Three simple rules for giving compliments without causing offence

ay_ch · 2015-09-11T08:11:11+00:00

I never pay women compliments in the workplace.

I'm strictly all-business with them, like Joe Friday on Dragnet. Maybe I come-off as a cold SOB, but that's a small price to pay for self-preservation. So far, it's worked pretty well.

In fact, maybe this will get me branded as a nutter, but I have a policy of never riding in an elevator with a female co-worker. If I'm on an elevator by myself and the car stops and a female co-worker gets on, I will get-off and take the stairs instead.

Arby01 · 2015-09-11T17:27:27+00:00

her advice at the end wasn't really horrible but:

But from someone who has always treated you as an intellectual equal, isn’t visibly panting or staring down your cleavage and generally isn’t a jerk? I reckon we can all live with that.

Isn't that entirely in the mind of the person receiving the compliment? Essentially, she is saying "compliments are ok if the person finds you acceptable". Which is unknowable for many cases.

equiposeur · 2015-09-11T13:23:56+00:00

Safer to keep your mouth shut than buy into the modern equation: (1) man says something, (2) woman decides whether he is an offensive scumbag that all society should shun, (3) anyone who questions her conclusion is automatically also deemed a scumbag.

It amazes me how women act like receiving frequent admiration is ENTIRELY a bad thing. Oh, I get it that could be oppressive and frustrating when your attractiveness gets noticed in contexts you would prefer it weren't, but I wish women understood what it feels like to be deprived of such validation, the way men are.

thrway_1000 · 2015-09-11T08:21:24+00:00

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Title	Three simple rules for giving compliments without causing offence
Author	jimrosenz
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	September 11, 2015 7:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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