I've heard this claim before that if you work hard, build value, study, get a well paying job, etc, experienced it even (maybe--but now I'm getting doubts) -- but I don't understand it. Let me present a few examples from my life on why I think it doesn't work (but then maybe it does -- I'm so confused with this seduction thing because nothing for me is working).
In Elementary school, I was a trouble maker (getting into fights, getting in trouble with teachers, etc) but I had a girl attracted to me. She'd walk from school with me, she'd come to my house to play soccer, etc. I accidentally rejected her from in experience.
In high school I was a scrawny, nerdy kid. I wore (and still wear) glasses. In classes I would be the annoying "know it all" who would answer the teachers questions. I was bullied and bigger kids tried to beat me up. But I fought back -- viciously (I gave a kid bigger than me a nose bleed and got suspended from school lol). But for some reason, I think some popular girls were attracted to me, because by nature of my nerdiness. I'd be working in a group of girls, and they wouldn't know how to do something so I'd confidently answer the question and if they argued I maintained the frame that I was right, and they were wrong. Eventually, the girls would ask me questions and would take my word as gospel -- be I right or wrong. I felt ashamed back then if a girl did something better than me, felt annoyance if they argued, and DEEP down I knew that showing hesitation in my reaction was wrong. I also was put beside this fairly hot girl in a seating arrangement (our class had seating assigned by the teacher), and we'd work together for the whole semester. I did the same things as above, and eventually, I'd move seats to get a better view and this girl would follow me around everywhere in class, brush her arm against mine, keep her leg against mine, etc. I was young then and didn't act on it.
When I got to first year University I was the same way, (answering all questions in class) but I dressed like shit and had no muscle. I was scrawny and had bad posture from sitting all day. I never went out, or did little with friends, prefering to stay at home and study or play video games. I ended up getting my first 'girlfriend' -- I ended up dumping her because she wasn't putting out. We fooled around more than once, and she liked it, but it ultimately wasn't satisfying for me.
When I was in second year of University, I got this passion for getting into medical school, so all I did was study all day 16 hrs/7 days a week, NON STOP. All I could talk about was medical school -- I felt a burning desire, a burning passion inside me for this yet no girls were attracted to me and I didn't get a girlfriend or any girls attracted to me.
Finally, in third year I started working out and have been working out since. I'm not big but I look fit and am slowly trying to figure out how to get big -- but its going slow (I'm an ectomorph in body type). Shortly thereafter I discovered the Red Pill and the pickup community and I thought it was the answer to all my problems with girls -- I started doing approaches and have done about 1500-2000 in a year still no lays.
Clearly something is off, and I don't know what. Also, I've heard this before, but I'm torn between the dark triad traits that Heartiste talks about and working exclusively on inner game. I don't buy the inner game/building value stuff 100% because I know of rich guys (doctors, lawyers, bankers, etc) who have ugly wives or can't get laid.....Can someone explain this to me?
Finally, I can't reconcile the fact that guys who are scrawny/don't work out/who have no passion getting laid. I had passion, yet nothing happened for me.
I was reading this post on this subreddit about women throwing themselves at a doctor, because he was a doctor, but what about Game?
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