use each other, that's a fact of life. As long as you're getting something out of it and not orbiting in hopes of some pussy down the road, no harm in having some social capital to tap into.

RedSkeller · 2017-07-06T18:53:13+00:00

Just want to add in here that there is no point in female friends. Zero. If you had any attraction you should be fucking them, otherwise get a dog or a guy friend for companionship. Then there is the 'preselection argument' - when I see the guy around two or more chicks and think he is the gay friend, or the poor guy who has female friends because he can't fuck them properly.

Title	As a man is there any point in having female friends you aren't fucking or at least trying to fuck?
Author	gisking
Upvotes	11
Comments	29
Date	July 6, 2017 3:43 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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