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Which is better? Being a woman's first, or being the guy that she overly pursued?

RatDontPanic · 2023-08-11T18:24:53+00:00

Just wondering. Speaking as one married to an example of the latter I know my answer is the latter, lol! Edit: misspelling. I meant overTly, not overly....

RatDontPanic

August 11, 2023

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Title	Which is better? Being a woman's first, or being the guy that she overly pursued?
Author	RatDontPanic
Upvotes	5
Comments	77
Date	August 11, 2023 6:24 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/AllPillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/AllPillDebate/comments/15ogiu5/which_is_better_being_a_womans_first_or_being_the/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/AllPillDebate/which-is-better-being-a-womans-first-or-being-the.1228113 https://theredarchive.com/post/1228113

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These are all US based studies. The amount of people who believe divorce is always wrong or mostly wrong in the conservative Christian church is actually not that high. This is why virginity comes ahead of a variable like religion. That obviously wouldn’t hold in very conservative countries, but the West does not fall in that.

Not sure where you got the second paragraph from, all of those are fine? I only care about virginity. Most of the other “red flags” are a cope by men who are trying to rationalize their comfort left with higher N women. Education level, race, poverty, the clothing she wears, tattoos/piercings, family background, etc. is all meaningless and means nothing outside of your own personal preference. Those aren’t “red flags”.

It matters to men as well. Plenty of guys decades later will talk about the sex they had with the crazy hot girl but then settled with the plain Jane. They enjoyed and still think about the sex, even if the personality of the woman sucked. It is just that women tend to be attracted towards men with experience (Chad) and that’s why even the term “incel” is used as an insult. So nobody actively encourages men to be virgins or have sexual restraint because even though it makes them a better person and better husband/partner in the long term, it’s largely sexually unattractive to women.

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