Dyke lets wife sleep with guy, gets upset and decides to blame the guy because wife is a "victim" because she wanted to try hetero sex

bufedad · 2016-03-30T18:33:08+00:00

Victim?

You and your wife discussed all of this, planned it, executed the plan... and then somehow she's a victim?

Wow, your hatred of men doesn't really get any more blatant.

omegaphallic · 2016-03-30T18:18:21+00:00

This women is clearly mysandrist, refering to male sexual fantasies as toxic masculity.

AtemAndrew · 2016-03-30T18:50:57+00:00

"the toxic masculine fetish"

"legitimately attracted to both...(...hardly ever the case)"

Good job, way to signal yourself as a rampant man-hating feminist right away.

"I know polyamory is valid"

Pretty sure it's illegal.

" I decided on a compromise: she could fool around with him sometime in the future, but I did not want to be there."

So.. you let her do it. End of story.

" Previously, we had all agreed there would be no penetration."

This was not mentioned before when you mentioned that you would allow it.

"But instead of a reassuring message, my wife and her coworker asked, for comfort’s sake, if they could move into the bedroom. Without considering the ramifications, I agreed"

...that's your own fault, drunk or not. Being drunk isn't an excuse if you kill someone, nor is it if you give consent.

"The idea of my wife sexually interacting with someone was really hot to me."

But it's bad that a guy was interested in it. Gotcha. Misandrist.

"I was kind of upset because we had agreed that he was not allowed in the bedroom because it was our space."

Again, your own fault. Drunk.

"We started to have sex and I got aggressive."

So.. you may have abused her? Good job.

"Almost immediately after we finished, I rolled over and had the most intense panic attack of my entire life. I curled into the fetal position, clenched every muscle I had, and stuttered out meaningless insults to myself for almost 10 minutes."

I believe you may need to see a psychologist and/ or a marriage counselor. Also maybe a doctor.

"It fucking hurt a lot. My wife, who said that she had no sex drive because of meds, was fucking hot for some guy she barely knew."

But apparently she had the drive to fuck you earlier. In addition, you admitted earlier that YOU found the idea hot as well, and she was partially into it.

"I said some not-so-nice things. I called her cheap, I told her that she had broken all of my trust, and I told her that we were blocking him on every social media site ever."

So...you abused her. Both physically, during sex earlier, and now verbally. She did not break your trust. You allowed everything (aside from explicitly stating that you would allow penetration). You, however, broke her trust by abusing her and throwing such a huge fuss, panic attacks, drunkness, or no.

"Once I started to see her as a victim, I realized how many red flags we had ignored the entire time. From the pushy photographs while intoxicated to crude messages that appeared later, we had overlooked every sign that this may not have been the right person to do this with. He had not been sincere is his intentions and I realized this all at once."

You stated nothing about the man aside from the fact that he was a coworker, she was slightly into him, and you were into the idea. You already stated earlier that you distrusted him, so this is further your own fault, and further the fact that you give into your beloved feminist, misandrist, victim narrative. Your wife is not a victim. You are a victim of yourself. The man is now the victim of your scorn and foolishness. At the very least, you had the decency not to call him a rapist and bring him to court and drag him in the dirt and reveal his name.

"This whole ordeal started because she was healing from a childhood fear of men. So, in a desperate attempt to prove it to herself, she ignored all the signs that this guy’s intentions were not as pure as we’d thought. He had been too sweet and said all the “right” things to weasel his way into the situation. Afterwards, he pretty much treated us as free porn stars. He asked for risqué photos, which I am comfortable sending to about 2 people, neither of which were him. But, being with my wife made me feel attractive. So, we complied, reluctantly. Then we started receiving messages along with photos that were very inappropriate and unsolicited."

Well this sound like BS.

"I had nearly slut-shamed my wife and I had dived back into self-loathing tendencies. I am a ridiculously forgiving person and I was struggling with holding a grudge — something I literally never do. "

You did not NEARLY, you DID, as you showed earlier. Also, the fact that you are a 'ridiculously forgiving person' sounds like total BS, especially with your misandry tendencies.

"I felt like I overreacted and was being petty. I was ashamed of the big deal I had made. "

You did, you are.

"I’m proud of my marriage and the stability we have to be able to do things like this."

'STABLE!?' YOU WERE NOT FUCKING STABLE! YOU WERE ANYTHING BUT STABLE!

"Plus, my wife got the answers to her questions and I found out that I am not sexually broken."

Hun, you're broken in many other ways.

"Also a guy got a one-time bro-job by a chubby tattooed babe, so I think everyone came out a winner, really."

Well if you personally destroyed his relationship with your wife, be it on friendly, professional, or otherwise, terms...then he's not really a winner. Also, way to be a bitch about what happened by basically making him out as a perverted misogynist bro. slow clap

"It led me to some very good self-discoveries and I’ve made so many unexpected but very treasured friends because of it."

....'And now I'm a feminist~ All hail Anita Sarcesian and praise be to Emma Watson~!'

facepalms

thrway_1000 · 2016-03-30T19:20:18+00:00

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2016-03-30T20:19:32+00:00

The third party wants to indulge the toxic masculine fetish of having two women at once.

Oh, fuck off.

Here is a thing I like. Wow, do you know what would be even better? Two of a thing I like!

Wow. So 'toxic masculinity', right?

The third party is attracted to the challenge of bedding a married couple, usually with no thought of the potential damage this can do to their relationship.

That's a cuckolding fetish and it's not the responsibility of the 'bull' to determine whether the host couple's marriage won't fall apart because of it their own stupidity.

The third party is legitimately attracted to both of you (I think this is hardly ever the case).

You're a chubby lesbian married to a chubby lesbian with awful taste in piercings married to a chubby lesbian with awful taste in piercings. If he finds your partner attractive I see no reason why he wouldn't find you attractive, other than you clearly being a fucking nutcase man-hater.

Rex9 · 2016-03-30T19:17:51+00:00

What a load of shit.

What strikes me most about all of these people, whether it's this "couple" or any other of these feminist/SJW/whatever types, is that they are simply not adults. They've never had to cope with any kind of reality that they didn't want to.

While there are people who have genuine psych issues, I think most of these people self-induce. Maybe they were coddled all their lives by their parents and teachers. Dunno. Clearly they needed pushing out of the nest and being left to fend for themselves so they could grow up. This victim mentality is not healthy or adult.

cymrich · 2016-03-30T22:25:15+00:00

do we really need to resort to using derogatory slang in our post titles here? certainly doesn't help our image.

Endless_Summer · 2016-03-30T22:17:04+00:00

Bullshit.

There's no way anyone ever fucked either of them.

Title	Dyke lets wife sleep with guy, gets upset and decides to blame the guy because wife is a "victim" because she wanted to try hetero sex
Author	cptahab69
Upvotes	19
Comments	15
Date	March 30, 2016 6:10 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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