Was sexting with my girlfriend because we're apart for a few days and I brought up a fantasy of mine. Quickly the conversation turned into rough sex and dirty talk, what I'll do to you yadda yadda.

My girlfriend enjoys rough sex but she doesn't like feeling disrespected, so I won't call her a whore, slap her face or do some really dom/sub shit. I went a bit over and beyond with the dom sexting and she pulled back saying "no disrespectful stuff though". She then said she doesn't rly mind when I insult her during sex, because it turns me on, but that sex with me has a lot to do with love for her. Maybe it's just the fact that she said "with me" that triggered a little insecurity, or that she associated sex with love, when I hope for her to feel like she really lusts after me.

In practice though, she does get really freaky with me, insults, choking, spitting in her mouth on order, rimjobs and she gives me 1 blowie a day. Am I just being a bit beta here?