Boys can be all these things, too

I'd point out that even if feminism isn't the cause of bullying, it seems these factors are vastly under-recognised as things which shape men's behaviour.

We're so focussed on women being victims, and what women need to be protected from, and what we need to do to help women. We're so sure that men are tough brutish animals that can't ever be hurt. But those of us who did grow up sensitive and bullied, we're not recognised as existing at all, we just keep hearing that more men should be like we are or were, back when we got bullied, yet we keep being ignored or told that we're lying about who we are.

We hear all this "men must be better, men must be in touch with their emotions, men need to talk more" and so on - some of us were that, as children, and got it beaten out of us, or had to essentially go inside ourselves because nobody else cared. So how does it sound to hear that this is what we should be? Disingenuous. Two-faced. Lies.

Because we were all of those things, 5, 10, 20, 40 years ago, and it didn't seem to get us anything but grief or being socially unpersoned. Which suggests that what we're being told we should be is likely to make men more vulnerable for no actual gain. As boys we were taken advantage of, made fun of, insulted, abused, beaten, by boys and girls. I know, I was there, I experienced it first hand. We must be aggressive to succeed, or indeed to survive, or else we live lives of solitude and pain.

Although I dislike those who are "alpha males" and aggressive with it, and think those of us less aggressive would benefit from less of that happening, I find it very difficult to believe that these demands on what men should be, or how we should behave, are actually going to help us (or women, for that matter, if we're still rejected as being "too weak"). Those aggressive men and manipulative women will still exist, they'll just have more soft targets to attack, and those of us being soft men will just continue to experience being abused.