Crosspost "Great personality but not physically attracted" from /r/CatholicDating:

I met a guy through Catholic match; he’s 9 years older and we have met twice, albeit with a slow pace: 3 weeks between first and second date.

We’re both not young, mid 30s and mid 40s. Firstly, my dating age range is -3 to +6 years difference, but since our initial exchanges were good, I decided to be open. He’s a God-fearing, devout gentleman with a great personality, treated me well, conversation was easy and I really enjoyed our dates, but I’m not sure if physical attraction is there on my part.

I think I’ve responded to him reasonably well but he could read my hesitancy. So I would completely understand, if he chooses another woman who’s more enthusiastic about seeing him.

I’ve started to grow fond of him, and I reckon I could slowly overcome the age difference and physical non-attraction.

(If he continues to pursue) would it be wise to continue, or does he deserve a partner who’s not hesitant and finding him fully attractive? Do you have any relationship experience where one is not so physically attracted to the other, and did it work in the end? How important is physical attraction anyway?

Posted by random_cherries | 10 February 2023 | Link