Can't make her cum from vaginal sex, breaking my frame

Moreofmore · 2018-05-06T09:52:56+00:00

You need to flip your ENTIRE mindset.

It does not matter if she comes or not.

Why are you having sex? Feels good, right? So run with that. Do what feels good, to you. Use her, enjoy her, spank her ass, do what you want to do. She's a living fleshlight.

Now that sounds extra spicy misogynistic, even from me. It's not.

When you focus on whether she comes or not, you are losing overall focus, turning sex into a performance with a specific goal in mind, and are continually "checking in" with her both consciously and subconsciously to calibrate whether what you're doing is "right for her". Taking all the fun out of sex and turning it into a job. And since you're not a woman trying to understand how a woman is thinking, your job performance rating is dropping.

On some level she senses that, which is why she gets sore (pussy drying up), and needs you to only touch her gently (not turned on anymore). She's also probably feeling performance anxiety/stress... Didja cum yet? How bout now? Everythin ok? See how the circle closes?

STOP focusing on the performance.

Stop listening to her bitch. They are shit tests because you're losing frame in bed with her, not by your conclusion that she can't come with you, but because you don't grab the fucking reins and just fuck her properly, taking her like a man, showing her you need to fuck her, her gentle sensibilities be damned, she's getting fucked. She's crying for dominance and you're pussyfooting around, butthurt that you're not in tune with her feelings and commiserating together like her girlfriend after the fact. I think she's seeing through your dominant alpha "act", which is why she has trouble reliably submitting.

You want to make her come? set a safeword, tie her ass up, ignore anything that comes out of her mouth but the safeword, blindfold her, lube her, and vibrate the shit out her pussy. Stick the two fingers of your dominant hand into her, palm up. Curl upward like you were making a fist while pulling out slightly. Fingers together to block the urethra, apart if you want to see if she's a squirter. Tell her she's not allowed to come unless she asks you first. when she's getting close, tell her she only has ten seconds to come, then everything stops, Count it down. Shit, forgot to tell you to put a towel under her first. Untie her, spoon up, give her a bottle of water and tell her she was a "good girl". Or just get up and leave the room, telling her to not move until you get back.

P.S. - a not inconsequential portion of women just don't come from piv sex alone.

desertrat26 · 2018-05-06T09:10:54+00:00

Sounds like she is quite a bitch. Maybe she doesn’t deserve an orgasm with that attitude

Jaythe4th · 2018-05-06T10:10:26+00:00

Dominate her in bed and fuck her hard, doesn't matter if she cums or not.

0x9A30D7C49714D98000 · 2018-05-06T09:20:32+00:00

"you couldn't even fuck me properly today" "yes, but not by you"

It's your call, but for me, a girl that talks that level of shit after she claims to be sore when you do fuck her hard.. well, she can just take a fucking hike. Does it really matter how hot she is since you aren't even getting off either because of her bedroom autism. Like I say, it's your call, but it doesn't sound like this arrangement of yours is working out so well for you.

sinchurch · 2018-05-06T12:52:55+00:00

Triadis3 nailed it - Every now and then I have plates just blow me to let them know their pussy ain’t special. You dont have to say it...They get it.

If she cums via clit stimulation then she can get to work on that clit while you’re pounding that pussy whichever way feels best to you.

As for the shit tests - Just laugh it off and remind her that you got yours (then tell her what sandwich she should be in the kitchen making)

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2018-05-06T14:59:37+00:00

I mean, it’s pretty common for women to not orgasm solely as a result of penetration. Many of them can, but it isn’t the norm necessarily.

Better limber up your tongue.

Also I strongly disagree with the sentiment that you shouldn’t worry about making her cum. Yeah ok, fine, if you only wanna fuck her a couple times. But if you don’t care about getting her off, she’s not gonna keep coming over. If the pussy is good and you want more, then learn to make her cum.

Anyway, I genuinely enjoy making my partner cum. Like even if she was unconscious and would never have any recollection of ya having sex (which we’ve discussed doing and she thinks it’s hot), i would still want to make her cum because I find it gratifying for my own reasons.

kruxofthemimed · 2018-05-06T20:41:40+00:00

Afterwards she kept shit testing me and said "you couldn't even fuck me properly today". I asked her what makes her get off, if she likes getting tied up and she replied: "yes, but not by you".

hahahahaha

Retstortion · 2018-05-06T11:53:39+00:00

Doesn’t matter if she cums.

Also she’s disrespectful.

Soft next until she gets her shit together

301niko · 2018-05-06T09:21:18+00:00

Teach that bitch to have some respect for you.

[deleted] · 2018-05-06T16:33:25+00:00

Buddy you made this a THING so she's slowly losing attraction to you because of it and the longer you make it a thing...................

MisterRoid · 2018-05-06T17:28:48+00:00

It shouldn't matter whether she cums or not. Your tryharding is only turning her off and making it harder for her to cum if anything.

jeantomic · 2018-05-07T09:41:24+00:00

Just get her used to come in other ways with you.. but you have to enjoy making her cum otherwise it ll feel like work.. i love licking my LTR whilst she s upside down or submitted.. makes me feel powerful. After a few times coming this way, she comes naturally from the vagina now..and she never did with any guy.

GeuseyBetel · 2018-05-06T14:05:25+00:00

Listen to actions not words.

If she's driving 1.5 hours every weekend to see you, there's a reason.

I think part of your issue is mental incongruence. You're playing the alpha part, but you're lacking plates - This has caused you to develop bit of a scarcity mindset for her - and she can sense it (hence the shit testing).

I saw in one of your comments you said you'd rather focus on this girl because you don't have a big a abundance... WRONG. Do the opposite - focus on getting plates, keep doing your thing with her.

Like I said there's a reason she keeps coming back.

room_303 · 2018-05-06T14:31:39+00:00

95% of women cannot cum from PIV.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-05-06T13:47:28+00:00

Why do you care? She doesn't care. Why do you?

RedPilledRoaster · 2018-05-06T15:12:42+00:00

Women to not need to cum to reproduce. Therefore, it does not fucking matter. Women do not give a shit. Use them, they love it.

Title	Can't make her cum from vaginal sex, breaking my frame
Author	tayowsp
Upvotes	10
Comments	23
Date	May 6, 2018 9:02 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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