What are some of you MRA's experience with dating? I often find it difficult

Lethn · 2015-10-30T13:39:52+00:00

A lot of women do think like this unfortunately but it's not entirely their fault, it's what they've been taught since they were in school. Hopefully movies like the red pill documentary will make them realise they're not as oppressed as they like to think.

I think it's just a matter of them being pretty damn ignorant and never having their views challenged.

hatebosses · 2015-10-30T18:51:23+00:00

The prettier ones see it as a challenge. They also end up very angry at the end because I won't be tamed. Mostly guys just need to get laid by a dozen girls, then they'll quit worrying about finding someone and start focusing on more important things like a solid career.

I wish prostitution were legal. Then the horny teenagers could wear themselves out and move on to more important things quickly. Would have saved me a decade, shit ton of heartache/headache, and a boat load of money...

pnw_diver · 2015-10-30T17:59:15+00:00

It's really not a problem. Women are happily brainwashed. Nod and smile, and say nothing when the topic comes up. Any western woman who is claiming to be oppressed or something is pretty clueless on the topic, and its not going to be positive or even useful to speak with her on these matters. People who have a sexual relationship with each other don't have to agree with each other on everything, and for that matter, don't have to know each others' views on every subject.

(If she is a loud harpy feminist, why do you care to be around her, anyway?)

2015-10-30T14:10:41+00:00

Don't go bareback until you know for sure she isn't a feminist.

2015-10-30T15:04:54+00:00

I do not date at all. I avoid all contact with women unless my job requires it and even then the interaction is bare minimum. Women are a liability to my life as far as I am concerned.

xNOM · 2015-10-30T23:43:33+00:00

Been dating this girl for a bit and finally the whole "sexism" convo came up. I wouldn't say she was a "feminist" per say, but she made it clear women in America are oppressed and that they're "getting there"

This is an emo fishing expedition / shit test. Never answer this crap. Only discuss specific issues. Then torpedo her trial balloons one by one with verifiable data.

alrun · 2015-10-31T11:55:18+00:00

Just like rape activists find it hard to find a guy

Could be the background and the approach of the topic.

solaria_mra · 2015-10-31T15:47:03+00:00

I'm a pretty liberal guy, so I've just accepted that dating-wise, I'm going to attract a lot of feminists.

What I try to do is a) not get too attached to anyone until after it comes out that I'm an anti-feminist, b) if I get the sense that she'll dump me for finding out that I'm an anti-feminist, make sure I've gotten her into bed before any gender-related conversations come up (sorry if that seems cynical or sexist, but sometimes you just gotta look out for number one), and c) broach the subject carefully. Don't use the term MRA (not right away anyways), and just use broad generalities like "I absolutely believe in gender equality, but I just feel that feminism has become too corrupt and unworkable to be an appropriate vessel for it". When I do that, then take it single issue-by-single issue, I rarely get much disagreement.

tadashinae · 2015-11-02T07:02:14+00:00

Blame society for circumstances = poor character = not dating material. Simple as that.

That one goes for both genders as well, and are not limited to gender issues. If you did not do your work, but instead blame circumstances (rather than admit you're lazy), then its YOU and not society!

bertreapot · 2015-10-30T18:03:30+00:00

That's tough. When I was a younger guy I was a bit more "smile and nod" when it came to women complaining about their issues, like I'd generally sympathize but I wasn't drinking the kool-aid. Then I got involved with a couple of pretty mental and destructive women in a row and it woke me up to things. A lot (most?) of women today are definitely conditioned to see men as the great evil, and they won't hesitate to use the power they have (the police, ruin your reputation at work and with your friends, etc.) to try to destroy you if they feel wronged.

On the other hand, it's not like there aren't decent and sane women out there. IMO a lot of younger women especially see the batshit crazies lashing out at men and don't want to be a part of it.

Dating might be difficult, but luckily there is a litmus test that will expose a women's true colors early on. As in the OP's example, if the woman claims to be "oppressed" just by the sake of being a woman in America, you know to move on. The same if she has any narcissistic tendencies, where she claims some really minor or normal behavior from a guy was abuse, or if she brags about destroying some dude. You know to stay the fuck away.

Title	What are some of you MRA's experience with dating? I often find it difficult
Author	Deathtothejuice
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Date	October 30, 2015 1:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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