Unfortunately, I've wasted over a year of my life with this emotional and physically abusive woman. I'm trying to disconnect from her. Well, I've been trying for weeks. Whenever I do she gives this huge fight and intentionally hurts my delicate feelings and then tries to comfort them away from me so I become dependent on her. This is how she lords power over me. Anyway, what are my rights? I am ready to call the police if she begins to harass me as she always has before (shoving me against the wall on my bed, restraining me and shouting insults at me). When am I allowed to physically defend myself? How do I get her to get her shit out of here without harassing me?